The main questions would be: Why doesn’t your boyfriend value you? Why doesn’t he give you the respect you deserve?
There is one simple answer— Because you let him!!!!
See also: You Deserve To Be Treated Like Sh*t
At some point, most of us have found ourselves stuck in a relationship in which you just feel like the other side isn’t giving you enough.
You feel under appreciated and ignored but you still feel attached and unable to let go of the person.
You’ve given your best but he is still acting like you are not that important in his life.
Why are we in this mess?
The most common reason we give is because we love them. And we would do anything for love.
That is the driving force behind almost every woman. Sometimes, it seems like we watched too many TV series and romantic movies and started to believe in love everlasting, no matter what.
But love isn’t true love if it isn’t reciprocated. When you are in a relationship, you have to feel that love from another person.
If you are giving your best, don’t settle for anything less.
Most of us have low self-worth. For this reason, we allow our partners to treat us poorly.
We stay in bad relationships because we are afraid we won’t find better ones. Also this brings the issue of fear of loneliness.
Low self-esteem makes us think that we are better off in a bad relationship than alone which of course is not true.
This is the deeper problem which demands constant work on our self esteem and self-love.
Women often have that martyr instinct. They endure pain and maltreatment, expecting that things will change and for the better.
They are hoping for a miracle—they are hoping that if they do something or say something next time, it will fix their relationship.
But miracles usually don’t happen in this kind of situation.
If you are spending all of your time and effort on your relationship and the other side is not doing their part, you are probably in the wrong story to begin with and the best thing is to move on.
We make excuses for them; “He didn’t have time for me because he is too busy at work.” , “He was so tired he couldn’t even send me a goodnight text ” , or even “I am so tolerant. I am such a good person that I can understand and forgive this behavior” etc.
We use all means necessary to justify bad behavior. At that moment, you have to distance yourself from emotions and ask yourself if you respect yourself enough if you stay in this relationship.
The truth is if someone respects you, he would respect your time, too. If you are able to give him time and attention, he is able to do the same for you. Everything else is just an excuse.
The good thing would be to talk openly and honestly with your partner and find out the reason why he is behaving like that and if he is aware of his behavior.
Say clearly what you want from your relationship and make sure the two of you are on the same page.
Work thoroughly on yourself and walk away if your relationship is not what you need and want.
Don’t be scared because there is always somebody better. He is not the only man in the world.
We put value on ourselves and control how somebody treats us by showing them what they can and can’t do.
Do not tolerate bad behavior and don’t settle for less than you deserve.
Ultimately, if we don’t respect ourselves, we can’t expect anybody else to respect us either.