The saying ‘no pain no gain’ is really perfect for this situation.
You can love each other to the moon and back but if you don’t work on your relationship non-stop, it will fail and you don’t want that.
Sadly, love alone is not always enough to make your relationship long-term. Sometimes you need hacks and tricks which will keep it alive, things that will keep it interesting.
It’s easy to be stuck in a rut and when people feel that way, they become depressed and disappointed.
After that stage passes, resentment and anger come along. You start literally hating the person you’re with because nothing is going on in your relationship.
Everything is the same and you can’t handle it anymore.
To prevent this from happening, you have to get your act together and fight for the person you love.
Follow these essential rules and your relationship will last for so much longer than it usually would.
1. Admit that you are wrong
You’re in this together and there is no point in being selfish and not admitting when you made a mistake because in that way you’re only doing wrong to yourself and your relationship.
You’re not going to accomplish anything if you keep acting like you can’t make a mistake.
Be a responsible person and stand behind whatever you did. Your partner will respect you more and you will encourage him to do the same.
2. Sweep him off his feet
If you are in a relationship, it doesn’t have to mean that you don’t have to care about the way you look anymore.
Keep nurturing your body, firstly for yourself and then because of your partner. Make him want you every time he sees you.
If you keep trying he will never look elsewhere to feel loved and appreciated.
3. Find a place you both like
It will be your special place. It can be anything. It can be your couch, it can be some grass in a park under a tree or it can be a coffee shop down your street.
Just find something that is yours, where you enjoy life and feel like you’re on top of the world.
You go there when you want to relax and feel each other.
It’s a place that’s perfect for some peace and quiet that you both need to gather your thoughts and enjoy each other’s company.
4. Spend all the important dates together
You’re like a family now and you should start celebrating special holidays together.
Don’t ignore your families but if you can, take your partner to your parents’ house for lunch or if you can’t then devote at least some of your time to him on such a day so he doesn’t feel left out.
He should do the same for you. Not to mention anniversaries, those are your special days and you should always be together, if that’s possible.
5. Plan dates
It’s like you just met. You deserve to go out for dinner or to the movies.
Your relationship deserves a bit of pampering now and then just to remind you that you chose to be together and why you decided to spend all that time together.
People sometimes forget how they ended up in a relationship and why.
So it won’t hurt to remind yourself of the times when you just started and enjoyed the honeymoon phase in total infatuation because after some time, that slowly fades away.
6. Find a common interest
Find a hobby, something that will become a ritual.
Something that you both enjoy and do every day, like going for a walk, to the gym, or reading the news over a cup of coffee in the morning.
These things are important to maintain because it makes you closer to each other. A lot of couples distance themselves because the two of them have their own things to do.
They have to go to work, meet with friends and so on, so it’s not strange that you somehow can part ways if you don’t find things you can enjoy doing together.
7. Speak your mind
If you feel like you have to say something, say it right away.
Don’t hold it in because it will bother you and after some time you won’t be able to be quiet and the only thing you’re going to achieve is to release all the anger that was growing inside you by resenting your partner for something he did.
And you could just say it right away and sort it out. Otherwise you’re only going to fight more.
8. Never let romance die
It’s important in every relationship to keep showing your partner how much you care about them.
Step it up a notch and plan a romantic candlelit date with him. Take him for a walk under the stars.
Show him that you love him and that you’re never going to give up on the two of you.