No, true love will not knock on your door in the middle of the night and wake you up from a bad dream. True love will also not come to you when you’re unprepared or not ready to experience it.
When true love comes, chances are you will not recognize it at first. You will think that it’s just another romance that is probably bound to fail in a couple of months.
At one point, you will think of giving up on it, and that is when you will discover that all this time, this was true love.
Mysterious. Inspiring. Powerful. Transformative.
True love is all that (and more), which is why it is worth fighting and waiting for.
Don’t let your past romantic endeavors discourage you!
I’m ashamed to say how many times I’ve repeated this one sentence to myself: I will never meet the one for me; that famous unicorn man who will make me forget every single romance from my past because, all of a sudden, they will become insignificant.
I used to think that true love existed only in corny romantic movies created so people can feel a little bit better about themselves and their failed romances.
I’ve met men who were legit players, commitment-phobes, indecisive men, you name it. I’ve been taken for granted, I’ve been cheated on, and I’ve been disappointed in love .
The last three words of the previous sentence are key. How can you even be disappointed in something that you haven’t even experienced?
I’ve realized that the main reason why people lose hope in true love is that they compare it to their previous romantic endeavors.
Trust me, everything you’ve experienced so far has nothing to do with real love. Don’t allow your past romantic endeavors to influence your perspective on love.
Don’t make assumptions about something you have yet to experience. Also, I’m not saying that it will be easy.
True love is hard work, but it’s TOTALLY worth it!
I used to think about the concept of true love as something that happens abruptly, sweeps you off your feet, heals all your wounds, and restores faith in humanity.
I’ve realized that I’ve watched one too many romantic movies with “happily ever afters,” where the representation of love is anything but realistic.
Now that I can proudly say I’ve experienced (and am still experiencing) the magic of real love, I can tell you one thing: True love is not easy. It is hard work, but it’s totally worth it!
There will be times when you will think that there’s no point in pursuing it any longer. You will be challenged in so many ways that you’ll have to pinch yourself to make sure that you’re not in a poorly directed comedy movie.
You’ll go through so many ups and downs, question your beliefs, change your perspective, and so on. Do you know why?
Because true love does all that. It is both divine, challenging, and uplifting. You experience it for a reason, and that reason is beyond you.
True love is the most challenging of all
This may sound a little bit contradictory to many of you, but I assure you that this is the truth. Once you experience unconditional love with the right one for you, you will go through a series of obstacles and challenges both personally and in your relationship.
Before I tell you why, allow me to give you an example. Just think of Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice, Allie and Noah from The Notebook, or Peeta and Katniss from The Hunger Games.
Even though I said that romantic movies have nothing to do with true depictions of real love, some do (to a certain extent, of course). All of the above-mentioned movies had major plot twists, and lovers underwent lots of challenges.
Yes, it would be unrealistic to say that every single big love in the real world is extra challenging. Some of them are more challenging, while others are less. The question is: Why is that so?
There are two main reasons why such love is the most challenging of all:
Such deep connections are filled with intense emotions
True love is extremely passionate in every aspect and sense of its meaning. When you connect with another person on such a deep level, you start experiencing intense emotions.
That means even the most insignificant things can turn into raging flames. Why? Because you care too much. You feel too intensely.
True love is the most challenging of all because it’s addictive, intense, and also demanding. The more you learn about each other, the more connected you become.
It’s so easy to get addicted to this euphoric feeling of something bigger than you. Something too divine and impossible to be described with words.
The role of your soulmate is to help you grow
True love happens for a reason. There’s a reason why you met that one special person at that one period in your life. Your soulmate’s entrance into your life was not random. It happened because you’re ready to grow, and they are there to help you with that.
Your soulmate’s role is to push you to your limits, challenge your perspectives, improve your way of thinking, and help you become who you’re meant to be.
When you experience true love, you will get in touch with your true self
You will be challenged and provoked for a reason. If I had to choose the best synonym for true love, it would be EVOLVING.
Of course, love is not only about that. It consists of all those cozy moments we’ve dreamed of experiencing with our loved one such as:
Looking deeply into their eyes and knowing what they’re thinking even without asking them.
Pillow fights in the morning because someone has to get up first, and you don’t want to be that person.
Deep, meaningful conversations that will invoke Aristotle, who was hiding inside you all this time.
Long cuddling sessions, heartfelt romantic gifts, you name it…
True love is all that (and more), and that is why it is worth fighting and waiting for!
It is about YOU and THEM getting in touch with your true selves. It’s about motivating each other to do your best every day, sharing your deepest thoughts, contradicting each other, laughing together…
True love is worth fighting and waiting for because it’s the only way to experience true happiness.
If you haven’t experienced such divine love yet, let these waiting for love quotes give you a sneak peek into the complexity and beauty of true love:
“The course of true love never did run smooth.” – William Shakespeare
“You must learn to wait for the fulfillment of your visions.” – Lailah Gifty Akita
“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.” – Erica Jong
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell
“Whatever we are waiting for — peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance — it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach