Ninguno de nosotros pensó nunca que acabaríamos con un pareja narcisista. Because when you dream about your dream guy, you surely don’t picture him as a narcissist.

But in some cases, it turns out that our dream man is actually a narcissist in disguise. Maybe at first you won’t be aware of some traits that he has, but if you just pay a bit more attention to him, you will see that he is not as great as he pretends to be.

Here are some of the most common narcissistic traits that many women don’t recognize at first but that turn out to be a problem in the relationship later.

1. Miente

Let’s be honest—it is okay to lie sometimes. Nobody died because of a couple of white lies.

Pero el problema viene cuando tu pareja te miente todo el tiempo. Es un problema cuando no estás seguro de si lo que dice es verdad o no.

And it is obvious that you can’t live with a man like that. You can’t live in fear that he does some bad things to you, and when he is with you, he pretends that he is an angel.

Éste es uno de los rasgos narcisistas más comunes, pero la gente suele darse cuenta demasiado tarde. Así que, si ves que tu hombre no es totalmente sincero contigo, considera que es una bandera roja que algo va mal.

And whatever you do, don’t let him make a fool out of you.

2. Manipula

When you are in love, you consider your loved one to be an angel who would never hurt you. But behind the mask of an angel, there can often be hidden the face of a devil—devil who knows how to get what he wants using your feelings and your love toward them. 

Los narcisistas usan esto abuso narcisista técnica muy tramposamente. Cuando quieran manipularte, lo harán para que nunca te des cuenta.

They will tell you that they love you and that they need you to do something for them. In that way, they will get all they want, and they won’t feel any remorse for hurting you.

Por lo tanto, si usted nota algunos signos de manipulaciónSi te enamoras, córtalo a tiempo porque puede que sea demasiado tarde.

3. Carece de empatía

When you first start a relationship with someone, you can’t see their real face. Only when you spend some time with them, you will be able to get to know them better.

Si ves que a tu chico le falta empatía al principio de vuestra relación, quizá sólo pienses que le han hecho daño demasiadas veces y que intenta protegerse.

But if that continues later on and if he doesn’t even show any empathy for you and your problems, then you have a problem.

Obviamente, tu chico finge que tiene problemas para que te compadezcas de él. Eso es táctica común que todos los narcisistas utilizan convencer a sus víctimas de que han tenido una vida dura y que tienen que ocultar sus sentimientos para evitar que les vuelvan a hacer daño.

4. Nunca tuvo una relación real

Si tu chico dice que nunca ha tenido una relación de verdad porque nadie podía entenderle, deberías saber que algo va mal.

I mean it can happen that one person doesn’t understand you, but if more of them think the same about you, then the problem is in you and not in them.

Significa que tu chico can’t make a firm relationship with anyone because of his narcissistic traits que siempre le hacen parecer una víctima, el especial que más ayuda necesita.

A man like that will never understand your problems nor will he go the extra mile to make you happy. A man like that loves himself most, and he can’t control it.

5. Se cree superior

Maybe you won’t see it right from the start, but a narcissist will always try to show off with things he didn’t do.

He will think that he is superior and that you are actually lucky that he chose you to be his partner. He doesn’t understand that we all are the same and that we have the same rights.

En su cabeza, él es el especial, y como tal, merece un trato especial allá donde vaya. Y cuando entres en una relación con un hombre así, te perderás por completo intentando satisfacerle.

Él es de alto mantenimiento, y siempre pedirá que sus necesidades sean satisfechas mientras que tú sólo serás alguien que siempre está ahí para hacer lo que él quiera.

Y ese no es el trato que mereces, especialmente de alguien a quien más quieres.

6. Es pasivo-agresivo

Todos lo somos a veces pasivo-agresivo por las diferentes cosas que nos pasan. Habrá momentos en los que sentirás que tu mundo se desmorona y reaccionarás así.

But if you see your man behaving like this all the time, you should know something is not right. This is not normal behavior, and you shouldn’t put up with his shit just because you love him.

In fact, if he says that he loves you that much, he should never do that to you. This is something you shouldn’t forgive, and if this starts happening, it will be even worse as time passes.

You need to know that people like this never change, and even if you ask him to do that for the both of you, he won’t because he simply doesn’t give a damn about anyone.

7. Es arrogante y abusivo

It happens to all of us that we get arrogant sometimes, especially if we are not in a good mood. But if your guy acts like this every day and if he doesn’t try to change his behavior, then you have a serious problem.

Imagínate lo que se sentiría estar con alguien que está enfadado con el mundo todo el tiempo y que se pone abusivo si las cosas no son tan perfectas como él quiere.

Y lo peor es que es sólo cuestión de tiempo que empiece a maltratarte.

And that is not something you need in your life. You need a loving and caring man—not someone who will use you as a punching bag to help him heal his frustrations.

Créeme, si notas señales como estas, deberías correr tan lejos como puedas porque este tipo de hombre nunca te dará el amor que necesitas.