All of you probably heard about toxic relationships. They are the worst thing that can happen to a couple and I admit that it can be very nasty to find an exit from one. They are very destructive and painful and they leave deep scars on a partner who has been a victim in a relationship like that.
But once people decide to break free from that toxic relationship, it is very hard to move on. Here are 5 ways on how to move on from a toxic relationship, so if you are struggling to leave one, I suggest you read further.
1. Accept that you had a toxic relationship
Accepting that you had a toxic relationship is not easy at all. Every individual who has suffered from this knows what I am talking about. They have to go through certain stages of a relationship being toxic and accept it like that. They should understand that moving forward is the only option they have. Once they go through a rollercoaster of emotions, they can finally feel free and start a new chapter of their lives.
2. A toxic person will remain toxic
You know that your relationship with your ex was everything but healthy. Day to day, you remember all the bad things he did to you and the way he was keeping you around so he that he could control you. No matter whether you are still dating or you left a man like that, you should know that he will never change. Even if he sees that you are suffering with him, he will never let you go. If you show him just a little bit of trust and love, he will take you for granted and in the end you will end up in tears. Toxic relationships are not just bad because victims are abused physically, but also because they are abused mentally. Just imagine a girl who has been a victim of emotional abuse for years. She doesn’t have any self-esteem, she isn’t in control without her toxic man and she is lost in this world. Even if she breaks free, she will have a lifetime of scars. So, never trust a toxic guy when he says that he will change. A leopard can’t change its spots.
3. You should separate love from fear
When you are dealing with a toxic man, you should separate love and fear. Sometimes you will think that in the end there is still some hope for the two of you but deep down you will know that he will never change. So, why are you still staying with him? It’s because of fear. You got used to that way of life and somehow you think that you are way too broken for someone else to love you. In the end, you chose a life that was not good for you, with a man who was everything but a loved one. If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, run as fast as you can. Don’t forget that you are worthy, beautiful and more than enough just the way you are. And a real man will know to recognize that!
4. Remember who you are
Once you are stuck in a toxic relationship, you change, no matter whether you want to or not. Some people totally lose themselves due to a toxic partner. They cut off all the relationships with their friends and family because their toxic partner brainwashed them, convincing them that they didn’t need anyone but him. I know that it is difficult to stay who you are but if you take care of yourself and your needs, you should do only the things that you like. Don’t listen to the toxic man sitting next to you. He just wants to control you so that you obey all his rules. Remember that you are a human being and no matter how much he says he loves, you he doesn’t have any right to control you whatsoever.
5. Fill your life with positivity
Once you break free from a toxic relationship, you can finally do whatever you want. There is nobody controlling you or telling you what to do. This is the right moment to save yourself from depression. Surround yourself with positive people and things and try to forget your bad past. Maybe all that happened to make you even stronger and now you won’t settle for less than you deserve. You have every right to finally be happy, so don’t hesitate to do things that make you feel like that. In fact, you were supposed to be happy your whole life but you just had to learn a life lesson in a tough way. But don’t worry, there is always sunshine after rain. So, enjoy the rest of your life with people who truly love you and never settle for less than you deserve.