So you’ve been playing flirty games with someone for a while now and in this process, you’ve developed some deeper feelings for them.
It doesn’t mean you love this person but you would definitely like to give it a try with them and here is exactly how to do it effectively.
Decide what it is that you want
When you are in this kind of situation, the first thing you need to do is figure out what you really want.
Do you actually enjoy this flirting situation that won’t move on to something else and is it possible that you are the one sabotaging this potential relationship because you are happy enough with the situation the way it is?
If this is true, there is nothing wrong with it because it is possible that you subconsciously know that you are not ready for a relationship now.
But if you are certain that you want for this flirting to become something more, you need to decide what that more that you want is.
Do you want a real relationship or do you just hope for this to be a casual fling?
After you’ve figured out what it is that you want, the next step is to boost your own confidence.
You need to show that you have no doubts about what and who you want and what is even more important is that you need to show that you are not afraid to get it.
But in order for this method to be completely effective, you can’t just try to convince the other person of this—you need to believe it yourself.
It’s time to stop comparing yourself to other people and to stop being afraid or ashamed of making the first move and of trying to take this, what is going on between you two, to the next level.
I won’t lie to you—there is always the possibility that you’ll be rejected and that you’ll end up disappointed but you’ll never know what might happen until you try, will you?
Let your body language do the work
What you may not know is that our body language signs often tell other people a lot more than our actual verbal communication. So this is something you should definitely use to your advantage.
That means that you can’t just tell this person you like them—you have to show it to them first.
Make sure you are around them and use every opportunity to touch them. When you talk to this person, it’s OK to touch their hand or to sit very close to them.
Make sure to always have eye contact with them and don’t be ashamed to look them deep in their eyes. And of course, never forget to smile.
This doesn’t mean that you should always be next to this person nor that you should suffocate them, because that will make you appear as too clingy and needy.
When you want your flirting to go to the next level, you can never do it when you and the object of your affection are with a lot of people. Therefore, what you need to do is to have some one-on-one time with this person.
You can simply ask them to hang out, without describing it as a real date. If you are too embarrassed to do this directly, you can always find an excuse to spend some time with this person.
If the two of you are co-workers, you can always ask them to help you with some work stuff after work hours or something like that.
Do whatever it takes to get some alone time with this person because this is the only way for you to have an opportunity to start dating them.
When you’ve accomplished everything above, it’s time for the next and the most important step. It’s time for you to be as direct as possible, without any mixed signals or messages.
I am not saying that you should tell this person you love them or that you should make a big deal out of this, making some big romantic gestures, because that will only chase them away. You can just tell them you like them or ask them out on a date.
You can also try to kiss them when the moment is right—whatever makes your intentions obvious and clear.