Some may say that it’s easy to see if a man wants you in his life or not… However, most men are players, perfect actors who will pretend to be Mr. Right just to get what they want from you, and then they’ll dump you like you meant nothing to them.
I understand every single one of you who is struggling with these thoughts and dilemmas. I was once in your position, and similar thoughts tormented me.
That’s why I decided to share my expert knowledge with all of you and help you solve this dilemma. So, enough with the chit-chat, let’s go take a peek into the minds of men and understand what does your guy want and if he really thinks you’re the one.
If A Man Wants You In His Life, These 29 Things Will Give Him Away
Here it is, the list of obvious signs a man wants you in his life now and forever.
1. He’s honest with you from day one
Honesty is the most important foundation every healthy relationship must be built on. If partners aren’t honest with each other, they won’t be able to build trust with each other, and their relationship will never be able to prosper.
Meaning, if your man doesn’t lie to you, if you have never caught him in a lie, it’s a good sign that he wants to build a healthy, long-term relationship with you.
2. You have his absolute trust and vice versa
If he has been honest with you from the beginning, then you already trust him completely. And if he has shown you that you have earned his full trust, it’s a great sign that your relationship will succeed.
If your man truly wants you to be a part of his life, he’ll do anything to keep that trust. He won’t let you down no matter what because he won’t be willing to risk losing you.
3. He switches from using singular pronouns to using plural ones
When a guy wants you to be a constant part of his life, there will be no more ‘I’ or ‘you.’ The only acceptable pronoun will be ‘we.’
He will want to spend more time with you. He’ll want you to talk about the future. He’ll want to dream and plan your entire life ahead together. He’ll consider you his other half, the half he could not live without.
4. His words always match his actions
When a man wants you in his life, he doesn’t base your relationship solely on words. He always tries to back up those words through his actions.
He won’t only talk about his love for you. He’ll work hard to prove it to you. If you ever start doubting his feelings, that would be a failure for him that he will never be able to forgive himself for.
5. He never fails to keep his promises
If your man keeps breaking his promises, it’s a huge red flag that he doesn’t care for you. He certainly knows that it’ll hurt you, and hurting you is the last thing he would allow if he’s honestly in love with you.
On the flip side, if he always tries to keep his promises and stands behind his words, it’s a good sign that he wants you in his life. He simply doesn’t want to betray your trust, nor does he want to do something that may make you pull away.
6. He can be himself around you
When you want someone to stay by your side forever, you can’t pretend that you’re someone else or fake your personality around that person.
You know that sooner or later, your real face will come to the surface, which may drive the person you truly love away.
In other words, if your man isn’t afraid to show his true self, the best and the darkest parts of himself to you, it’s an obvious sign that you’re the one for him.
I already mentioned that if a man wants you in his life, he’ll show that he genuinely trusts you. That also means that he isn’t afraid to open up to you about everything.
He’ll talk both about good and bad things that happened to him. He’ll talk about his happiest days but also about the darkest days he has gone through. He’ll share everything with you because he wants you to be included in his life 100%.
8. He remembers everything, every tiny detail about you
When a guy cares for you deeply and wants you in his life, he’ll try to get to know you on the deepest level possible. He’ll want to know every single thing about you and try to memorize every little detail you tell him about yourself.
You’ll be surprised when he surprises you with a book you told you always wanted to read but never had the opportunity to find and buy it. He’ll amaze you when he takes you for lunch at a restaurant you told him you always went to with your family.
But, the truth is, all of those actions are actions from a man in love, a man who would do anything just to keep the woman he truly loves in his life.
9. He loves you the same despite your flaws
If a man has seen you on your best and your worst days and still chooses you despite all of it, it’s a telltale sign he honestly loves you. He chooses to keep you in his life despite all of your flaws and imperfections because he knows your true worth.
Your man is mature, and he knows that he isn’t perfect either. He knows that he can’t focus on your flaws and expects you to neglect his imperfections. Acceptance is always the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
10. He respects and values your opinion above anyone else’s
If a man wants you in his life, he’ll ask for your opinion about some important things and decisions he has to make simply because he values you.
He’ll also know that you, above everyone else, want only the best for him and that your opinion and advice will be carried by those intentions. He may not always listen to you or do as you advise him, but he’ll definitely try to respect your opinion.
11. He’s proposed taking your relationship to the next level
If he did take any steps that could lead your relationship to the next more serious level, it’s a sign he’s in your relationship for the long haul.
12. He’s made it clear that you’re a huge part of his life
Whatever he’s going through, you’re always by his side. Every time he has a problem or receives good news, you’re the first person he’ll call… Things like this are the best proof that his intentions with you are honest and serious.
He doesn’t have to repeat the words ‘I love you’ every single day because his actions speak louder than his words. He can’t imagine his life without you because your absence would leave such a void in his life that he would never be able to fill.
13. Spending time with you is always his top priority
When a guy spends every moment of his free time with you, I think it’s a more than obvious sign you’re his priority and that he wants you by his side for good.
Even when he has the busiest schedule, if you say you need him or want to see him, he’ll find a way to organize his time, or he’ll just leave it all and come see you immediately. Making your significant other your top priority is true love.
14. You have his undivided attention
If you know for sure that you’re the only girl in his life because you have his full attention, then is it really necessary to talk about it any further?
If he showers you with affection and attention, if your man enjoys your presence, it’s a clear sign that he wants you and only you in his life.
15. You know you can count on him because he’s always there for you
When a guy wants you in his life, he’ll show it by being there for you whenever you need him. He’ll want to earn your trust and make you feel protected.
He’ll want you to be able to count on him 24/7 because no matter how busy he is, he’ll always make time to be available for you.
16. He’s the one who always reaches out after a fight
I think that most relationship coaches would agree that the partner who always reaches out first after the fight is the one who cares more.
It’s completely normal that you have disagreements and arguments from time to time, but what matters is how both of you behave after the fight. If your man can go hours or maybe even days without talking to you, it’s a clear red flag he doesn’t care for you as much as you think he does.
17. He’s already made you a part of his future plans
When your guy speaks about his future plans, does he ever mention you in them? If he’s already included you in his future plans and goals, it’s a surefire sign that he wants you to be a part of his future.
By making you a part of his plans, your guy is telling you that you’re the woman he sees with himself in the future. If this isn’t an obvious sign that he wants you in his life, I don’t know what is.
18. You’ve already made some long-term plans together
Have you planned to spend vacations or holidays together? Did you ever dream about where you would like to live or what your future life would look like? Have you made any long-term plans together?
If your answer is yes to at least one of these questions, then it’s clear that your man wants to have a serious, committed relationship with you.
You don’t make long-term plans with someone you don’t already picture yourself with in the future. It would only be a waste of time, and I hope your man knows better than that.
19. He has introduced you to his best friends and family
This is a huge milestone in your relationship that is worth celebrating. When a guy decides to take this step and introduces you to his loved ones, that can only mean one thing: both his mind and his heart have voted that you’re the one.
Your man genuinely cares for you, considers you a great part of his life, and wants to share it with his loved ones. Of course, besides all of that, their opinion means a lot to him, and that’s one of the reasons he’ll want you to meet them.
If a man wants you in his life, he’ll include you in all the parts of his life. You won’t only be just a part of his love life – he’ll share all the spheres of his life with you.
If he has already introduced you to his friends and family members, his co-workers, and people he works with, and he invites you often to his private gatherings, it’s clear that he wants you to be and stay a part of his life for good.
21. A great sign: your relationship got the official approval of his loved ones
Whether we like it or not, the approval of his friends and family means a lot to a guy. Of course, this doesn’t mean that he will leave you if his loved ones don’t quite like you, but their approval is definitely a huge plus.
If your man has already told you that his friends and family speak well about you, it’s a sign that you’ve passed that test. You’re now definitely a step closer to making things official between you.
22. He’s all about the little things
The truth is, every single man out there knows that the little things mean the most to us women. Unfortunately, most of them neglect those little, seemingly unimportant things and that’s why there are so many women who aren’t satisfied and happy in their relationships.
If that’s not the case with your man, if he tries to shower you with attention and do little things for you every day, it’s a good sign he really cares for you.
Those little signs of affection aren’t only a sign that he wants you in his life, but it also shows that your man wants to make you feel happy and loved every single day. And that, in my opinion, is far more important.
23. He goes out of his way just to make you happy
When a man is genuinely interested in your well-being, he will do everything just to make you feel good, protected, and happy, it’s a clear sign he cares for you deeply and wants you to be a part of his life forever.
After all, that’s the whole point of a healthy relationship… To have someone who’ll smile with you on the good days and try to keep making you smile when the bad days come.
If you’ve found that in your man, I have to congratulate you. You’ve found yourself a true keeper.
24. He shows great interest in your interests
A healthy relationship is made when two different human beings come together, respect their differences and commit to building bridges that will bring them closer together.
That means, if your guy has different interests and hobbies but still shows genuine interest in things you like, it’s a great sign he wants you in his life.
When a guy wants you in his life, he isn’t afraid to show you off in public. He’ll go nuts with posting your photos, followed by some romantic love quotes on social media.
He’ll simply want to show the rest of the world that you’re his and will stay his woman forever. He’ll be proud of you and won’t ever fail to show it.
26. He buried all of his exes and past relationships deep in the past
If your partner still struggles with the emotional burden of his past relationship, it’s a huge red flag that his feelings aren’t clear.
He won’t be able to commit to you completely as long as he struggles with that emotional baggage. So, my relationship advice to you is that you shouldn’t get your hopes up because your man obviously doesn’t know what he wants in life.
On the other hand, if he has left all of his past relationships in the past, it’s a more than obvious sign that you’re the only woman he wants in his life. He’s too busy dreaming about his future with you to think about things that happened in the past.
27. He spoils you and makes you feel like a real queen
The kind of guy who spoils, pampers, and treats his girl like a true queen is someone who loves and wants to keep her in his life forever.
As much as it is important to make a good impression on your first date, it’s way more important to keep that impression throughout your relationship. So, if your guy still treats you the same even after the honeymoon phase ends, it’s a great sign you have a keeper.
28. He’s open to the idea of moving in together
Deciding to move in together is a big deal for every couple. It’s a huge step in their relationship, and they know that it’ll change many things.
That’s why couples don’t easily decide to take this step, which is actually a good thing. Both partners need to be a hundred percent ready for it before they make the final decision.
If your man has already made it clear that he wants to live with you, it’s a good sign that he wants a serious relationship with you. However, keep in mind that this isn’t an easy decision, and you should really think it through before deciding to actually do it.
29. He told you loud and clear that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you
He made it clear more than once that he wants to be with you for the rest of his life. He still hasn’t popped the question, but it’s clear that he’s getting there.
Okay, the first time he says those words, they may not hold weight. However, once he repeats them several times, it really makes you believe in them.
If your man manifests these signs above and tells you that you’re the only woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, you should believe him. Trust me, there isn’t a single man who can treat his woman like this while only pretending to love her.
How Do You Know If A Man Is Serious About You?
Well, I definitely don’t need to be a relationship expert to answer this because the answer is way too easy. If your man respects, values, loves, and cherishes you for who you are, it’s a sure sign he wants to build and maintain a healthy, long-term relationship with you.
He doesn’t even need to say it directly because he’ll let his actions speak for him. He won’t date. Hell, he won’t even think about the other girls because you’ll be the only one in his eyes, on his mind, and, most importantly, in his heart.
What Does It Mean When A Man Says He Wants You?
This can actually be seen from various perspectives. In most cases, it means that he wants you sexually… that he wants to make love to you.
On the other hand, it can also be interpreted as this man wanting you in his life. It may mean that he wants you to be by his side, no matter what.
Actually, it really depends on many things. If he tells you that while sexting or cuddling, it’s obvious that he means it in a sexual way. And if says those words while you’re talking about the future or your relationship in general, it’s more likely that he wants you to be a part of his life.
How Long Does It Take A Man To Know If He Wants To Be With You?
It shouldn’t take a lot of time for a man to figure out whether you’re the right one or not. The truth is, you can feel those kinds of things with every fiber of your being.
He either knows it, or he doesn’t. He either has clear and strong romantic feelings for you or not.
Of course, he has to get to know you first. But, it definitely doesn’t mean that he’ll need to spend years getting to know you to decide whether you’re the one for him or not.
How Do You Know If He Thinks You’re The One?
These clear signs above are definitely solid proof and confirmation that your man thinks you’re the one. However, if he thinks you’re the one, you won’t have to bother thinking about it because your man will show it through his actions.
You need only watch him and pay attention to how he behaves towards and around you. If he has any doubts about it, sooner or later, those doubts will come to the surface, and you’ll get your answer.
Even if he tells you that you’re the one, you should still watch his actions. Words mean nothing if they aren’t followed by actions.
The truth is, if a man wants you in his life forever, he’ll behave like this and in no other way! It’s the only way you’ll know that he’s in it with you for the long haul.
So, if your man manifests all (or at least most) of these signs, you can rest assured because you’ve found the right guy… The guy you should never let go of.