When you love a narcissist, you never see him for who he really is, even though deep down you’re perfectly aware of his flaws and toxic personality.
Your feelings prevent you from truly accepting that this guy is an evil sociopath who can never give you back the love he’s been getting from you, that he is manipulating you and everyone around him and that he won’t hesitate to hurt you.
Instead, you perceive him as a troubled young boy who needs you to help him, as someone who has the potential of becoming better and as a vulnerable human being who isn’t that bad under the surface.
So, you don’t walk away from him, despite knowing you should and despite everything he’s doing.
You don’t do it because you think you’re the only one who can give him a helping hand and the only one who has the capacity to see underneath the layers of his toxicity.
You don’t run for your life even when you see that he’s started destroying you and even when you get scared that he’ll drag you to the bottom together with him.
You don’t turn your back on this man because for you, that would mean betraying him, abandoning him and leaving him hanging.
However, you have to do something, right? You can’t just sit there and watch his narcissism damage both of you to the point of no repair.
So you put all of your efforts into trying to cure him. After all, who would be better for the job than you?
You try hard to make him forget his old ways and force him to become a better, healthier person.
You believe in him and all you want to do is help him heal.
Well, let me tell you one thing you probably don’t want to hear: You will fail! It doesn’t matter how much you love him or how much you think he loves you back—you will not succeed.
Let that sink in and try to accept it because it is the only truth.
You don’t have to believe me but I can assure you that sooner or later, you’ll see everything for yourself and you’ll remember my harsh words.
You see, a narcissist will never become different—at least not under someone else’s influence.
This man needs professional help and you’re not the one who can give it to him.
Yes, he might be cooperating right now. He might act like he is asking for your guidance but that is only temporary.
Trust me when I tell you that he has no intention of changing his true colors.
In fact, he is thrilled because he sees how much effort you’re putting in with him and that helps him feel important.
However, once he gets tired of your attempts to make him better and once he realizes you see right through him, he will just switch to someone new.
He will move on to another girl he can fool and play with–to a girl who doesn’t know him like you do and to a girl who will believe his lies and deceptions.
Because narcissists never change their personality—they just change their victims.
Besides, you’re not the first girl he tried to crush, not the first girl who tried to help him and not the first girl who will fail in doing so.
And I can assure you that you won’t be the last one either.
As much as it hurts, you simply have to come to terms with the fact that this man doesn’t give a damn about you.
It is not because of something you did or because you didn’t try enough—he doesn’t care about anyone in this world except himself.
He is not looking for a compatible life partner—he is in the constant search for a suitable victim and as long as he considers you to be that, he will remain by your side.
However, as soon as he notices that you can’t satisfy his sick impulses and as soon as he notices that he has lost control over you, he will move on to someone else.
I hate to break it to you but you’re not special to this maniac and he won’t appreciate your sacrifices and attempts to help him.
Instead, he will dump you the same way he did to a bunch of girls before you.