Love, love, love—the feeling that makes the world spin around.
You have all felt that bitter-sweet emotion even once in a lifetime. Love is extraordinary.
It comes to your life without an invitation and once we find our soulmates, we stick to them and never want to let them go.
But the question is: Why are there so many divorced couples? What happened to them so they decided to finish it all overnight?
The answer is that couples tend to end their relationships when they become disillusioned, not actually getting that it is just a step to deeper, true love.
There are 5 stages of love and every relationship needs to go through all of them. If you find yourself in a situation like this, you can calm down, because it will pass. Just knowing this fact can save you from drowning yourself in tears while you are trying to figure out what happened.
If you face problems together and hang on, you will bring your relationship to a whole new level. And don’t forget—when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!
Stage 1: Honeymoon stage
Your guy is all that you have ever dreamed about. All the time you are acting goofy when being in his company. You think he is the man of your dreams and you are into him in the blink of an eye. In this first stage of love, everything is perfect. You don’t recognize yourself and you are doing things you were sure you wouldn’t do in your life.
You like this version of yourself and don’t want it to finish. This is called a honeymoon stage because it is all about passion and playfulness. That’s why people like it the most.
Stage 2: Things are serious now
You are in a new stage, the second one. You still feel great with your partner. You make love, go to the cinema but things are not like they were before. Your life is not about love anymore. It is about going to grocery store, paying bills, cooking and taking care of your baby.
When you make love, it is not as wild as it was before. Now, you enjoy more; everything makes more sense. The catch is that you two came out from your comfort zones and started a new journey. A life journey. This stage is called the serious zone.
Stage 3: Something has changed
Life seems so meaningless now. Your mission is the same every day. Go to work, pay bills, take care of the kids, cook and do the laundry. What happened to those kisses in the rain while the rest of the people thought you were crazy? What about saying you love him every time before hanging up the phone?
Many couples feel indifference towards their partner in this stage of a relationship. They think their partner is taking them for granted and they are sick and tired of that kind of behavior. They wonder if their life would be better if they had just stayed single. By this point, it seems like all the magic is gone.
You don’t dedicate your time to your partner anymore. You believe you two won’t make it.
Stage 4: Seeing things as they are
In this stage you can finally see things crystal clear. You finally become real people with all the pros and cons.
You acknowledge that your partner is a human being, having some flaws but you need to accept him just the way he is. The two of you can go through all the problems together and be each other’s support when needed. You have reached the stage of a real love.
Not the one based on romance and passion. Not the one forcing you to stay together because of the kids. This love is based on mutual respect and understanding.
Stage 5: The real deal
In this stage you know all about your partner and you two are trying to work as a team. By all means, try to have separate hobbies and time for your friends but don’t forget about your partner and your life together.
Love is not the easiest thing in the world and you should be aware of that. Yes, some crap will happen from time to time but if you talk it all over, there isn’t a place for hysteria and disappointment.
In the end, please bear in mind that couples who are ‘meant to be’ are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart and come out even stronger than they were before!