The energy you spend holding onto relationships that are only holding you back in life is stopping you from living your life to your fullest potential.
2019 is the year when you owe it to yourself to fall in love with yourself first, before focusing on falling love with someone else. And a big contributor to that will be cutting off all the people who are not making you happy.
There is so much love out there, and so much potential, and you are lucky to be able to experience it all. Because if you hadn’t broken it off with your ex, you wouldn’t be able to experience all the magic 2019 has in store for you.
All these magical new things start with you! You have to decide what is best for yourself, and not give a shit what anyone has to say about it. Decide to make yourself a priority, and then finding someone who deserves you will come easily.
Here are types of relationships that you most definitely need to say goodbye to in 2019!
1. Almost relationships
Screw that. You are way too good for somebody to give you only half of his love and half of his life. A person who is not willing or capable of giving you his whole heart is not someone you should take with you to 2019!
Someone who is afraid of commitment and afraid of telling you and others what you mean to him should be crossed off your list right this moment. You deserve a person who will scream from the rooftops how much he loves you and not give a shit what anyone will think!
Never settle for someone who cannot feel as deeply as you, love as profoundly as you and who is perpetually scared of getting serious. That is an immature boy who you do not need in your life.
Cut that shit loose and go look for your equal.
2. Excuses, excuses
He’s scared. He’s broken. He’s had it rough in life. His last breakup took a real toll on him. He’s just not ready right now… we get it, and we’re sick of it!
Who says you haven’t been through a lot? Who says your last relationship wasn’t hellish and who says you come from a peachy background? But the difference is you would never use it as an excuse to treat someone like shit!
We’ve all been through our own crap, and we all deal with it our own way. But using it as an excuse to treat a girl poorly and constantly string her along under false pretenses is a dick move!
Don’t fall for that type of a man. Because when you find one who truly wants to be with you, he will make it work! No excuses will be needed. He will love you too much to gamble you away.
3. One foot out the door
Many people just don’t appreciate what they have until they lose it! And that is why they always keep one foot out the door, expecting something better to come and wasting your precious time in the process!
If you feel like he isn’t giving you all of him and that you come second, set him free. If you feel he isn’t in this with you 100%, stop wasting your time. That guy will never be happy with just one woman. He will always be half present and the other half will be on the lookout for something better.
Those guys are assholes who can’t be tamed, and you have no business with them. They are only projecting their own insecurities and shortcomings on you, and frankly, you don’t need that shit in your life.
4. Selfish relationships
We all have a tendency to fall for those bad boys and are enchanted by their mysterious character and gloomy personality. We just want to get to the bottom of their unusual, alluring behavior.
When the truth is, those guys are just manipulative narcissists. They make you feel bad for having emotions and needs because their shit is somehow more important. They are oh so deep and troubled, and you always have to bend over backward for them.
Stop giving in to his crappy excuses for treating you like you’re worthless. Recognize this pattern of behavior, and read between the lines.
He’s sucking the energy out of you and fueling his ego in the process. Do not let him. Let this guy go, and save your soul before he sucks you dry.
You deserve so much better in 2019, so make it a point to stop dating these douchebags, and find yourself a good guy with a kind heart. He will make it feel as easy as a summer breeze.
Hello everybody! I’m Tara. I have a major in English language and literature, and in my free time i love to sing and write. Kindness is my favorite quality in people. I am all about female empowerment and I’m inspired by all the strong women who have had it rough but managed to stick up for themselves. I love my family and friends, and value them above anyone else. I hope you will enjoy my work, as I hope to inspire all the women out there, with my stories that mostly come from personal experience and of those close to me.