4 Cosas que Sucederán Cuando Dejes de Tener Contacto con un Narcisista
Es extremadamente difícil incluso llegar a la etapa de no establecer contacto con un narcisista y mantenerlo.
Esto se debe a que todos sabemos lo altamente manipuladores que son y lo que todo tipo de tácticas de limpieza que están dispuestos a utilizar sólo para arrastrarte de nuevo a su círculo vicioso abusivo.
You’ve been reading about what to do if he comes back, how to establish no contact, how to act.
Sabes que tienes que ignorarle y no darle ninguna razón en absoluto para hablar contigo y, prácticamente, sabes que tienes que ser aburridísimo, para que pierda el interés y se vaya.
Remember, it’s not your choice to break every connection with a narcissist. You may want it, but he will only leave you alone when he doesn’t have any options left.
It’s so agonizing living in the fear of what your narcissist might do next. You’ve been in similar situations with him before.
You thought it was all over and that you’ve got rid of him forever, but you were wrong.
Volvió, haciendo cosas aún más locas que antes. Así que, incluso después de ir ningún contacto with him, you’re still living in fear that he will come back, trying to suck you back in and hurt you once again.
Once you go no contact, you’re going to feel even worse than before. You’re going to feel like a heroin addict going cold turkey.
You will want to come back to him because you’re addicted to the emotions you’ve been feeling while you were around him.
It’s a simple chemical process. That’s why you simply have to accept what has happened to you.
Treat it like a trauma because it is one and go to ‘narcissistic rehab’. Get clean, get sober and then think twice or even three times about doing any kind of action because your actions probably aren’t safe and you’re not thinking straight.
Now, the catch is, while you are going through this painful process of healing, your narcissist may come back and destroy all the effort you’ve been putting in making yourself feel better.
Te hará sentir culpable y te manipulará para que vuelvas con él, y así poder hacerte daño de nuevo.
You simply have to cut off all contact with them. You mustn’t ask yourself whether he misses you or
te quiere.
You mustn’t stalk them on social media or ask your friends about them to see what they are up to.
Don’t drive by their houses in hope that you’ll catch a glimpse of them.
Ninguna de estas situaciones es saludable para ti ni para tu proceso de curación.
Even when you realize this and exclude him and everything about him from your life, you’re still not safe. Here are some things he could do even when you go no contact:
Anuncia que fue él quien puso fin a vuestra relación
Puede que te enteres por su estado en Facebook o por el hecho de que haya borrado todas las fotos de los dos de las redes sociales. Puede que incluso se lo cuente a tus amigos, para que te enteres por ellos.
En cualquier caso, esto podría causarte un gran trauma porque eras tú quien necesitaba ser salvada y no él.
He will appear defenseless and naïve and in that state of mind of yours, you are tempted to take him back and hook on him even more than before.
Su problemas de abandono may kick in, but the only solution to this situation is to retreat and don’t go to any discussions with him.
Find someone who loves and cares for you—your family or your friends—and talk to them.
Los sentimientos de abandono y de no ser querido desaparecerán con el tiempo, sobre todo cuando tengas apoyo.
Se pondrá en contacto contigo por cosas aleatorias
Hará lo que haga falta, sólo para comprobar si sigues enganchada a él.
He will ask you unimportant things just to be a bit more present. (That’s just how la mente masculina durante el no contacto obras).
You see, narcissists don’t like to lose and they won’t just make peace with the fact that you discard them. They won’t give up their narcissistic supply that easily.
You have to stay strong in these situations because he will come back and ask questions or indicate he is dating someone else when he’s actually not. He will do this to see if you’ll be triggered and if you’ll react.
If you do, then he knows you’re still hooked on him and that he has an easy way back into your life.
You mustn’t react to these provocations. Don’t engage and maintain no contact because if you do, you’ll find yourself seeking answers, trying to get him to take responsibility and the result of all of this will be you getting hurt once again.
Fingirá asumir la responsabilidad y prometerá cambiar
Hará casi todo para que vuelvas a la relación.
He will accept to reconcile and he will lead a long and deep conversation with you in trying to find out what went wrong in his life to cause him to behave the way he does. Don’t fall for these tácticas de abuso narcisista y mentiras.
Sólo lo dice para que pienses que ha cambiado las tornas y quiere volver a intentarlo, pero esta vez como un hombre nuevo, completamente cambiado.
If he can’t contact you, he will send you messages that he is truly sorry and this is where the problem begins.
It’s so hard to resist this because you think that finally, he has changed. Finally, he has realized all the things you’ve been saying for so long.
Then, history repeats itself and you get back to him. At first, it will be nice until his ego wakes up and when it does, the abuse will be even worse than you’ve experienced until now.
Te castigará por hacerle arrastrarse hasta ti, por hacerle ser vulnerable para recuperarte.
Lo que tienes que hacer para evitarlo es seguir adelante con tu proceso de curación y encontrar el amor dentro de ti.
Be your own source of happiness and you won’t be needing anyone else to fill in that void you’re feeling.
You’re not responsible for others, only for yourself. You have to understand that and learn to live that way and no one will be able to touch you, not even him.
Te usará y te hará sentir culpable para que le ayudes...
Se le ocurrirán todo tipo de cosas terribles que le han ocurrido.
Mentirá diciendo que ha perdido el trabajo o que su madre está enferma y que ahora mismo se encuentra fatal.
Sabe que eres una persona compasiva y que quieres ayudar a quienes lo necesitan.
Esta es una de las razones por las que empáticos atraen a los narcisistas, debido a su energía y su voluntad de ayudar a los demás. Los narcisistas explotan eso.
He will try to evoke sympathy and in that way, hook you back. So, what happens next? It’s hard to resist not helping someone you once loved, even if that person treated you poorly.
If you are that kind of a person, you will fall back into his trap very easily and God knows how you’ll pull out of it once again.
Lo que tienes que hacer es no comprar esa basura. No hay nada para ti excepto más dolor y abuso.
Tienes que enfrentarte a ti mismo y darte cuenta de que no eres responsable de curar a cada persona que está rota.
Si realmente necesita ayuda, encontrará a otra persona que se la proporcione y, sea cierto o no, deberías alejarte de él si quieres curarte, mejorar y seguir adelante con tu vida.
