6 alucinantes razones por las que siempre acabas siendo una casi novia

Being an “almost girlfriend” sucks. It is really frustrating to wonder whether things will go in the right direction or you’ll end up in an “casi relación” every single time you meet a great guy.

Es un asco tener que estar siempre pensando en el estado de tu relación, porque acaba con la alegría. Y nadie merece vivir con miedo a ser rechazado. Nadie se merece vivir con falsas esperanzas sólo para darse cuenta de que las cosas no son como pensabas que eran.

There are endless reasons for this phenomenon, and sometimes it’s kind of your fault. Here are 6 reasons that will help you understand why you always end up being an almost girlfriend and never the real deal.

1. You’re too yearning

You can’t stop thinking about him, and you do everything in your power to show him. If he sees that you’re all about him, he might get confused and even scared of you.

Aunque te gusten mucho, nunca es buena idea abrumarles con tu afecto. La mejor opción es mostrar tu afecto de una forma más sutil.

Por lo general, a los hombres les asustan las emociones y, si les das demasiadas, acabarán huyendo porque son incapaces de digerirlas. Por eso cambian de opinión sobre ti de repente.

2. You’re not giving him space

If you’re constantly texting him and calling when he doesn’t text you back, he will feel like you’re forcing him to act the way you want him to. If a guy senses that you’re too into his personal space, he will run for his life.

You should always make sure to give him some space, so that he can recharge himself. Even if he doesn’t text you immediately, there’s no need to freak out about it.

If you do freak out, things will only get worse, and from a potential girlfriend you’ll end up being an almost girlfriend. Don’t let that happen.

3. No ve las señales de alarma

Sometimes a guy is clearly showing that he’s not interested in you, but you’re too infatuated to realize it. If he’s constantly making excuses, doesn’t have time for you or all of a sudden goes on multiple trips, maybe he is trying to tell you that he doesn’t want any kind of a relationship with you.

If you’re head over heels for him, you might start making excuses for his behavior, and that way, you’ll miss the red flags that were in front of you this whole time. Always have your eyes wide open, and believe what you see.

4. You’re too compliant

If you let him do whatever he wants and however he wants it, you’ll most surely not get what YOU want. It is okay to give him some space for himself, but you shouldn’t let him delete you from his priority list.

Si jugar a videojuegos, salir con sus amigos o beber cerveza en los pubs son sus prioridades número uno, te conviertes instantáneamente en su segunda opción. Te conviertes en una casi novia porque eras demasiado complaciente.

Ten siempre límites. Nunca permitas que te traten de forma diferente a la que mereces.

5. You’re beating around the bush

One day you overwhelm him with affection, and the day after you’re not sure if he’s the one you want to be with. If you’re not sure about what you want, he will notice it and act accordingly.

Also, if you’re one hundred percent sure that you want to be with him but you haven’t shown him, he might start dating others as well because he’s not sure about your intentions.

Si quieres estar con él, tienes que decirlo en voz alta, para que sepa que eres auténtica.

Si lo haces, las posibilidades de ser casi novia disminuirán significativamente.

6. Eliges a los tipos equivocados

Maybe you choose someone who is far away from being your equivalent, and you realize it too late. If you’re a creative soul, you can never function with someone who is too conservative or reserved.

You should choose your potential partners wisely because if you don’t, there’s a chance that you’ll end up being an almost girlfriend without even knowing why. You shouldn’t be too picky either.

It’s okay to give a chance to everyone, but your heart is the one which will choose the right one.