10 maneras de lidiar con un marido infiel

The feeling of rejection, of being replaced by someone else because you are no longer enough, is devastating. It can kill your marriage, tear the two of you apart, erasing every feeling and memory that you’ve ever had together.

When a man cheats, there are two options you’re left with. One is to cierra el trato y vete y la otra es encontrar una razón para perdonarle.

Si crees que puedes encontrar la manera de superarlo, quién sabe, quizá tu matrimonio acabe siendo mejor que nunca, sobre todo si no hay otros painful signs your husband doesn’t love you anymore. Or if you think you could never forget what he has done to you, it’s better to leave, no matter how hurtful it is, and move on with your life.

¿Cómo lidiar con un marido infiel?

1. Don’t make any sudden decisions

What you’re feeling right now is rage, depression, anger… all kinds of feelings mixed together at the same time. You’re not able to think straight because you’ve been hurt.

Tal vez la razón de su engaño va más profundo, tal vez tenga algo que ver con tu matrimonio. Pero el caso es que quizá lo sienta sinceramente y se arrepienta de lo que ha hecho. Tal vez haya una manera de resolver la situación.

That’s why you have to sleep on it. Let some time pass before you decide what to do by judging from the way he acts and whether he is sorry or not.

2. Piensa en ti

Use this time, until you reach a decision, to take care of yourself. Don’t let the pain destroy you. You have to keep it together because there is an important decision before you.

Infidelity can cause you to overeat or stop eating, to have insomnia or all kinds of other disorders. Don’t let it affect your well-being.

3. Intenta averiguar la razón por la que lo hizo

Intenta llegar al fondo del asunto. Tal vez lo hizo porque simplemente quería. Tal vez es así de desconsiderado y la infidelidad es algo que le excita. En ese caso, no hay nada que puedas hacer al respecto.

But on the other hand, maybe there is something he is lacking from you. Maybe something happened to him when he was a child and he’s been traumatized and now he’s seeking approval from a random woman.

Whatever the reason is, you have to find it out to be able to decide what’s next, whether you’ll leave or give him another chance.

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4. 4. Pedir ayuda

There is nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it. Talk to your friends, the people who won’t judge you, and ask them what they think of the situation you’re in.

Or if he agrees to it (and he probably will), try couples counseling. Try talking to a professional who knows what they’re doing. Maybe they will help you find the solution which is best for the both of you.

5. Sea sincero con sus hijos

Children see everything. Even if they don’t know what is going on, they know that something is wrong. Don’t be the bad guy and shut them out. They are also a part of the family and they have a right to know what’s going on.

This way, if you tell them, you’re going to be able to talk to them and assure them that they are going to be loved the same as before and that everything will be okay, one way or another.

Cambia el enfoque en función de su edad y lo más importante es que nunca les mientas.

6. Don’t communicate with the other woman

You have nothing to say to her. It’s not your responsibility. This goes especially if he wants you to do his dirty work for him. Don’t go down that road.

He made the mess and he has to clean it up. If you do it for him, it won’t teach him responsibility and he’ll know that every time he screws things up, he’ll have you to clean up after him.

7. Se necesita tiempo para sanar y volver a confiar

If you stay with him, don’t expect everything to be normal right away. You won’t trust him for a long time. Even if he is the best husband ever, you still won’t trust him.

El tiempo tiene que pasar y tienes que hacer las paces con el hecho de que te engañó. You’ll be stressed for a long time and a lot of things you see or do will remind you of the fact that he cheated on you.

Ese es el proceso de duelo por el que tienes que pasar. Tienes que enfadarte, tienes que llorar y, al final, harás las paces con ello. Pero solo si ves que lo siente de verdad y que se arrepiente de haber hecho la estupidez más grande que podía hacer.

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8. Pros y contras

Sé práctico. Comprueba las finanzas y la situación de la vivienda. Mira a ver si tienes alguna posibilidad de dejarle, porque antes de hacerlo, asegúrate de que tienes un lugar donde vivir y dinero suficiente para ocuparte de las cosas esenciales.

9. Either learn to forgive…

You have to decide what you want. You can’t live in-between because that gets you nowhere. If you’re going to forgive him, do it.

Pero cuando lo haces, no hay vuelta atrás. No hay que quejarse ni sacar a relucir el pasado.

10. … or just leave

If you see and feel in your heart that the fact he cheated on you will always bother you, that whenever he goes out you’ll wonder if he is with another woman, then do yourself a favor and leave.

It’s better to be single and happy than casado y miserable.