La gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere. ¿Es cierto (y por qué)?
I don’t know about you, but whenever I am disappointed in fellow human beings for not making time for me, I immediately enter the overthinking zone.
Lo primero que me viene a la mente es: ¿Están enfadados conmigo?
He aquí otras preguntas complementarias: ¿He hecho algo mal? ¿No merezco su atención? ¿O tienen cosas más importantes que hacer en este momento?
Después de esta sesión de cavilaciones, respiro hondo y recuerdo este famoso dicho: La gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere. Y punto.
¿Qué significa esto realmente?
¿Estamos tan ocupados que dedicar nuestro tiempo a alguien o a algo se ha convertido en un lujo?
Are we unwilling to give our time to those who give their time to us just because we don’t feel like it? Have we become a nation of egocentric people who only think of their own needs?
As you can see, there are many reasons and theories for this “controversial” topic. Some of these reasons are totally valid, while others aren’t. Espero que mi análisis crítico de este tema le llene de conocimiento y sabiduría.
La gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere sacar tiempo
Todos sabemos que la gente tiene cosas que hacer. Lo que también sabemos es que la gente dedica su tiempo y energía a cosas que le INTERESAN. Recuerda esta frase porque puede ser un salvavidas en algunas circunstancias.
Así que, sí, la mayoría de la gente (incluida tidsoptimists) tienen una agenda muy apretada. Se distraen, se agotan (sobre todo si tienen relaciones ansiedad), u otras fuerzas externas pueden interferir en su deseo de dedicar tiempo a otras cosas o personas.
Pero al final, ni siquiera las personas más ocupadas están tan ocupadas o malo enviando mensajes de texto that they can’t find a few seconds or minutes of their time to send you a text. No one is so busy that they can’t spend quality time with you once a month or a few times a year.
La gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere y para quien quiere porque tiene sus propias prioridades. Si combinas esto con una falta de empatía y comprensión hacia los demás, ahí lo tienes: Una receta para hacer daño a los que te quieren.
Básicamente, podemos dividir a las personas en dos categorías:
• Those who make time for what they want because they don’t have any other choice at the moment.
• Those who make time for what they want because they don’t really care about other things or other people.
With that said, below you’ll find a list of valid and not-so-valid reasons why people choose to make time for what they want.
Razones válidas por las que la gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere
A veces, la gente está preocupada por trabajos exigentes, problemas de salud o asuntos familiares. En estas y otras circunstancias similares, dedicar tiempo a cualquier otra cosa se convierte en un lujo.
It’s difficult to prioritize other things when you aren’t at peace with yourself. He aquí algunas razones válidas por las que la gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere:
• A demanding and exhausting job.
No todos los trabajos son iguales. Algunos trabajos son diez veces más agotadores que otros, así que al final del día no te quedan fuerzas para nada más que dormir.
Después de algún tiempo, te conviertes en un robot desprovisto de alegría humana, tales como apreciar las pequeñas cosaso pasar tiempo con sus seres queridos.
If you’re a perfectionist with a demanding job, you’ll feel the urge to do everything in a “big way,” which can be exhausting.
• Health issues.
If you’ve ever watched the popular YouTuber known as Crazy Russian Hacker, then you’re familiar with the famous sentence that he says in every video: “Safety is the number one priority.”
I couldn’t agree more, but here’s my “advanced hypothesis”: Health should always be everyone’s first priority.
If you’re going through a period of life where you generally lack buena energía and you have poor health and low energy levels, then it’s no surprise that all your focus is directed on that.
• Family matters.
La salud y la familia son sin duda dos cosas a las que hay que dar prioridad por encima de todo.
Perhaps you stay at home every night to look out for your little sisters or brothers, you’re a single parent, or you have family issues that need to be addressed… All of these are legit reasons to make time for what you want – in this case, your family.
• Mental health problems.
You spend less time with others because you don’t experience relationships in the same way. The relationship you have with yourself is a burden, which is why you can’t focus on maintaining relationships with others.
Las enfermedades mentales conllevan emociones negativas que pueden impedir que te centres en hacer lo correcto. Además, aislofilia doesn’t count as a mental illness.
• Working on finding themselves and their purpose.
Todos tenemos caminos diferentes en la vida, y algunos aún estamos creando el nuestro. If you’re at that stage in your life, know that it’s an important reason and should be prioritized.
Regardless of whether you’re focused on encuentra tu propósito and passions or you’re going through the stages of spiritual awakening, working on finding and quiérete a ti mismo exige mucho tiempo y paciencia.
Razones no tan válidas por las que la gente saca tiempo para lo que quiere
The not-so-valid reasons are characteristic of people who are lost and don’t have clear goals and who are only interested in doing things they can get some kind of pleasure from. So, let’s see:
• Not finding 5 mins in their day to text or call you back because “they’re busy.”
Here’s a quick recap of my recent experience: Every single time I texted him, he would ignore it the whole day. When I asked him why he acted that way, he just said that he was too busy.
Well, here’s my humble conclusion: Gente egoísta don’t have a problem finding selfish ways to get what they want or not do what they don’t want.
Nunca habrá un momento perfecto para hacer algo. El trabajo importante no es más importante que las personas que te importan. Todos tenemos 5 minutos al día para enviar un mensaje de texto o llamar a alguien si queremos.
• Being constantly busy.
“Being constantly busy” is an “elegant way” to excuse yourself from doing things you don’t want to do. Even if they had the busiest schedule in the world, they’d still manage to find time for important people in their life. Why? Because it’s human nature.
A potential silver lining in all this is that if they’re constantly busy, they’re probably not worthy of being in your life. If you notice such signs, do yourself a favor and save yourself.
• Other lame excuses.
Algunas personas son muy poco comprensivas con los demás. Este tipo de personas se centran sobre todo en sí mismas y en cosas triviales, como pasar demasiado tiempo viendo la televisión y negarse a hacer otra cosa que no sea eso.
Prioritizing such things over spending time with people who love you shouldn’t become routine. Las excusas poco convincentes requieren tanto esfuerzo, más que ser honesto con uno mismo y otros.
How Do You Deal With People Who Don’t Have Time For You?
First of all, try to deal with it in a positive way. This means that you shouldn’t judge them or make them feel bad about their choices. It’s best to find a neutral way to tell them how their behavior makes you feel. An open and honest conversation is a must.
Si sus razones son válidas, dales algo de tiempo y espera a que se pongan en contacto contigo primero, cuando puedan. If they don’t, or if their reasons are totally invalid, then you have every right to cut off all contact and focus on people who are happy to spend time with you.
The biggest mistake you can make is to think that the problem is you. If you’re sure that the problem is not you but their lame excuses, then you shouldn’t let them make you question your self-worth.
En lugar de eso, sigue adelante. ¿Por qué? Because they don’t deserve to spend time with you, even if they want to. Life’s too short to waste time sobre esas personas.
How they treat others says a lot about how they perceive themselves and life in general. Do you really want to spend your time with superficial people who don’t care about your feelings and are only focused on themselves?
10 ‘People Make Time For What They Want’ Motivational Quotes
I’m sure these inspiring quotes summarize everything said above:
1. “People make time for who they want to make time for. People text and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they’ve been too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.” – Unknown
2. “Many things aren’t equal, but everyone gets the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We make time for what we truly want.” – Unknown
3. “Save the excuses. It’s not about ‘having time.’ It’s about ‘making time.’ If it matters, you will make time.” – Unknown
4. “You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.” – Charles Buxton
5. “When you really matter to someone, that person will always make time for you. No excuses, no lies, and no broken promises.” – Unknown
6. “The only people you need in your life are those who want you in theirs. Never make someone a priority if they only see you as an option.” – Unknown
7. “If someone wants to be part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.” – Unknown
8. “Don’t force someone to make time for you. If they really want to, they will.” – Unknown
9. “Nobody is ever too busy. If they care, they will make time.” – Unknown
10. “We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives.” – Unknown
Reflexiones finales
It’s true people make time for what they want. Also, people have different reasons when it comes to making or not making time for certain things and other people.
Sin embargo, al final todo se reduce a una cosa: donde hay voluntad, hay un camino. Everything else is just an excuse (unless we’re talking about one of those valid reasons above).
If this happens to you, don’t worry too much. Have enough patience to understand them. Also, tener el valor de seguir adelante when you have to. It’s as simple as that.
