¿Por qué los maridos infieles siguen casados? Las 12 razones más comunes

Cuando un cónyuge engaña a su pareja, lo más lógico y justo sería el divorcio, ¿verdad? Pues bien, hay algunos cónyuges infieles que siguen casados a pesar de haber roto sus votos sagrados.

Right after the famous question ‘Why do men cheat?’ the next question all women would like to know is… Why do cheating husbands stay married? How can they keep living with a woman they have betrayed in the worst possible way?

The fact is that those men exist, and they have their own reasons they don’t get divorced after they have an extramarital affair.

In this article, I’ve gathered the most common (and definitely not so innocent) reasons why men stay married after they commit such treachery.

¿Por qué los maridos infieles siguen casados? 13 razones

I’ve compiled this list of the most common reasons unfaithful men stay with their partners. And, of course, almost none of them are justified because the only reason you should be in a relationship with someone is LOVE.

1. Miedo a la soledad

Si un el hombre tiene baja autoestima and is a validation seeker, he probably doesn’t know how to function on his own. He’s afraid of loneliness, and single life scares the hell out of him.

Sigue casado porque lo considera su lugar seguro. His wife provides him with the security and stability he longs for, and as long as he feels that way, he’ll stay in that marriage.

2. La aventura fue un error que no piensan volver a cometer.

Probablemente fue una compañera de trabajo o una chica que conoció en las redes sociales. La considera solo una aventura, una aventura de una noche, y ya la ha terminado para siempre.

He’s aware of the huge mistake he made, and lamenta sinceramente haberte traicionado. Also, he knows it could cost him losing everything he has, and he doesn’t plan on repeating it ever again.

3. La otra mujer ha dicho claramente que no quiere una relación

Si su affair partner doesn’t want to be with him, if he was only a one-night-stand, it could be the reason he stays married. He simply doesn’t want to be alone, and staying married is currently the only option for him.

He has a person who cooks and cleans for him, and that’s enough for him for now. However, if another woman shows up in his life and wants to be with him, then he’ll most definitely leave his wife.

4. Sienten lástima por sus esposas

This is a very wrong reason to stay married to someone. You can’t be with someone simply because you feel sorry for them. I mean, you can, but it’ll never be a relación sana.

It’s always better to be honest with your partner. The wife will be hurt, and she’ll suffer… That’s inevitable. Pero, la verdad es que sufriría aún más si descubriera que su marido se queda a su lado sólo porque siente pena por ella.

5. El divorcio puede costarles mucho

Son conscientes de que su matrimonio terminó por su error, y eso significa que probablemente tendrán que pagar por ello. Y no se trata sólo del dinero.

Un divorcio también puede costarles perder a sus amigos y a algunos de sus seres queridos. La gente de su entorno probablemente se enfadará con ellos por cómo hirieron a su pareja y traicionaron su matrimonio.

Also, no one can guarantee that their affair partner will stay with them, which means they might lose her too and be left alone. If they have had kids, they might also worry the kids will be angry at them because of their actions, and that’s probably what they’re afraid of most.

6. Los niños

Esta es probablemente la razón más común por la que los infieles siguen casados. They don’t want to hurt their kids, or they’re afraid that they may lose custody in the divorce.

It’s very sad that most married couples don’t understand that, this way, they may only hurt their children even more. Their kids will have to listen to their fights, and this toxic environment may have very bad consequences for their mental health.

7. Intentan convencerse a sí mismos y a todos los que les rodean de que cambiarán

I need to admit something to you. I’m a proud ex-wife of an unfaithful narcisista disfrazado. Tenía 19 años cuando nos casamos y, en aquel momento, pensé que nunca me haría daño porque me quería más que a nada en el mundo.

Sólo llevábamos dos años casados cuando me enteré de su traición. No dejaba de ver muchas de las señales de advertencia y las banderas rojas sobre las que todo el mundo te advierte, pero me negaba a creerlo.

I stayed with him even after he admitted his infidelity to me. I stayed with him because he was such a great manipulator who managed to make me and all of those close to us believe that he’d change.

Of course, as you may assume, that didn’t happen. After six months, he did it again, and at last, that was the final straw. After my proceso de curación successfully ended, I met someone, and I’m still in a happy, relación comprometida with that guy, and I honestly think he’s the one.

8. Intentar evitar que te pillen

Cheaters may also stay in a relationship with their partners because they are so afraid and ashamed of getting caught. That way, if their partner ever starts doubting their fidelity, it’ll be easier for them to manipulate them and make them believe in their lies.

And don’t think they do it because they love you or because they’re afraid of losing you.

They only do it because they don’t want other people to think badly of them. If they love you the way you think they do, they would never do this to you in the first place.

9. Puede ser un narcisista disfrazado

Whether it’s una esposa infiel or husband, if that person stays married even after they cheat on their partner, it may be because of their narcissistic personality. In other words, they don’t stay because of their partner but because of themselves – they know it’s the best option for them.

Y por desgracia, they’ll probably continue to see la otra mujer, or they’ll find someone else. They’ll cheat on you and lie to you, and they won’t care at all how it’ll make you feel. Why? Because they’re married players.

They’ll stay with you as long as you allow them to. They’ll continue hurting your emotional and mental health until you’ve had enough of it and drive them out of your life.

10. Son conscientes de que su mujer es mejor que la otra mujer

I think this one is pretty logical. In most cases, the cheating partner stays with their significant other because they’re aware they will never find someone better than them.

Una trampa marido sigue casado porque sabe que ninguna otra mujer le querrá, respetará y tratará como lo hace su esposa. And that’s what he’s afraid of losing more than anything else.

11. Quieren trabajar para superar sus problemas conyugales

They’re aware they have made a mistake. However, they also think it happened because of some issues they had in their marriage, issues they didn’t talk about and didn’t solve in time.

That’s why they want to work on fixing those things and recuperar la salud de su matrimonio. Están contentos de haber tenido una segunda oportunidad y quieren aprovecharla de la mejor manera posible.

The truth is, married life isn’t always sunshine and roses. There are many issues and obstacles all married couples need to go through and wrestle with to save their marriage. However, looking for comfort in another person isn’t and should never be the answer.

12. In most cases, they aren’t obligated to make a choice

After years of marriage and everything they’ve been through, the wife will probably also want to give their marriage another chance. She won’t break up with her cheating husband because she is miedo a la soledad.

On the other hand, the other woman might continue seeing him casually, and in that way, he won’t be forced by anyone to make a choice.

Unfortunately, in the end, someone will get their heart broken, that’s for sure.

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¿Los maridos infieles siguen queriendo a sus mujeres?

Both men and women cheat for so many reasons, and yes, one of those reasons may be because they’ve stopped loving their partner. However, there are so many husbands who have cheated on their wives and then sworn they still love them despite the mistake they made.

In my opinion, you can’t love someone and hurt them in such an awful way. You can’t claim that you love and care about someone that much and then make them go through living hell.

Si usted participar en un aventura emocional with someone else while you’re married, it’s a clear sign you don’t love your spouse the way you used to. Fullstop.

Okay, I agree that we all make stupid mistakes sometimes and that we aren’t aware of the possible consequences in those moments. However, betraying your partner in this way is a clear sign that what you two have is not amor verdadero.

¿Cuánto dura un matrimonio después de una infidelidad?

It really depends on so many factors. The most important is whether both partners are ready to forget about what happened and leave it in the past. If the other side can’t forget about their spouse’s affair, their marriage is doomed to fail.

También depende de si el cónyuge infiel está realmente arrepentido de sus actos. If they aren’t 100% sure that something like that will never happen again, their marriage probably won’t last long because they’ll cheat on their partner again.

Si ambos miembros de la pareja están de acuerdo en trabajar para superarlo todo, poner un inmenso esfuerzo en arreglar su matrimonio, iniciar una terapia de pareja.... Pueden lograr salvar su matrimonio. En ese caso, su matrimonio durará hasta que Dios los separe.

¿Por qué los hombres casados engañan si están felizmente casados?

The thing is that they aren’t happy. Well, at least not completely happy in all fields of their marriage and family life.

Pueden amar a su cónyuge, pero sentirse insatisfechos emocional o físicamente. Falta de intimidad física sigue siendo probablemente una de las principales razones por las que los casados engañan a sus parejas.

On the other hand, some men simply have an unfaithful nature, and they can’t go against it. They’re overly flirtatious, and no matter how much they love someone, they can never be fully committed to them.

En conclusión

¿Qué opinas? ¿Por qué los maridos infieles siguen casados? ¿Es porque quieren salvarse a sí mismos o porque quieren mantener unida a su familia?

Espero que mi opinión esté equivocada, pero creo que los maridos infieles siguen casados por todas las razones equivocadas. Y, por desgracia, de ese modo, siguen haciéndose daño a sí mismos y a sus seres queridos.

Once someone commits such a betrayal to someone they vowed to be faithful to their entire life, they simply can’t continue walking through life with their partner. Sooner or later, and whether they like it or not, their paths will separate.