12 maneras reveladoras de asumir la responsabilidad de tus actos
Una pregunta rápida: ¿Asume la responsabilidad de tus acciones o ¿tiendes a culpar a los demás de los acontecimientos de tu propia vida?
Si te gusta jugar al juego de la culpa, significa que renuncias a tu poder para cambiar a mejor. Tu vida es su responsabilidad personal y se sabe que las personas de éxito aceptan la plena responsabilidad de sus propios actos.
Este artículo trata sobre la aceptación de la responsabilidad y el trabajo para convertirse en un ser humano consciente de sí mismo y considerado.
We all, on occasion, make bad choices that lead us to do bad things. That doesn’t make you a bad person; it only means you’re flawed just like the rest of us.
To become a better person, you must learn to control your own behavior. Start using the ‘sin excusas‘ motto and start realizing that when you make mistakes, it’s on you.
When things go wrong and your hard work goes to waste, it’s vital to understand the importance of personal accountability because this leads to an una vida más fácil.
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Pero, ¿qué significa eso exactamente?
It means stepping up and accepting the role you play in your own life. It’s acknowledging the good stuff along with the bad.
Significa no mirar alrededor para señalar con el dedo, sino decir: “I messed up. And it was through no one else’s fault but my own.”
¿Por qué? Porque TÚ estás a cargo de lo que sucede en tu vida. Sí, hay personas a tu alrededor que influyen en algunas de las cosas que ocurren pero, en última instancia, tu vida = tu propia responsabilidad.
Si haces algo mal, discúlpate. Si tu mala elección le ha costado algo a alguien, ya sea material o emocionalmente, reconoce tu parte en ello.
Quizá se pregunte qué le aporta esto exactamente.
¿Qué le parece el desarrollo personal? ¿Qué le parece sustituir su personalidad negativa rasgos positivos?
¿Qué tal si aprendemos a llevar una vida plena no sólo para aparentar en Facebook y LinkedIn, sino también en la realidad?
The best way to get to that place is through self-discipline and self-respect. And with each small step in the right direction, you’ll start noticing changes in both your private and professional lives.
Now that you’re starting to realize that tú eres el único creador de tu propia felicidad, you’re ready to take it further.
A continuación se indican los pasos que te animo a dar en tu camino hacia la responsabilidad propia. Cada acción positiva te ayudará a recuperar tu autoestima y a tomar el control de tus actos.
En algún momento, tienes que dar un paso adelante y asumir la responsabilidad de tus victorias y tus derrotas. Y hoy es un buen día para hacerlo. Así que, ¡dale caña y haz que cuente!
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Cómo asumir la responsabilidad de tus actos
STOP con el juego de la culpa
El primer paso es aceptar la responsabilidad. Culpar a los demás e inventar excusas constantemente por tus dificultades y meteduras de pata es increíblemente fácil.
Do you know what isn’t? Accepting that usted‘re the one who caused your own suffering. Accepting that su faltas de carácter condujeron a una situación desafortunada.
La próxima vez que sientas el impulso de señalar con el dedo, quiero que te detengas un segundo y pienses.
¿Esa persona ha creado esta situación negativa o es tu ego el que te impide asumir tu desaguisado?
At first, it’ll suck. Trust me, I’ve been down that road. I always used to blame others whenever I was unable to do what I was supposed to or deliver on a promise.
It’s so easy to relinquish any personal responsibility and go through life playing the victim card.
Sólo una vez que te des cuenta de que el crecimiento personal es imposible hasta que dejes el juego de las culpas, podrás madurar en todos los aspectos que realmente importan.
Deja de buscar un chivo expiatorio y mírate en el espejo. Te guste o no, vas a tomar malas decisiones a lo largo del camino. Lo que hace buena a una persona es su capacidad para hazlo tuyo y aprender de ello.
Be true to your word and do what you say you’ll do
The first thing I’d like you to understand is that making promises you know you won’t be able to keep is never a wise move.
Not only does it make people lose trust in you but it also paints a picture of you as an unreliable person. So from today on, I want you to think twice before you make a promise you’re unlikely to keep.
It’s unfair to the people who count on you. If you’re not down with something, just say it. Nobody’s going to think less of you if you occasionally say no.
Siempre que des tu palabra a alguien, asegúrate de hacerla valer. Una persona es tan buena como su palabra.
Be someone your loved ones can count on and I guarantee you that your life will improve. If you said you’d do something, do whatever it takes to deliver.
Believe it or not, people don’t forget these things. The more trustworthy you are, the stronger your relationships will become.
Deja de ser pasivo y actúa para mejorar
Start being proactive. If you want to change, you’re going to have to make it happen for yourself. All changes start with you.
Ser pasivo o rodearte de emociones negativas, ira y resentimiento sólo va a arruinar tu autoestima. Deja de centrarte en el pasado y empieza a mirar hacia delante.
Whatever happened in the past is over. There’s no reason for you to dwell on something that’s gone. Asume la responsabilidad de tus acciones en el pasado y deja que te guíen hacia un futuro más proactivo.
Figure out what you want to do, what kind of person you’re eager to become and the best ways to get there.
Most importantly, don’t rush it. Follow your own pace, take small steps and look ahead. If you want to change for the better, you’re going to have to take action.
Embrace the ‘NO excuses’ mantra
¿Quieres progresar o seguir poniendo excusas? Con suerte, ya sabes la respuesta.
Poner excusas nunca te llevará lejos. Tanto si quieres tener éxito en tu vida profesional como en tu vida privada, la responsabilidad personal desempeña un papel fundamental.
Nobody’s going to hire an individual who can’t admit when they’re at fault. Nobody’s going to appreciate a coworker who keeps pointing fingers at them.
Y lo que es más importante, no relación romántica hasta que aprendas a asumir tu parte de culpa.
From now on, no excuses. Before you look at someone else, take a look within. It’s scary but oh so necessary.
Deja de compadecerte de ti mismo
The importance of a positive attitude cannot be stressed enough. Yes, life is going to bring you a fair share of drama and at times, you’ll even feel as if the world is out to get you. It’s not, though.
Bad things happen to every single one of us. One mess after another might feel like a personal attack but it’s just reality. A brutal, harsh reality.
Pero algo que nadie puede quitarte es tu actitud. ¡Tú eliges cómo dejas que las cosas te afecten!
Please don’t be that person. Don’t be someone who constantly feels sorry for themselves and expects pity. Life doesn’t take it easy on anyone.
Aguanta los golpes, levántate y persevera. Aprende a encontrar lo positivo en cualquier situación y renunciar a la mentalidad de víctima.
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Establezca objetivos realistas para su vida
Knowing your limitations is important. You don’t want to set yourself up for failure, right? So don’t! Be realistic about what you can and cannot accomplish regarding your future.
You know yourself better than anyone so you’ll be the best judge of what that is. La razón por la que esto es vital es que una sensación de logro te ayudará a ver tu autoestima.
In turn, you’re going to be less inclined to blame others for your mess-ups, as you’ll be more self-aware as a human being.
And accomplished, self-aware people don’t go around pointing fingers. They’re too busy making stuff happen for themselves. The only validation that you’ll ever need is your own.
Aprende a perdonarte a ti mismo cuando metes la pata
I am my own worst critic. When I do something wrong, no one is harder on me than myself. I guess that’s how most people are. But at what cost?
El mundo ya es bastante duro. Hay mucha gente dispuesta a derribarte y a disfrutar viéndote caer. ¿Por qué ibas a ayudarles a hacerlo?
Aprende la importancia de cuidar de ti mismo. Sé tu mejor amigo. Cuando hagas algo malo sin querer, perdónate. Todo el mundo comete errores.
If you’re willing to acknowledge it and learn from it, then you’re more than deserving of being forgiven. Kindness is so important, especialmente hacia ti mismo.
Reconocer y abandonar los malos hábitos
Taking responsibility for your actions (or a lack of them) is one of your habits, right? The first step toward betterment is pinpointing your bad habits. Looks like that part is covered. Now, it’s time to break away from it.
This is the tough part but I’m positive that by now, you’ve started seeing that it’s not impossible.
I’ve mentioned the importance of proactivity and the no-excuses mantra. The next time you sense that you might say something you know you’ll regret, stop yourself. Think about whether that is the right thing to do.
Don’t make an excuse as to why it is but rather acknowledge the mistake, apologize if needed and do better next time.
Deja de permitir que los demás influyan en cómo te ves a ti mismo
Someone’s opinion of you does not define you in any way, shape or form. So why would you let it affect you so badly?
I’ll be the first to admit that I tend to let others’ opinions get to me badly. Or should I say, used to let it get to me? Ever since I decided to take control of my life, things have changed significantly.
Ya no permito que nadie me controle. Ya no permito que extraños (o cualquier persona irrelevante) afecten a la opinión que tengo de mí misma.
I’ve realized that everyone has an opinion and that’s something I’ll never be able to change. But what I CAN change is my perspective. And que ha supuesto un gran cambio.
The only opinion that matters is your own! The sooner you realize it, the better you’ll feel for it.
Quiérete a ti mismo (con defectos y todo)
Quiérete a ti mismo los días en que te levantas y nada parece ir bien. Quiérete los días en que te sientas especialmente mal.
Love yourself even more when you don’t believe that there’s anything to love about you.
We are all just trying to find our way in this mess called life. But guess what? Life doesn’t come with instructions, so all you can do is wing it.
Just remember that no matter how bad things seem to be at the time, there’s one thing you should never forget…
To LOVE YOURSELF. Because if you don’t, who will?
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Rodéate de personas que te animen y te levanten el ánimo
Una de las cosas más importantes a la hora de superarse es rodearse de las personas adecuadas.
You need someone you can count on day and night. You need someone who won’t push you aside as you learn to take responsibility for your actions.
You deserve someone who’s going to love you en las buenas y en las malascon defectos y todo. No aceptes menos.
Reevalúe su círculo íntimo y elimine a quienes le menosprecian a usted y a sus decisiones. Cuanto mejor sea la gente que te rodea, más probabilidades tendrás de hacer cambios positivos en tu vida.
Good people encourage their friends and root for them behind their back. It’s not about how big your circle is; it’s the quality of it that makes all the difference.
Reconoce tus decisiones para aprender lo que NO debes volver a hacer
Every day, you’re faced with numerous choices. Those tiny moments that seem irrelevant but that can change your entire life.
Algunos son realmente fugaces y sin un gran impacto, pero otros conducen a cosas grandes e importantes.
A veces, esas cosas te llevan a tomar malas decisiones que acaban siendo lo último que querías que ocurriera, pero ahí estás. En momentos así, muestras tus verdaderos colores.
Will you be able to take responsibility for your actions and own up to that unintentional mistake? Or will you blame it on external factors that didn’t actually play a role in it?
Ser capaz de decir que has metido la pata te ayuda a crecer como ser humano. Te ayuda a madurar de formas que, en última instancia, tienen un gran impacto en quién eres como persona.
Reconoce tu mala elección y reconócela, aunque sólo sea para saber lo que tienes que hacer. no repetir nunca más.
Siempre hay dos opciones sencillas: Aceptar la culpa y rectificar la situación o señalar con el dedo y evitar aceptar la responsabilidad.
¿Cuál va a ser?
Citas sobre asumir la responsabilidad de tus actos
Como broche final y para ejemplificar la importancia de la responsabilidad personal, te ofrezco las citas más sugerentes sobre cómo asumir la responsabilidad de tus actos.
1. “It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are.” – Allanah Hunt
2. “Responsibility is the thing people dread most of all. Yet it is the one thing in the world that develops us, gives us manhood or womanhood fiber.” – Frank Crane
3. “When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” – Dalai Lama
4. “Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.” – Confucius
5. “The moment you take responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you can change anything in your life.” – Hal Elrod
6. “The power behind taking responsibility for your actions lies in putting an end to negative thought patterns. You no longer dwell on what went wrong or focus on whom you are going to blame. You don’t waste time building roadblocks to your success. Instead, you are set free and can now focus on succeeding.” – Lorii Myers
7. “The key is taking responsibility and initiative, deciding what your life is about, and prioritizing your life around the most important things.” – Stephen Covey
8. “Stop blaming other people for your own behavior! Own the truth. If you don’t like it, then invest the time and energy to change it.” – Akiroq Brost
9. “You are responsible for your life. You can’t keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.” – Oprah Winfrey
10. “Responsibility to yourself means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and naming for you; it means learning to respect and use your own brains and instincts; hence, grappling with hard work.” – Adrienne Rich
11. “If you want to change something about yourself, you need to be willing to take full responsibility for yourself. If you are going to hide behind stories and excuses, it won’t work!” – Akiroq Brost
12. “Take responsibility for your own happiness, do not expect people or things to bring you happiness, or you could be disappointed.” – Rodolfo Costa
13. “With freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry his own weight, this is a frightening prospect.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
14. “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” – Unknown
15. “Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility.” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer
16. “A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” – Denis Waitley
17. “Accepting personal responsibility for your life frees you from outside influences – increases your self-esteem – boosts confidence in your ability to make decisions – and ultimately leads to achieving success in life.” – Roy T. Bennett
18. “When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.” – George O’Neill & Nena O’Neill
19. “The disappearance of a sense of responsibility is the most far-reaching consequence of submission to authority.” – Stanley Milgram
20. “Character – the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life – is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion
21. “In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
22. “The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” – Steve Maraboli
23. “Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown
24. “Stop pointing fingers and placing blame on others. Your life can only change to the degree that you accept responsibility for it.” – Steve Maraboli
25. “There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction. The moment you are old enough to take the wheel, the responsibility lies with you.” – J.K. Rowling
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Si quieres aprender a responsabilizarte de tus actos, los 12 pasos anteriores son tu billete de oro para conseguirlo.
You can’t keep skating through life fault-free. There comes a time when you need to learn the importance of personal responsibility and start living your life accordingly.
Hazte cargo de lo que dices y haces y acepta las victorias y las derrotas. En pocas palabras, stop making excuses and decide that it’s time to start making progress.
