Tu dolor no define quién eres

Cuando experimentas un dolor emocional real, te rompe en pedazos, por muy fuerte que parecieras antes. Sientes como si el peso del mundo entero cayera sobre tus hombros.

Estás perdido, devastado, enfadado y amargado. Pero sobre todo, sientes una enorme tristeza que te agobia hasta el punto de que te cuesta incluso respirar correctamente.

Este dolor te impide funcionar y ha acabado por completo con la persona que solías ser.

You feel like you’ve lost your spark. You’ve become negative and pessimistic and all you can think about are the things you don’t have, instead of focusing on those you do.

Este dolor por el que estás pasando ha cambiado la esencia de tu personalidad, ha lastrado tu corazón, haciendo que deambules por tus días sin ningún objetivo y que sientas que ya nada en este mundo tiene un propósito.

It has bound you to the point that you’ve started thinking about it as the only emotion you could ever feel. You feel tied and caged by it, you feel like you are its prisoner, like this pain completely owns you.

You feel like you’ve lost your identity and individuality and the only thing you see about yourself is this all-consuming emotion that overwhelms you.

Y sientes que no hay salida, que no hay nada ni nadie que pueda salvarte de este abismo en el que te encuentras.

What you don’t know is that you are the only one who can save yourself if you stop allowing this pain to define you.

La gente te dirá a menudo no dejes que tu pasado te defina. What does that actually mean? It doesn’t mean that you should pretend like some things that were devastating for you in the past didn’t happen; they did and there is no point in running away from them.

Te cambiaron y, te guste o no, forman parte de lo que eres ahora. El dolor que sientes forma parte de lo que eres y eso no tiene nada de malo.

But the worst thing for you to do is to start perceiving it as more than just a part of your personality. And this is exactly what you’re doing. You are holding on to it like you have nothing else to offer.

But remember that the pain you are feeling and the negative things you’ve experienced only form a part of you—they don’t define you as a person and they never will.

If you hold on only to negative things you’ve experienced and if you are focusing on the pain as the only quality you have, you are allowing this para definirtesin ni siquiera ser consciente de ello.

Your past happened and your pain is still present but it shouldn’t be the only thing someone sees in you. And most importantly, it shouldn’t be the only thing you see in yourself.

No, you can’t erase this pain, as much as you would like to, but it can serve you as a life lesson, instead of being a roadblock.

All the pain you are feeling is just a test of your strength and it’s about time you start perceiving it that way. It is a part of your life journey and it is up to you whether you’ll choose to hold on to it or you’ll use it as fuel to drive forward.

Esto puede resultarte chocante, pero el dolor también puede servirte de motivación. Puede empujarte a hacer algunos cambios necesarios en tu vida o a apartar de ella a personas tóxicas.

But most importantly, it can teach you to put yourself first. It can help you see that you don’t actually need anyone in your life and that you could fight all of life’s difficulties on your own.

Y definitivamente te ayudará a ver a las personas que merecen un lugar en tu vida y en las que nunca deberías ni siquiera intentar confiar. Te ayudará a quererte a ti mismo, incluso cuando estés roto en pedazos.

Sentir dolor no tiene nada de vergonzoso, porque es lo que te hace humano. Lo que tienes que saber es que este sentimiento desaparecerá cuando menos te lo esperes. Puedes pensar que te perseguirá para siempre, pero créeme, es solo temporal.

There are great things waiting for you—you just need to be patient. And there will come a day when you’ll realize that everything you were going through right now was worth it. Just be patient.