Staring at an empty screen, waiting for that one text that may or may not come, is one of the absolute worst things about dating and it should be the best.
It should be the easiest part of all but it turns out it’s the most complicated one.
For some reason, we’ve all been in situations where we would look at our phone about a million times per second, hoping the screen would light up and show his name.
Our heart gets bruised and our feelings hurt when that doesn’t happen.
So if the guy you are seeing has trouble texting you back, cut him off without thinking twice about it.
I am not saying he has to text every hour of every day but checking in on you once or twice a day should be the least he can do.
You deserve so much more. Let me remind you of some other basic things a man who truly wants to be a part of your life should do:
1. Plan ahead
This is one of the most important things that separates a man who means business from a player who is just stringing you along.
You don’t need someone who will call you the last minute and drop by when he finds it convenient.
You had enough of that lousy behavior in the past.
A man who wants you in his life will make sure you spend time together, he will ask you out on dates at least a day or two ahead and not on that day or when you are already ready to go to sleep.
2. Make you feel safe
You deserve to know where you stand. You deserve to know you are the only woman in his life.
You deserve to know that he will do his best to make things work. You deserve someone who is there for you.
It’s nothing he won’t get back from you. Living in uncertainty is no way to live, so don’t settle for it.
You need to know where you guys are at and not be spending your days deciphering his mixed signals.
3. Put down his phone when you are hanging out
Well, at least for the better part of the time you spend together.
It will mean a lot to have someone who is willing to have an actual conversation.
It seems like something basic but if you look at your past relationships, there was no room for deep conversations; you talked about some superficial things when your phones allowed you.
You don’t need that again. That’s why you should value a man who puts down his phone, asks you about your day and other things that interest you and shares his own thoughts with you.
4. Be trustworthy
Without trust, your relationship is going nowhere fast. You deserve someone you can trust wholeheartedly.
You need a man with integrity, who stands behind his words and never tells you lies. You certainly don’t need a man who will constantly make you question his intentions and make you wonder about things like Why won’t he text me back?
Needless to say, you have to be someone trustworthy as well to demand this.
You need to be real with each other, no fakeness allowed, if you want a loving and committed relationship.
5. Foster a drama-free environment
You don’t need his ex meddling in your life. You don’t need him to make a fuss out of nothing.
You don’t need to be reproached for petty things.
What you need is a man who wouldn’t even think of creating unnecessary drama in your relationship or dating life, someone who is more interested in chilling with you and having fun than bringing tension into your life.
6. Create sweet, corny moments
He doesn’t need to reach for the stars and place them under your feet but he needs to sweeten your life.
He might have romance in his bones and your life might look like a movie but even if he is totally unromantic, he will get out of his comfort zone and be a total lovey-dovey if he is in love.
Watching a romantic movie while cuddling on the couch, welcoming you with a hug, giving you a pet name, making you dinner, giving you a shy compliment… something sweet and corny has to happen if he is the one for you.