Let’s face it—we all want love that lasts. But, nowadays, having a committed, labeled relationship is difficult enough. What seems almost impossible is for that relationship to last.
Despite the fact that having a long-term relationship is challenging, it definitely can be done with a lot of patience and hard work. Here are 8 tips which will help your relationship go a long way.
You can never expect to have a healthy relationship without real communication. And I am not only talking about everyday conversations or small talk here.
I am talking about real, meaningful communication regarding your dreams, hopes and fears.
Talk to your partner about whatever is bothering you and be receptive when he is doing the same. Just make sure to be honest in the process.
2. Get to know the other person
If you want to have a relationship that will last, you’ll have to put the effort in to really get to know the person you are with. Everything is easier when partners know each other for real.
And I don’t mean that you should just try to find out what his hobbies or interests in life are. You should put the effort in to get to know his personality and character, including the sides of him you don’t like.
This way, you’ll have an easier time dealing with him and there will be fewer surprises in the future.
3. Don’t try to change each other
Everyone is an individual person before entering a relationship. And although it is great if you and your other half are a team, this individuality should be respected and you shouldn’t change to please anyone.
This means that the two of you need to accept one another with all of your imperfections, because those flaws are a part of who you are.
The biggest mistake you can make is to try and change your partner. That will only bring unnecessary tensions to the relationship and you won’t accomplish a thing.
Of course, we all modify some things about ourself when we enter into a partnership with someone but nobody should be expected to change essential characteristics of their personality.
4. Have some time for yourself
When you love someone, you want to spend all of your free time with that person. And although that seems interesting in the beginning, this concept is not really efficient when it comes to long-term relationships.
If you want your relationship to last, both of you should always find time for yourself and you should try not to spend every second of every day together.
That will help you appreciate the time you have together more.
5. Be partners
Remember that a romantic relationship is a form of partnership, in every sense of that word. That means that you and your partner are equals and you should behave like that.
It doesn’t matter who earns more money or who is older—both of you should have the same say when it comes to your relationship and it is never acceptable for one partner to act like they are above the other person in any way.
6. Learn to fight
If you think that you’ll have a fight-free long-term relationship, you couldn’t be more mistaken. But if you really want your relationship to last, you’ll have to learn to fight.
That means that both you and your partner need to pick your battles and that you’ll both have to let go of some things from time to time.
Being selfish is something you’ll have to forget about if you want to have a long-term relationship. You and your partner are now a team and everything you do will be for the benefit of the relationship.
That means that the two of you will have to meet one another halfway and make some sacrifices from time to time if you want things to work out.
8. Be intimate
Mature couples know that intimacy is so much more than sex. And although you shouldn’t disregard sex if you want your long-lasting relationship to be successful, you should also make time for other intimate things instead of sex.
No matter how busy you get, it is important to always make time for just the two of you. Sometimes holding hands, hugging or just lying together strengthens the bond between people more than anything else.