Why is it so easy to label a woman as difficult when she doesn’t want to compromise on respect, love, and trust?

I guess it’s easier for men to pronounce a woman impossible to deal with than to actually put some effort into meeting her needs.

Yeah, I get why you do that, but I won’t accept it. I’m not willing to forget who I am just so you can tell me how easygoing and cute you find me. Nope.

Whenever a girl has self-respect and knows just what she wants to feel loved, taken care of, and safe she mysteriously gets called a crazy, needy woman who downright exploits her man.

Are you not used to dealing with a woman who knows she’s good enough and doesn’t question herself just because you decided that you’re the most important person in the relationship?

I guess you’re not. 

There was a time when I actually thought that I might be asking for too much from my boyfriend. Luckily, I’ve realized just how little sense that makes.

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I’m not asking you to give anything I’m not already giving you. I only ask for us to be partners, equal in how much we respect each other and care for one another. I want my effort to be reciprocated.

You chose to ignore my needs so you can fulfill yours and that doesn’t mean I’m being difficult or selfish, it means I’m being disrespected.

I know you were hoping for me to be insecure enough to let you control our relationship and make you the king of my castle.

Unfortunately for you, I’m perfectly aware of how much value I have and I demand to be treated with as much respect and love as I treat you.

I’m not okay with you paying attention to me only when you feel like it. I want to constantly feel like you’re there for me and I’m not settling for anything less than that.

That doesn’t mean that I won’t give you time, freedom, or space for your individuality. It doesn’t mean that you have to be at my beck and call 24/7.

It only means that you have to give me the respect that I deserve – the same kind you want me to give you and that I do give happily every day.

I’m tired of being called nagging and demanding just because I have to remind you of the right way for you to show me you love me.

You should know that on your own. You should appreciate that I’m willing to give you time to learn and change.

It seems like in any given situation when I expect you to up your game and show me how caring you can be you find a way to disappoint me.

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Sure enough, a woman shouldn’t say anything, not even then, unless she wants to be called difficult.

A good girl is expected to settle for mediocre love, a mediocre relationship, and mediocre passion so she can have the privilege of being labeled as easygoing, relaxed, and mild.

Well, guess what? I don’t care what you call me, because what you call me only speaks of who you are and what your shallow expectations of me are.

You don’t get to guilt-trip me into thinking that I should abandon my rights, my needs, and my wants.

Things don’t work that way. If you want to have a woman in your life who’ll give you everything. you need to learn to treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

Ultimately, what do you even want? Do you want to have a great woman in your life? 

I’m right here. The thing is, you won’t keep me by trying to lower my standards instead of simply putting more effort into our relationship.

I won’t have you trying to bring me down just so you can feel better about yourself. You’re not being strong or clever by doing that, you’re just being annoyingly insensitive and demeaning.

I need love, devotion, admiration, and respect and if that’s just too much for you to give, I have a label for you and it says you’re ’a low effort man who doesn’t have what it takes to love me’.

I’ll always keep my head high, no matter how difficult you think that makes me.

I’m Not Difficult, You’re Just Disrespectful