As a very visual person, I used to have a thing for hunky guys, but it changed over time. Not that I’ll miss noticing a handsome man on the street, but now I choose a good personality rather than good looks. If Mr Great Personality happens to be handsome too – it’s a jackpot!
It took me a long time to start valuing real qualities in men and looking for those who are just fine, kinda average in terms of looks, but with their own unique charm.
I know dating can be tricky, and you must kiss many frogs along the way. I know it can be frustrating too, and you keep wondering, “Why does it take me such a long time to find the right person?”. Well, maybe you keep making bad choices.
Maybe you have unrealistic expectations, and that’s why it’s hard to get what you want.
But have you ever thought of…
What is it like for attractive people?
We often assume that being good-looking guarantees an easy dating life filled with endless possibilities and effortless connections. Good-looking men and women can get whoever they want and finding love for them is easier than for the rest of us.
But the reality is far more different.
Stunning men and women face their own unique dating challenges which can make finding genuine, lasting relationships surprisingly difficult.
They often struggle with being perceived only as a nice face – their looks overshadow their personalities. Sometimes, it’s hard for them to be taken seriously or for others to recognize their deeper qualities and interests.
When discussing handsome men, we always come to good old stereotypes.
It’s often believed good looks in men come with certain traits such as charisma, confidence, and even a playboy persona. All this puts them under pressure and creates high expectations for them to meet these ideals.
“Here’s the truth about dating as a handsome guy”
A TikToker, Austin Dunham, shared some insights on dating as a handsome guy…
I couldn’t resist being sarcastic and thought Poor handsome men! Life is so hard, even for them!
But let’s get real and see what he has to say:
“Most guys think whenever you increase your looks your attraction is, women are just gonna fly to you and in some cases that can be true, but it’s mostly gonna be a particular type of woman, not the ones you’re thinking about.
I actually have a theory that if you’re a man you’re gonna attract women in mostly one or two points below your current looks threshold or at least your perceived looks threshold.”
So, he claims that no matter how stunning you may be, you’ll always attract partners who are not as good-looking as you. Man, that doesn’t feel fair!
Then he explains if a man is like eight out of ten, or seven out of ten, he’ll have more “fives” or “sixes” looking for his attention. Pretty women will not even consider him, because…
“Women who are the eights, nines, and tens they’re feining after the all stars, the athletes, the celebrities, the musicians. And when you become a handsome man, you’re gonna wanna date on your same level.
However, those women are gonna be increasingly more difficult to actually communicate with, to get in touch with, because the absorbent amount of options that they have.”
He also points out that handsome men without enough money, social status, and networks have little to offer and they’ll be unable to keep the women they attract.
So, besides the look, a man has to have it all. Even to keep those women who are one or two levels below him.
“Sure, they think you’re a nice face so have a good time with you, but if you wanna get to the point where you actually wanna keep these women in your life, it’s gonna be that much more harder.
So that’s why as a man, you have to be well rounded, not just attractive but in every aspect of your life.”
I almost felt sorry for all those handsome men who can’t get what they want and have to work hard to be successful despite their attractiveness.
Then I checked the comments section:
“I consider myself a six and I get a bunch of fours and fives”
One user commented that all the above seven are overrated, so he prefers lower numbers as they’re easier to handle. Another one said it’s all about money:
Then, someone called Testorenesandwich, described himself as a “handsome dude” who doesn’t need money, and women are happy around him. A woman said good-looking men are for play but not for commitment.
This one about gingers made me burst out laughing:
So it appears that dating is not duck soup, even for attractive men.
While being handsome certainly has its advantages, it comes with high expectations, too, if they wanna keep their partner. It’s nice they’re handsome, but they must be smart and successful too, have power, contacts, and money!
Handsome men are expected to have it all.
Watch the video here: