You believe in love and theoretically, falling in love is something you desire the most.
But, do your actions stand behind your words? Or do you keep running away from love subconsciously?
Are you the one keeping yourself from being happy? Are you actually afraid of falling in love?
Here are 6 signs that will give you an answer to these questions.
1. You hold on to the past
One of the first signs that you are scared of love and relationships is the fact that you still hold on tight to the past. You’ve had your heart broken recently and you feel like you are not ready to enter a new relationship just yet.
Although you definitely need to give yourself time to heal and you shouldn’t jump from one relationship to another, you should also do your best to look at the future.
What has happened in the past should stay there and you can never find your happiness unless you let go of all the resentment and grudges you may be feeling.
2. . You don’t trust people
If you’ve ever been hurt in the past, it is natural that you’ve lost your trust in people and especially in men. A
ll the men in your life violated your trust and you assume that every guy you meet will be the same. You’ve been cheated on and lied to, so you are extra careful whenever there is a new man on your radar.
And although being careful around new people is a good thing, it is also something that prevents you from finding true love. I know you don’t believe it now, but not all men are the same.
There will come a guy who will show you that he is worthy of your trust—you just have to give him a chance.
3. You overthink
Sometimes, one of the things that might hold you back from entering new relationships is your overthinking.
Whenever you meet a new guy, you think about all the possible outcomes of your potential relationship. You only see all the flaws and imperfections this guy has and this prevents you from giving anyone a chance.
Even if you decide to give it a try with someone, your overthinking ruins your relationship sooner or later. I know this is easier said than done, but you need to go out of your way to relax.
You can’t control everything that is going to happen and sometimes it’s best to just go with the flow.
4. You feel insecure
The men from your past have tried to manipulate and control you. But, the only thing they’ve accomplished is ruining your self-esteem. Over time, your insecurities grew and you started believing that you really are unlovable.
Therefore, you can’t believe that there exists a guy who would like you, so you keep sending new guys all the wrong signals, making them think you are unapproachable.
If this is the case with you, the first thing you need to do on is rebuild your self- esteem.
Although you don’t think this way now, a man who thinks you are worthy will come and he will show you that love is not something you should be scared of.
5. You can’t imagine yourself being with one person
Another sign that you are afraid of love is the fact that you can’t imagine yourself spending the rest of your life with one person.
It doesn’t mean that you don’t believe in monogamy—you are just scared that you’ll get tired of one guy after a while.
Let me tell you one thing—these types of fears and introspective thoughts are perfectly normal and are not something you should be ashamed of. Instead of thinking about so far off in the future, focus on the present and everything that is going on now.
It doesn’t have to mean that every relationship you get involved in will end up being a long-lasting one. So, live for the moment and see where life brings you.
6. You enjoy your personal space too much
Being single can be great if you know how to use that time right. But, if you’ve been single for a long time, it is likely that you’ve started enjoying it too much and it can be one of the signs that you are too scared to fall in love.
It’s simple—you’ve developed your own habits with time and you forgot how it feels to compromise with a partner. But, this doesn’t have to be a thing that prevents you from falling in love.
Even when you are in a relationship, it is important to set boundaries and this way, you can still have your personal space.