20 señales de que deberías quererte más
Quererse a uno mismo es en realidad más difícil de lo que uno cree. Pero aunque el amor propio sea tan difícil de conseguir, es crucial para tu completa salud mental y física y para la calidad de tu vida.
You may not know that you don’t love yourself enough because you keep it hidden deep inside but there are some signs which can help you see that you should love yourself more and here are 20 of them.
Siempre antepones a los demás
Una de las primeras señales de que deberías quererte más a ti mismo es el hecho de que siempre antepones a los demás, pase lo que pase. Es una señal evidente de que crees que los demás merecen más tu tiempo y atención que tú.
Don’t get me wrong—it is great if you are the type of person who can take care of other people’s needs but it doesn’t mean you need to prioritize everyone else in your life.
Instead, you need to decide which people deserve your love and attention and which don’t.
Y lo más importante, tienes que entender la importancia de quererse a uno mismo primero.
Nunca eres egoísta
For as long as you can remember, you have always been an empath. You were always that girl who would help everyone out and who would try to resolve everyone’s problems.
And over the years, you’ve learned that being selfish is one of the worst qualities a person can possess.
With time, it’s like you’ve come to the conclusion that you don’t have the right to be selfish.
But I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with being selfish in a relationship, whether with friends, family or a partner, from time to time. I am not telling you that your selfishness should have a negative impact on others around you—I am just advising you to prioritize yourself more.
Estás rodeado de gente tóxica
Another sign that you don’t love yourself enough is the fact that you are surrounded by toxic people. Most of your relationships, including romantic ones, are unhealthy.
Y lo peor es que eres muy consciente de que esas personas y esas relaciones no son buenas para ti. Eres consciente de que deberías deja ir a estas personas tóxicas. But you don’t change anything about your life, do you?
And why is that? You obviously don’t love yourself enough and consequently you think that this is the best you deserve and that you are not entitled to have anything more or better.
Siempre eres tú quien asume la responsabilidad
Es una gran cualidad suya ser capaz de asumir la responsabilidad de sus palabras y actos. Eso significa que eres una persona madura que está dispuesta a asumir todas las consecuencias de sus actos.
But what you need to understand is that every relationship is a two-way street and that you can’t always be the one to blame.
And blaming yourself is exactly what you’ve been doing for as long as you can remember; when you were involved in a group project at school, you always blamed yourself when las cosas salieron mal; when a friendship of yours would end, you would think everything was your fault. It’s the same with everything else in your life.
Sólo eres crítico contigo mismo
You are not a critical person. Instead, you’ve always been someone who tried to justify everyone around you.
But somehow, you are the only person you can’t seem to find any excuse for.
Según tú, todos menos tú merecen un respiro y una segunda oportunidad.
Y cuando te pones a pensarlo, parece que quieres más a los que te rodean que a ti mismo. quiérete a ti mismo y definitivamente no es así como deberían ser las cosas.
Eres inseguro
Otra señal de que careces de amor propio son tus inseguridades.
Let’s face it—we are all insecure from time to time and there is nothing unnatural about that. But you keep feeling like your insecurities are getting the best of you.
Sientes constantemente que no sirves para nada y que no eres suficiente.
Every bad comment, even if it’s a joke, can affect you and can ruin your day. On the other hand, whenever you hear something nice about you, whenever someone gives you a compliment, you have a hard time accepting it or believing it.
If you wonder why it is like that, the answer is quite simple: you don’t love yourself enough and consequently your las inseguridades te hacen pensar que eres difícil de amar también para otras personas.
Nunca luchas por las cosas que quieres
When was the last time you were really passionate about something? The last time you knew what you wanted and you weren’t afraid to get it? When was the last time you were ready to do whatever it took just to reach a certain goal?
I bet you can’t even remember.
Cuando lo piensas, en realidad nunca luchas por las cosas que deseas y eso tiene mucho que ver con tu falta de amor propio.
You simply don’t think you deserve any of the things you want and you don’t love yourself enough to put an effort into something that you desire.
Sientes que necesitas encajar
Another sign that it’s about time to empieza a quererte más es el hecho de que sientas la necesidad constante de encajar.
It’s simple—you don’t feel good in your own skin and you can’t accept the real you. Therefore, you can’t expect others to do the same.
You try really hard to blend in with different social stereotypes, thinking that you’ll like yourself more if you become just like everyone else.
It is obvious that you don’t know that your uniqueness and your qualities which make you stand out from the crowd are exactly the things which make you different and the things you should love about yourself the most.
Nunca te malcrías
¿Cuándo fue la última vez que se hizo un regalo? ¿La última vez que fuiste a un balneario o que te dedicaste un día entero sólo para ti? ¿La última vez que encontró tiempo para leer un libro que quería o visitar un lugar que siempre quiso ver?
You can’t remember, right?
Estas son todas las cosas que harías por una persona a la que quieres. Siempre te desvivirías por mimar a tu novio, a un amigo o a un familiar.
But that is not something you are ready to do for yourself, is it? And that brings us to the conclusion that you don’t love yourself the way you should.
You don’t like the way you look
When you come to think of it, you haven’t been satisfied with the way you look for as long as you can remember.
Even when people around you give you compliments about your looks and when you see they find you attractive, you still don’t think of yourself as beautiful.
I know you are not perfect. After all, none of us is. But the problem is that you’ve never learned to love yourself, despite your flaws. You’ve never learned to love your imperfections and to accept them as part of who you are. You’ve never learned to focus on your beautiful sides and you’ve never learned to love yourself completely.
You don’t respect yourself
There is one thing you need to know: there is no love without respect. It’s the same with self-love and self-respect.
You can’t love yourself unless you respect yourself. And sometimes it’s even more difficult to learn to respect yourself than to love yourself.
And when you come to think of it, you understand that you’ve never actually truly respected yourself. You never appreciated any of the things you were doing or any of the accomplishments you achieved.
You’ve never respected your integrity and your personality and consequently you could never demand respect from others either.
You don’t take care of your health
One of the most obvious signs that you should start loving yourself more is the fact that you don’t take care enough about your health.
You simply don’t eat enough or you don’t eat healthily. You don’t visit the doctor as often as you should and you simply don’t take care of your health.
Y esta no es la forma en que tratarías a alguien que amas, ¿es así? Entonces, ¿por qué sigues tratándote así?
I know you probably don’t disregard your health on purpose but the fact is that you are doing it and that this behavior has to have a reason.
The only logical explanation is that you don’t love yourself enough. You can’t seem to find the time or the energy to dedicate to yourself and you wouldn’t do that if you loved yourself the way you should.
You don’t speak up for yourself
Whenever there is something bothering you, you don’t react. Instead, you just let things be, even if you are aware of the injustice done to you.
You never confront people and you don’t speak up for yourself, even when you know you are right.
The truth is that you don’t love yourself enough to even try and make a difference in your life and to fight for something.
You don’t think your opinions matter
Another reason you never speak up for yourself is the fact that you subconsciously think that your opinions won’t be heard.
Crees que no eres importante y, por tanto, tus opiniones y actitudes tampoco lo son.
And you think this way because you don’t love yourself, even though you might not be aware of it.
You don’t know how to say, “No”
Another sign that you don’t love yourself enough is the fact that you don’t know how to say, “No”. You don’t know how to set boundaries. And not just that—you don’t respect your own boundaries and other people around you just follow your lead.
The truth is that you don’t respect your time and energy enough to say, “No” to some people. You will go out with someone even if you don’t feel like it or you will try to help them even when you know it will cost you a lot.
Dudas de ti mismo
Cuando te pones a pensarlo, estás constantemente dudar de uno mismo y cada elección y decisión que tomas. Cada vez que pones manos a la obra, te preguntas si estás haciendo lo correcto.
Te cuestionas constantemente cada pequeña palabra que dices y cada pequeña cosa que haces, pensando que podrías haberlo dicho o hecho de otra manera.
Aunque dudar de tus llamadas de vez en cuando puede ser algo estupendo, si lo haces demasiado, es señal de falta de amor propio.
Te comparas con los demás
Te comparas constantemente con todos los que te rodean, empezando por los famosos y terminando por tus amigos. Y cuando haces esto, de alguna manera siempre llegas a la conclusión de que todas esas personas son mejores que tú.
A tus ojos, son más guapos, tienen más éxito o son más listos que tú. En vez de centrarte en las cosas en las que eres increíble y en vez de trabajar en tu superación personal, eliges lamentarte de tu suerte y seguir comparándote con los demás.
Te concentras en las cosas negativas
When you think about your past, all you can think of is the wrong choices you’ve made and the things you could have done differently.
And we’ve all done some things we regret. But you are different because you act like you’ve never done anything right—you only focus on the negative things.
No dejas de pensar en cómo podría haber cambiado tu vida si hubieras hecho las cosas de otra manera porque, obviamente, no estás satisfecho con ella.
But the truth is that you are the only one who is keeping yourself from being happy. The truth is that you’ll never be satisfied with yourself until you learn to love yourself.
No tiene confianza
Another sign that you lack self-love is the fact that you are not confident in yourself. You simply think you are destined to fail and that you’ll never succeed in anything you set your mind to.
I am not saying you should be an egomaniac but the truth is that you don’t love yourself and therefore you don’t believe in yourself either.
Esta falta de confianza en ti mismo está afectando a todos los aspectos de tu vida y te está impidiendo alcanzar todo tu potencial. Y seguirá haciéndolo hasta que encuentres la manera de mejorar la confianza en uno mismo.
You don’t enjoy your own company
When was the last time you enjoyed spending some time on your own? Every time you are alone, you have dark thoughts and you think about all of your flaws, imperfections and the things you’ve done wrong.
Puede que pienses que estos pensamientos son naturales, y ciertamente lo son si sólo aparecen de vez en cuando. Pero si estas son las únicas cosas en las que puedes pensar cada vez que estás solo, definitivamente tienes un problema.
