Shut down all those voices telling you that you have to be in a relationship to be happy and complete.
Shut down all those voices telling you that you have to get married or move in with your boyfriend before 30.
Shut down all those voices telling you that your biological clock is ticking and that at some point, it will be too late to have children and create a family.
Life is not a race, and it’s not the 1970’s anymore; you don’t have to do anything.
The rule is that there are no rules or boundaries when it comes to true love, and it’s different for each and every one of us.
There is no set timeline for any of these things. Somebody finds love in high school, somebody after 30, and somebody after one or few failed marriages.
True love knocks on our doors regardlessly.
So whenever love comes into your life, welcome it. But never settle for half loves, messy relationships and toxic people.
That’s not true love. That’s not settling down with somebody you love.
That’s settling for less than you deserve. That’s settling for a life deprived of joy.
Shake off the fear that you will end up alone. Be more concerned about ending up with the wrong man.
Trust me—that’s ten times worse than ending up alone because nothing can ruin your life like the wrong man.
Once you settle for the wrong man, you are settling for constant fights and a lack of attention and affection.
You are sharing your roof with somebody who doesn’t understand you.
Once you settle for the wrong man, you are signing the papers that you accept a life in which he doesn’t give you the respect you deserve.
All he will do is take you and all the efforts you make for granted.
Once you settle for the wrong man, you are not living in the present.
You are living in a hope for a better tomorrow, a hope that someday he will change and give you the love you deserve.
Once you settle for the wrong man, you are settling for a life of waiting—waiting for him to be the man you need; waiting for something that will never be.
Don’t marry someone you are not completely, madly, passionately in love with either.
Don’t settle for someone you don’t really care for just because he is good for you or better than your ex.
Don’t settle for someone because you just celebrated a milestone birthday and you think ‘it’s time’ to put down some roots.
Settling for anything less than true love is a mistake. Where all the feelings and investments aren’t reciprocated, there is no love. There is no basis to build a life together.
There is no chance for a good marriage.
So, don’t marry someone you are ‘meh’ about because he will be wrong for you—just as a man who treats you like crap because there’s no love coming from your side.
Don’t settle for ‘good enough’. Wait for the one that is the best for you even though he might not be perfect.
Don’t settle for somebody who treats you poorly because there is a man out there who will treat you like a queen.
Don’t allow society’s expectations or your own expectations and fears to pressure you into settling for someone who isn’t made for you, someone who clearly isn’t your soulmate.
We all have this one life to live, and we should choose how we live it. We should never waste it by settling for any less than real love.
So chose the love that is reciprocated, endless, and unconditional.
Chose to be brave enough to wait for someone who brings calm and joy into your life, someone you feel safe with, someone who takes care of you and treats you with kindness even though you are more than capable of taking care of yourself.
Wait for the man and marry the man who you feel is the right one for you, and you just know that you wouldn’t want to spend the rest of your life with anybody else.
The best thing about it all is that your timing will be just right. You won’t meet him too late or too soon.
You are going to meet your soulmate just when you are supposed to.
So mute those mean voices telling you to settle, pressuring you to hurry up into getting married, screaming that you have to do something you don’t feel is right.
Because all you have to do is be happy, love and be loved, and you are never going to be if you find yourself with the wrong man.
So why wouldn’t you settle down “a bit later” if it’s with the right man?