Por qué no has sabido nada de él en todo el día (15 sorprendentes razones)
Let’s say you had a super exciting first date. You thought your love life was about to flourish. And then, all of a sudden, he disappears without a word! You haven’t heard from him all day!
¿Qué demonios está pasando? ¿Es culpa tuya? ¿Has hecho algo?
These questions can be too exhausting! There’s nothing worse than not knowing. Would you like to change that? If you read on, you surely will. I’m your dating coach for the day!
Te familiarizarás con las 15 razones más comunes por las que un hombre se desvanece en el aire, y cómo debes afrontarlo.
15 Common Reasons Why You Haven’t Heard From Him All Day
Si quieres saber por qué tu chico desapareció por un día, echa un vistazo a las siguientes 15 razones:
1. Está afirmando su dominio
Most men want to be the dominant one because they think that’s how it should be. They play with your feelings and controle su comportamiento, subtly telling you that they’re in charge.
That could be why you haven’t heard from him all day. He knows you will be freaking out. He knows you will just want him more.
The result will be you blaming yourself and seeking ways to win his heart again. And, that’s how he keeps you under his control.
His end goal isn’t being with you, but rather being with someone who will make him feel like ”the man” in the relationship.
2. He’s afraid of rejection
This is a real issue for every man. When he’s got his eyes on a woman, he wants nothing more than to tell her immediately.
But, doing that would mean risking being hurt. It’s much easier to desaparecen de repente que enfrentarse a sus sentimientos.
He’s probably intimated by you, and the last thing he wants is for you to react badly.
¿Te burlarás de él? ¿O lo rechazarás educadamente?
Cualquier opción es dolorosa a sus ojos.
If you think this is his reason, it’s likely that he’ll eventually gather the courage to come back.
However, if you see that your relationship isn’t going anywhere, it might be time for you to make a move.
3. La confusión le está matando
Don’t worry, that wasn’t necessarily your last date!
Women aren’t the only ones with periods of confusion. Men aren’t always sure what they want either… or not sure what YOU want.
Even if you had an incredible date last night, he might still not understand what it all meant. Or, maybe he’s ocultando sus sentimientos because yours weren’t as obvious as you thought.
Sé que a la mayoría de los chicos les gusta la persecución, pero algunos son demasiado inseguros para ir a por ti.
You need to show him that you care; otherwise, he’ll keep on luchando contra sus sentimientos en lugar de confesarlas.
La próxima vez que lo veas, prueba técnicas de seducción. Tócale suavemente durante una conversación o abrázale un poco más. ¿Por qué no coquetear un poco también?
If you’re scared, you don’t have to be obvious, but you can still let him know how you feel in other, more subtle ways.
4. It doesn’t mean anything at all
No, not everything has a deeper meaning. I’m also the one who always looks beneath the surface, but sometimes you just can’t find anything…
Your man probably doesn’t see this as ghosting. To him, it might be a normal thing, and you, still the woman he’s totally attracted to.
It’s just la forma en que funciona su mente. If you asked him about it, he likely wouldn’t understand why you’re so upset.
If I were you, I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. Just take a deep breath, do some other work, and everything will be clear to you once he reaches out again.
5. He’s super busy
Your man is in control of his own life. It is he who decides what to do with his time. And, the same goes for you. You can’t really blame each other for having other things to do.
Maybe he’s having a really tough day with many tasks waiting to be done. Among all that hustle and bustle, he probably can’t find the time to make a llamada telefónica o envía un mensaje de texto.
I know your mind is immediately suspicious. ”Nobody is too busy. It’s all a matter of priorities.”
Well, that’s not always true. Sometimes, the problem is you not respecting his schedule.
If it’s always like that, and you barely talk, I understand your struggle.
Sin embargo, si sólo le ha ocurrido esta vez, no tiene por qué preocuparse.
Just remember to respect each other’s boundaries because that’s a sign of a relación sana.
6. Envías demasiados mensajes
I’m guilty of this, too. I tend to act on my feelings without thinking too much about it, so sometimes, I send way more messages than I should. I just can’t stop.
I know it’s sad having to suppress yourself to haz que un chico te persigapero, por desgracia, suele funcionar.
If you haven’t heard from him all day, it’s probably because you exaggerated the number of your texts. Your clinginess was a turn off for him.
Ser pegajosa no es bueno al principio de una relación. Practica el autocontrol y, cuando te lo hayas ganado, mándale un mensaje de texto.
7. He’s got bad texting habits
Yes, this is a thing. I’m currently crushing on a guy who is PERFECT in person, but always ignores me for a couple of days when I text him.
I’m starting to accept that he’s just that type of person. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t want a relationship with me. He’s just not into texting at all.
If you’re going through the same thing, be a little more understanding about his preferences. HOWEVER, remember that si un hombre te quiere de verdad...también debería respetar tus necesidades.
If you’re going to be in a relationship, there has to be compromise – tanto las conversaciones cara a cara COMO los mensajes de texto.
Don’t ask him to change his whole personality for you, but he definitely should be ready to invest a bit more time into making you feel special. That’s how relationships should work.
8. He doesn’t feel anything anymore
Maybe your man is just very fickle! He was crushing on you, but it wasn’t as intense as you hoped it would be. It disappeared in an instant! As did he.
Yes, if you haven’t heard from him all day, it might be because perdió interés. Ha seguido adelante, pero ha sido demasiado cobarde para decirte a la cara que las cosas han cambiado.
Maybe a new woman appeared in his life, or he just had an epiphany about you. He realized that you weren’t so compatible after all, so he decided to leave.
If you have just met the guy, this is a very likely reason, but if you’ve known each other for quite a while, and you’re sure of his feelings, then you have nothing to worry about.
9. You’re not a priority
It’s sad, I know, but maybe you’re just not that important to this guy. However, before you start panicking, ask yourself these questions:
¿Desde cuándo le conoce? ¿Hasta qué punto estáis unidos? ¿Le has puesto una etiqueta a tu relación?
I’m asking you this because if you aren’t that close to him, then you can’t really expect him to put you first. Think about it.
Él tenía una vida antes de ti. Y, ahora que has llegado, ¿crees que todo cambiará de repente como en las películas románticas?
Trust me, that isn’t healthy.
If you haven’t heard from him all day, don’t overthink it. Don’t get angry, but hacer que se comprometa sin presiones. Deje que su relación evolucione lentamente.
Y, una vez que estéis juntos oficialmente, ¡te ganas el derecho a enfadarte con su lista de prioridades!
10. Fuiste demasiado honesto
Honesty is the best policy… but not at the beginning. If you revealed too much information immediately, it’s very likely you scared the guy off.
Si desea mantener el interés de un chico, don’t talk about your childhood traumas or recent moodiness anymore. Save those conversations for later.
Los hombres suelen tener miedo de ser emocionalmente vulnerable anyway. Don’t make it harder for him by expecting him to show his real self as soon as you meet.
I know you can’t wait to connect with him on a deeper level, but you need to be a bit more patient.
De momento, bromead el uno con el otro. Muéstrale la versión más divertida de ti mismo.
Every man’s mujer de ensueño is the one who can make him laugh. If you’re able to do that, he will be more likely to open up to you.
11. You’re just one of the many
We all like to believe that we’re the only one our guy is texting, but sadly, that isn’t always the truth.
If you haven’t heard from him all day, that may be because there are other women that have his attention. Once he gets bored with them, he’ll probably come back to you.
He most likely doesn’t care about anyone because with love comes disappointment. So, his cuestiones de compromiso le hacen saltar de una mujer a otra.
He’ll send a buenos días mensaje para ti y te quedas dormido mientras envías mensajes a otra persona.
Frankly, you’re better off without him. You should let go of anyone who doesn’t give you his full attention. There is surely a new guy out there who will treat you like a queen.
12. Espera que esta vez hagas un movimiento
It’s the 21st century, and a man doesn’t always have to make a move first. And, they’re aware of it, too!
Si su el tipo te ha estado ignorando all day, then it’s very likely he’s expecting you to send a mensaje de texto a él.
Tal vez te quiere mucho, but isn’t sure about your emotions. Maybe he feels like he’s the only one making an effort, and now he wants you to reciprocate.
If you’ve been on the bench so far, it’s time to finally get up! Don’t wait for him. Go and get him instead. Trust me, it’s not that scary.
Si ha captado sentimientos por ti, he won’t care about silly things like the chase. He won’t mind if you reach out first. On the contrary, he will be thrilled!
13. He’s committed to somebody else
Why, of course there’s always somebody else, lol! Everybody seems to be heartbroken nowadays. You can’t find one guy who’s ready for something new.
If your man has vanished from the face of the earth, that’s probably because there’s someone else on his mind.
It could be an ex-girlfriend he can’t forget, or someone new he met last week. Either way, he is devoted to her, and you are the one left hanging. Don’t ever allow that.
¿Por qué no encuentras a alguien nuevo tú mismo? ¿Cuándo fue el última vez ¿te has liado con alguien?
Prueba aplicaciones de citas en línea como Tinder. O contacta con alguien en las redes sociales que haya llamado tu atención. Si no, siempre puedes quedar con un chico en la vida real.
¿A qué esperas? ¡Da el primer paso!
14. Su mensaje era confuso
Before getting angry with him, first make sure that what you’re saying is clear.
Sí, debería haberte preguntado antes si había alguna confusión, pero quizá le incomoda.
If you notice that your message might be misinterpreted, don’t hesitate to text him first!
You don’t have to ask him if he understood your meaning. Just be like ”Hey, btw, what I meant was…” and remove any room for doubt.
But, yeah, if this is why you haven’t heard from him all day, you’ve got nothing to worry about.
15. He’s not that into you
As sad as it is, maybe you just don’t mean all that much to him. Maybe he was never too attached to you, which made it easier to walk away.
Piensa en cómo te trataba. ¿Cuánto tiempo te dedicaba? ¿Te darte por sentado?
A man who doesn’t love you will always give you the mínimo indispensable, thinking it’s more than enough. Everyone else will come before you. There will rarely be any peace in the relationship.
That’s a major red flag.
¿Ha sido éste su caso? ¿Cómo te has sentido en su presencia?
If you’re honest with yourself, your gut feeling will tell you if his feelings were real. And, if they weren’t, maybe it’s time to deja de perseguirlo.
¿Es normal no saber nada de un chico durante un día?
Depende de lo cerca que estés.
If you have had just one date, it’s normal not to text or call each other. It’s desirable, definitely, but not obligatory. And, it isn’t a sign he’s not interested either.
Podría ser un buen hombre who just prefers face-to-face conversations. Maybe he’s preparing to ask you on a segunda cita ¡antes de lo que piensa!
On the other hand, if you are in a relationship, it’s more understandable to be worried. But still, don’t jump to conclusions.
Just because this is happening doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Maybe something really important came up. Either way, as soon as he comes back, ask him all about it.
Should I Text A Guy If I Haven’t Heard From Him?
Sin duda, pero no en todas las circunstancias.
If he’s a guy you have just met, you might want to take it slow. After all, he didn’t have the time to get attached to you, so your clinginess might just drive him away.
No matter how much he initially liked you, he won’t like your controlling behavior.
Think about it. You’re not even his girlfriend yet, and yet you demand to know what only a girlfriend knows.
On the other hand, if he’s your boyfriend, go for it! You’re officially in a relationship, and you have every right to ask him about his whereabouts. Hazlo al día siguiente.
Still, pay attention to how you say the words. This isn’t about releasing your anger or despair. Maybe there is something serious at hand.
Even if there isn’t, he’s entitled to a day off! Just remind him to tell you about it next time.
Conclusión
See? Just because you haven’t heard from him all day doesn’t mean it’s all over. Patience is key. If you wait it out, you will know everything soon enough.
El consejo más importante para una relación es, como siempre, que te valores a ti misma más que a cualquier hombre. Tu salud mental es lo primero.
Sí, tal vez tenía una razón válida para no tender la mano. Pero, si usted nota que he just doesn’t care about you, it’s better to leave before your self-esteem decreases even more.
Te mereces un chico que te haga su prioridadun tipo que siempre devolverte el mensaje.
Find someone who always takes your feelings into consideration. I know it’s easier said than done, but the first step is letting go of those who don’t add to your happiness.
