It’s hard to be honest with yourself when your emotions are running wild. You hear what you want to hear. You notice the signs he is into you even if they are not really there. You do everything to convince yourself that he cares. Maybe it’s a bit less than you do, but still there are some feelings there.
But there aren’t any, not genuine feelings at least. He might like you. He might drop by when it’s convenient. He might give you crumbs but he will never be all in.
It’s simple really, and we shouldn’t complicate things. If a man wants you, he will pursue you. If he doesn’t, he might be living across the street, and he would still find excuses not to see you.
The desire to pursue is incorporated into a man’s DNA. He will go after the one he wants, and he will do the impossible to be by her side. If he doesn’t, he is not interested in having a real and committed relationship.
It’s just that it’s so hard to be aware of that sometimes. Not just because you are so in love that you can’t see clearly but because most men want something, but they don’t want everything.
So they string you along. They serve you lies, and they know all the right words to say that will make you stay by their sides. They will give you enough to hold on but never enough to know that their hearts are only yours.
He will have his charming days. Days in which you’ll be sure he’s totally into you. Then he will flip the story upside down. He will forget to text you, sometimes even for days. He will come by when it’s convenient. He will get mad without a reason.
And you will feel confused by it all. You will have a million questions running through your head. You will try to get to the bottom of things. You will question yourself and even start to think that it was something you have done.
Stop! He’s not worth it. He’s not worth your time. He’s not worth the chase.
There’s no point in going after someone who always has one foot out of the door. There’s no happiness with a man who is not one hundred percent sure about his feelings for you.
Don’t be a woman who waits for his text as if her life depended on it. Don’t let him come in and out of your life as he pleases. Don’t let him treat you like a doormat. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
Your feelings aren’t toys he can play with. Your mind isn’t something that he should mess with. Your body isn’t at his disposal. Don’t let him think that for a second.
Be a woman who knows her worth. Be confident. Be brave. Be independent. Take your life and your happiness into your own hands.
Never allow a man to waste your time. Don’t wait for him to change. He never will. Be the one who doesn’t measure her value by her relationship status. Be the one who knows that being single is always better than putting up with a crappy relationship.
Don’t deny yourself the right to be with someone who can give you that old-fashioned type of love the one in which a man courts you and stops at nothing until he makes you his.
No, this way of thinking is not a fairy tale. It’s true, and it exists. It’s just that you don’t see it because of the all wrong men that surround you.
Wait for the love story in which a man shows you he is into you. The one in which he plans ahead. The one in which he remembers to text. The one in which he finds the time. The one in which he shows you how important you are. The one in which he pursues you.
That’s not too much to ask. You deserve a real love story with a man who is devoted to you.
You deserve someone who will respect you and be there for you at all times. You deserve someone who accepts your flaws and doesn’t rub your nose in them every time he feels like it.
You deserve someone to lean on, a man who will be your greatest supporter and inspire you to do great things. You deserve the love that makes you feel safe. You deserve the real thing, not something fake and temporary.
Don’t put up with mixed signals and low efforts. You should be his priority, not an option. You should be his destination, not a stop along the way. Remember that, and don’t fall for his lame excuses.
Rest assured that the man you are supposed to end up with will pursue you. He won’t complicate things and make your life a living hell. He will show you that love is never forced. It always flows naturally from his heart to yours, and back over and over again.