One of the worst things that you can experience is seeing your partner falling out of love with you. It is painful and humiliating at the same time.
You can’t hate or blame him but you also can’t lie to yourself because you can see that his emotions are slowly fading away.
You can see that this man is slipping right out of your hands and you think there is nothing you can do. And that is where you are wrong.
Here are some things for you to do which can help you get through this situation.
1. Give him some space
When you suspect that your partner is slowly losing interest in you, the first thing you should do is give him some space.
First of all, it is possible that he needs some time to think things through and that he has some other things on his mind besides your relationship.
I know you probably think that this is the last thing you should do but if your boyfriend shows the desire to pull away, give him that opportunity. He is subconsciously showing you that he needs some space to clear his head.
It is possible that he is going through a difficult period in his life and that he just needs some time for himself.
Besides, you want to be with someone who is 100% sure that he wants to be with you as well, so you should allow him to make that kind of decision on his own.
2. Don’t be too needy
Whenever we see that someone is trying to pull away from us, our first impulse is to become too needy and clingy.
We do it unconsciously, out of fear, thinking that it will pull them closer together. But, when you start obsessing over someone, it usually has the opposite effect and that is especially the case if this person is losing interest in you.
Being too clingy and too needy reveals your insecurities and pushes your partner even further away from you. The worst case scenario is for you to start emotionally blackmailing him or if you start playing the guilt card, reminding him of everything you did for the sake of your relationship.
Besides being pathetic, you don’t want him to be with you out of gratitude or because he feels obligated, do you? If you see that your partner doesn’t initiate contact, you can either decide that you won’t wait for him and move on with your life immediately or you can peacefully wait for him to make a final decision.
But please avoid bothering him all the time, because that won’t lead you anywhere.
3. Remind him of the good times
If you feel like your boyfriend is falling out of love with you, that means that he obviously needs to be reminded of the things that made him fall in love with you in the first place.
But instead of nagging all the time and talking to him about all the beautiful memories directly, be a little more subtle. Show him what he’ll miss if he walks away from you and show him all the reasons he fell in love with you.
Give yourself the opportunity to be seductive. Is it possible that the two of you were together for so long that you’ve started taking each other for granted and that neither of you tries to win over the other person anymore?
Well, maybe it’s time for you to change things and to start investing in your relationship once again.
4. Focus on your life
Another thing you need to do when you see that your partner is falling out of love with you is to focus on your life. If you keep yourself busy, you’ll have less time to think about him and your relationship and that will be more than beneficial for both of you.
Many women put their life on hold, as soon as they notice that their partner is losing interest, waiting for him to make a decision regarding their relationship. I know you probably lost the will for everything but this is the worst thing you can do to yourself.
You probably want to spend your days waiting for him to call or come around but why would you give so much importance to someone who maybe doesn’t care about you anymore?
Instead of doing this, devote this time to yourself. Find the things that make you happy and enjoy them. Besides feeling better about yourself, you’ll also show him that you can live without him. And when you stop making him a priority, be certain that he’ll feel it and that he will come to you first.