Oh, that feeling when you think of someone you really like. As time goes by, you fantasize about them day and night.
Even though you haven’t had any physical contact with them, you already know how it feels to be held in their arms because you’ve imagined it one too many times.
They become your main priority and focusing on anything else but them is simply impossible.
The only problem is that they don’t feel the same way about you. They barely know that you exist, or they only see you as a friend.
Or perhaps they have already told you that they don’t have feelings for you, but you still believe that things will eventually change.
When that happens, you know that you are officially obsessing over someone who isn’t obsessed with you and even though you’re aware of it (somehow), you still can’t stop doing it.
What to do when you can’t stop thinking about someone who never thinks of you?
What to do when you can’t stop hoping that things will change, even though you know they won’t?
Well, in that situation there is only one thing to do and that is reminding yourself of the following 7 things!
1. Obsession is a reflection of what’s missing on the inside
The first thing to remember when you’re obsessing over someone is that obsession is actually a reflection of what’s missing on the inside.
You blindly idealize someone because you envy something that you don’t have or because of feelings of loneliness.
When you’re desperate to be in love with someone, you subconsciously start idealizing a specific person and imagining that they are your perfect partner (even if you don’t even know them yet).
That is why it is important to be aware of the fact that obsessive thoughts are happening for a reason and the reason lies within you.
2. Giving into fantasies will only make things worse
The longer you fantasize about them, the longer you’ll be in pain.
If deep down in your heart you know that you’ll never be with them or if they’ve given you signs that they are not romantically interested in you, then (no matter how harsh it sounds) it’s high time to give up and come back to reality.
Continuing fantasizing about them will only make you feel more miserable because it will be that much harder to forget them.
3. There’s a thin line between loving them and loving the idea of them
When it comes to love, our brains are capable of making us believe almost anything without any valid reason.
If you’re constantly thinking of someone, your brain will understand that you’re in love with them and you’ll feel like you really are.
But, there’s a fine line between loving someone and loving the idea of them.
Obsessing over someone usually means loving the idea of them and admiring their qualities.
I know it’s hard to accept it, but it has nothing to do with real love.
4. Obsession is a way of escapism
Fantasizing and daydreaming about someone means occupying your mind with something that pleases you.
And that’s the main reason why you often find your thoughts wandering toward the same direction.
that’s the main reason why you often find your thoughts wandering toward the same direction.
Your obsession with a specific person becomes a way of escapism from your daily routine, your job, or issues you might be going through at the moment.
It’s important to understand that it’s not real. It is more of a daily mini vacation that you have become addicted to.
5. Experiencing unrequited love doesn’t mean the problem lies in you
If you’re constantly thinking about someone and you would do anything to be with them, yet still they are not changing their minds regarding it, this doesn’t mean that the problem lies in you.
They just think you won’t be compatible, which has nothing to do with changing yourself.
Just like it is impossible for you to like everyone who likes you, the same thing goes for them, but it is harder to realize that when the roles are switched.
6. The best things in life come when you least expect it
Relaxing and going with the flow in life means decreasing levels of unnecessary stress.
Always remember that the best things in life come when you least expect it, not when you anticipate it.
If you’re determined to think about the same person for the rest of your life even though you know there will be no progress, you’ll miss some great things on the journey called life.
But, if you absorb the idea that the best things will happen when you least expect them, you’ll change your perspective and be much happier!
7. Time will heal all of your unrequited feelings
If you feel hopeless about the situation you’re in, don’t worry.
Just like everyone else in love, time will heal all of your unrequited feelings and one day you will find yourself laughing at yourself for being so silly about obsessing with someone who never was worthy of it.
With time you will learn to focus on improving yourself and find the perfect balance that will never let you get that easily obsessed again.