20 segnali che indicano che dovreste amare di più voi stessi

Amare se stessi è in realtà più difficile di quanto si pensi. Ma nonostante sia così difficile da raggiungere, l'amore per se stessi è fondamentale per la vostra completa salute mentale e fisica e per la qualità della vostra vita.

You may not know that you don’t love yourself enough because you keep it hidden deep inside but there are some signs which can help you see that you should love yourself more and here are 20 of them.

Metti sempre gli altri al primo posto

Uno dei primi segnali che vi indicherebbe di amare di più voi stessi è il fatto che mettete sempre gli altri al primo posto, a prescindere da tutto. Questo è un segno evidente del fatto che pensate che gli altri siano più degni del vostro tempo e della vostra attenzione rispetto a voi.

Don’t get me wrong—it is great if you are the type of person who can take care of other people’s needs but it doesn’t mean you need to prioritize everyone else in your life.

Instead, you need to decide which people deserve your love and attention and which don’t.

E soprattutto, è necessario capire l'importanza di amare prima di tutto se stessi.

Non siete mai egoisti

For as long as you can remember, you have always been an empath. You were always that girl who would help everyone out and who would try to resolve everyone’s problems.

And over the years, you’ve learned that being selfish is one of the worst qualities a person can possess.

With time, it’s like you’ve come to the conclusion that you don’t have the right to be selfish.

But I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with being selfish in a relationship, whether with friends, family or a partner, from time to time. I am not telling you that your selfishness should have a negative impact on others around you—I am just advising you to prioritize yourself more.

Siete circondati da persone tossiche

Another sign that you don’t love yourself enough is the fact that you are surrounded by toxic people. Most of your relationships, including romantic ones, are unhealthy.

E la cosa peggiore è che siete ben consapevoli che queste persone e queste relazioni non vanno bene per voi. Siete consapevoli che dovreste lasciare andare queste persone tossiche. But you don’t change anything about your life, do you?

And why is that? You obviously don’t love yourself enough and consequently you think that this is the best you deserve and that you are not entitled to have anything more or better.

Siete sempre voi ad assumervi la responsabilità

È una grande qualità se siete in grado di assumervi la responsabilità delle vostre parole e delle vostre azioni. Ciò significa che siete una persona matura, pronta ad affrontare tutte le conseguenze delle vostre azioni.

But what you need to understand is that every relationship is a two-way street and that you can’t always be the one to blame.

And blaming yourself is exactly what you’ve been doing for as long as you can remember; when you were involved in a group project at school, you always blamed yourself when le cose sono andate male; when a friendship of yours would end, you would think everything was your fault. It’s the same with everything else in your life.

Siete critici solo verso voi stessi

You are not a critical person. Instead, you’ve always been someone who tried to justify everyone around you.

But somehow, you are the only person you can’t seem to find any excuse for.

Secondo lei, tutti, tranne lei, meritano una pausa e una seconda possibilità.

E se ci pensate bene, sembra che amiate tutti quelli che vi circondano più di quanto non amiate voi stessi. amare se stessi e non è assolutamente così che dovrebbero andare le cose.

Siete insicuri

Un altro segno della mancanza di amore per se stessi è l'insicurezza.

Let’s face it—we are all insecure from time to time and there is nothing unnatural about that. But you keep feeling like your insecurities are getting the best of you.

Avete costantemente la sensazione di non essere buoni a nulla e di non essere abbastanza.

Every bad comment, even if it’s a joke, can affect you and can ruin your day. On the other hand, whenever you hear something nice about you, whenever someone gives you a compliment, you have a hard time accepting it or believing it.

If you wonder why it is like that, the answer is quite simple: you don’t love yourself enough and consequently your le insicurezze vi fanno pensare di essere difficili da amare anche per altre persone.

Non lotti mai per le cose che vuoi

When was the last time you were really passionate about something? The last time you knew what you wanted and you weren’t afraid to get it? When was the last time you were ready to do whatever it took just to reach a certain goal?

I bet you can’t even remember.

Se ci pensate bene, in realtà non lottate mai per le cose che desiderate e questo ha molto a che fare con la vostra mancanza di l'amore per se stessi.

You simply don’t think you deserve any of the things you want and you don’t love yourself enough to put an effort into something that you desire.

Sentite il bisogno di inserirvi

Another sign that it’s about time to iniziare ad amare se stessi è il fatto che sentite il costante bisogno di inserirvi.

It’s simple—you don’t feel good in your own skin and you can’t accept the real you. Therefore, you can’t expect others to do the same.

You try really hard to blend in with different social stereotypes, thinking that you’ll like yourself more if you become just like everyone else.

It is obvious that you don’t know that your uniqueness and your qualities which make you stand out from the crowd are exactly the things which make you different and the things you should love about yourself the most.

Non viziate mai voi stessi

Quando è stata l'ultima volta che vi siete fatti un regalo? L'ultima volta che siete andati in un centro benessere o che avete dedicato un'intera giornata solo a voi stessi? L'ultima volta che avete trovato il tempo di leggere un libro che volevate o di visitare un luogo che avete sempre voluto vedere?

You can’t remember, right?

Sono tutte cose che fareste per una persona che amate. Vi fareste sempre in quattro per viziare il vostro fidanzato, un amico o un membro della famiglia.

But that is not something you are ready to do for yourself, is it? And that brings us to the conclusion that you don’t love yourself the way you should.

You don’t like the way you look

When you come to think of it, you haven’t been satisfied with the way you look for as long as you can remember.

Even when people around you give you compliments about your looks and when you see they find you attractive, you still don’t think of yourself as beautiful.

I know you are not perfect. After all, none of us is. But the problem is that you’ve never learned to love yourself, despite your flaws. You’ve never learned to love your imperfections and to accept them as part of who you are. You’ve never learned to focus on your beautiful sides and you’ve never learned to love yourself completely.

You don’t respect yourself

There is one thing you need to know: there is no love without respect. It’s the same with self-love and self-respect.

You can’t love yourself unless you respect yourself. And sometimes it’s even more difficult to learn to respect yourself than to love yourself.

And when you come to think of it, you understand that you’ve never actually truly respected yourself. You never appreciated any of the things you were doing or any of the accomplishments you achieved.

You’ve never respected your integrity and your personality and consequently you could never demand respect from others either.

You don’t take care of your health

One of the most obvious signs that you should start loving yourself more is the fact that you don’t take care enough about your health.

You simply don’t eat enough or you don’t eat healthily. You don’t visit the doctor as often as you should and you simply don’t take care of your health.

E questo non è il modo in cui trattereste qualcuno che amate, giusto? Allora perché continuate a trattarvi in questo modo?

I know you probably don’t disregard your health on purpose but the fact is that you are doing it and that this behavior has to have a reason.

The only logical explanation is that you don’t love yourself enough. You can’t seem to find the time or the energy to dedicate to yourself and you wouldn’t do that if you loved yourself the way you should.

You don’t speak up for yourself

Whenever there is something bothering you, you don’t react. Instead, you just let things be, even if you are aware of the injustice done to you.

You never confront people and you don’t speak up for yourself, even when you know you are right.

The truth is that you don’t love yourself enough to even try and make a difference in your life and to fight for something.

You don’t think your opinions matter

Another reason you never speak up for yourself is the fact that you subconsciously think that your opinions won’t be heard.

Pensate di non essere importanti e quindi anche le vostre opinioni e i vostri atteggiamenti non sono importanti.

And you think this way because you don’t love yourself, even though you might not be aware of it.

You don’t know how to say, “No”

Another sign that you don’t love yourself enough is the fact that you don’t know how to say, “No”. You don’t know how to set boundaries. And not just that—you don’t respect your own boundaries and other people around you just follow your lead.

The truth is that you don’t respect your time and energy enough to say, “No” to some people. You will go out with someone even if you don’t feel like it or you will try to help them even when you know it will cost you a lot.

Dubitate di voi stessi

A pensarci bene, si è costantemente dubitare di sé e ogni scelta e decisione che prendete. Ogni volta che si mette mano a qualcosa, ci si chiede se si sta facendo la cosa giusta.

Mettete costantemente in discussione ogni piccola parola che dite e ogni piccola cosa che fate, pensando che avreste potuto dirla o farla in modo diverso.

Anche se dubitare di tanto in tanto delle proprie chiamate può essere una cosa fantastica, se lo si fa troppo spesso è segno di una mancanza di amor proprio.

Si confronta con gli altri

Vi confrontate costantemente con tutti quelli che vi circondano, a partire dalle celebrità fino ai vostri amici. E quando lo fate, in qualche modo arrivate sempre alla conclusione che tutte queste persone sono migliori di voi.

Ai vostri occhi, sono più belli, più di successo o più intelligenti di voi. Invece di concentrarvi sulle cose in cui siete fantastici e di lavorare sul vostro miglioramento, scegliete di lamentarvi del vostro destino e di continuare a paragonarvi a tutti gli altri.

Ci si concentra sulle cose negative

When you think about your past, all you can think of is the wrong choices you’ve made and the things you could have done differently.

And we’ve all done some things we regret. But you are different because you act like you’ve never done anything right—you only focus on the negative things.

Continuate a pensare a come avreste potuto cambiare la vostra vita se aveste fatto le cose in modo diverso, perché ovviamente non siete soddisfatti.

But the truth is that you are the only one who is keeping yourself from being happy. The truth is that you’ll never be satisfied with yourself until you learn to love yourself.

Non siete sicuri di voi stessi

Another sign that you lack self-love is the fact that you are not confident in yourself. You simply think you are destined to fail and that you’ll never succeed in anything you set your mind to.

I am not saying you should be an egomaniac but the truth is that you don’t love yourself and therefore you don’t believe in yourself either.

Questa mancanza di fiducia in se stessi si ripercuote su tutti gli aspetti della vostra vita e vi impedisce di raggiungere il vostro pieno potenziale. E continuerà a farlo fino a quando non troverete il modo di migliorare la fiducia in se stessi.

You don’t enjoy your own company

When was the last time you enjoyed spending some time on your own? Every time you are alone, you have dark thoughts and you think about all of your flaws, imperfections and the things you’ve done wrong.

Si può pensare che questi pensieri siano naturali e lo sono sicuramente se si presentano solo di tanto in tanto. Ma se queste sono le uniche cose a cui riuscite a pensare quando siete da soli, avete sicuramente un problema.