La lista definitiva de cosas que te excitan: Edición para chicos y chicas

Do you have a personal list of turn ons (and turn offs)? I bet you do. Wait, what does turn ons mean in the first place? What turns a person on? Well, it’s a very unique and in-depth question that differs from person to person.

Lo que a uno puede parecerle increíblemente excitante, a otro puede repugnarle. A cada cual lo suyo.

Todos estamos conectados de forma diferente, así que no es de extrañar que tantas personas sigan encontrar cosas nuevas que les entusiasma.

Las fantasías son nuestra vía de escape de las limitaciones de nuestra vida cotidiana, donde podemos desprendernos de cualquier limitación y juicio ajeno y disfrutar de nuestros ardientes y secretos deseos.

Pero cuando se trata de fantasías, a menudo son muy diferentes de lo que nos excita en la vida real.

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In our fantasies, we allow ourself to delve deep into our most intimate parts of our body and mind and don’t really have any barriers.

Pero lo que nos excita en la vida real es otra historia.

What floats our boat in the sack isn’t necessarily in sync with our fantasías secretas and that’s awesome, as you find out more about yourself from these things than you thought you possibly could.

Los hombres y las mujeres tienen puntos de vista diferentes sobre lo que les excita y les hace enloquecer de deseo sexual, y lo que funciona para los hombres no suele ser el caso de las mujeres y viceversa.

Firstly, we’re going to focus on what men find incredibly stimulating and appealing in women. What most of you will find most peculiar is the fact that not all of these things are of a physical nature.

Hay otros más sutiles formas de excitar a un chico and make him want you beyond your wildest dreams and you don’t even have to touch him to achieve it… Permítanme explicar.

Aquí tienes todas las formas de excitar a un chico sin tocarle.

Lo que más excita a los hombres

Toma el control y da el primer paso.

Aunque la idea de acercarse primero a un chico y exponerte a pedirle salir primero puede parecer desalentador, piensa en todos los aspectos positivos.

Firstly, you’re showing him how intrépida y feroz que eres poniendo el control en tus propias manos.

And he’s going to love a girl who doesn’t hesitate when she sees something that she wants!

Secondly, it’s going to give you courage to do this again (should this not work, of course) and see exactly what works and what doesn’t, by learning from your mistakes.

And thirdly, the worst thing that can happen is him saying, “No,” right? You can suck it up, it’s literally 2 seconds of your life, and then you can turn around and never see this dude again in your life!

But my guess is, he’s going to love a girl who knows what she wants and goes after it.

And he’s going to appreciate the fact that you don’t feel like men have to do everything first, so bonus points for that!

Look him straight in the eye (it’ll drive him nuts!)

Contacto visual is one of the surest ways to get a man’s attention and haz que te desee mucho (especialmente durante makeout caliente sessions). It’s one of the most powerful things on the list of turn ons for men.

I know it’s a little scary to lock eyes with a guy you literally just met as it makes you feel a little vulnerable… but guess what?

Eye contact is freaking sexy and it’s a big turn-on to every guy! As a matter of fact, it’s one of the top turn-ons for them.

It doesn’t even matter whether you two just met or if you’ve been going out for a while.

When you’re sitting at a bar and talking about literally anything, make sure to keep eye contact and make him see how interested you are, in both him and what he has to say.

It’s a surefire way to make him realize you’re not messing around and that you want him. Badly.

And in turn, he’s going to get really excited about where this date might end… Just keep your eyes on the prize, and don’t forget to collect at the end of the night.

Ponle cachondo con los mensajes de texto.

If you’ve been with a guy for a while, this won’t be a problem but even if you’ve only been on a few dates, this is the perfect opportunity to break the ice and start with some steamy texting sessions.

There’s no better time than now, right? Then let’s get to it.

If you’re still not ready for a full-on sesión de sexting, that’s okay, it’ll come to you with time…

De momento, puedes empezar con algo un poco más inocente. Aquí tienes algunas ideas para incluir en la lista de cosas que excitan a los chicos:

• I just got out of a long, hot shower… I wish you were here to help me dry off…
• My favorite pajamas are in the laundry, ah well… I guess I’ll have to wear that Camiseta te fuiste de aquí a la cama.
• Idea para mañana. Netflix and chill? With a huge emphasis on the ‘chill’ part. ?
• Too bad our date had to end so abruptly… But hey, there’s no telling what tomorrow may bring… Can’t wait to make it up to you!
• Last night blew my mind! Ready for round two tomorrow? God knows I am… Clothing optional.

Depending on how long you’ve been seeing each other, choose one of these and enciéndelo without having to move a muscle. You’ll be thanking me later.

¡Vístete de ROJO!

In case you didn’t already know, it’s a known fact that the color red can increase a person’s blood pressure and heart rate, so use it to your advantage!

It’s widely known that it represents the color of passion, so enciéndelo! If you put on any red article of clothing, it’s a guaranteed turn-on.

He’ll desire you that much more, especially if that happens to be a hot dress (though it’s not required).

If you’re not feeling so daring, you don’t necessarily need to wear red on your body… your lips will do just fine! Many studies and new surveys have shown that men are much more drawn to women who wear fiery red lipstick (even though they don’t like too much make-up on a girl)!

Así que elige una de estas dos vaporosas opciones y asegúrate de que se le acelera el pulso y se le salen los ojos de las órbitas. Sólo hay que tener cuidado de no encenderlo demasiado (especialmente en un primera cita)

Ten una señal secreta que signifique pensamientos traviesos.

Esto es un camino seguro ¡para excitar a tu chico hasta los huesos! (Juego de palabras.)

Here’s what you should do. Come up with a secret signal (it could also be a random word that only you two will know the true meaning of) for when you’re feeling naughty (léase: caliente) y quieras salir de donde estés y ponerte a ello.

¡Saber que sólo vosotros dos entendéis ese gesto o señal es caliente a su manera, pero también la idea de escabullirse e ir a algún lugar inapropiado para hacérselo es un nivel completamente nuevo de HOT!

He’s going to be so turned on (as will you, let’s be honest) and he’ll take you the moment you sneak into the restaurant bathroom or wherever the hell you two are. If you add some frases de dirty talk to the equation, girl, he’ll lose his mind over you!

And then, going back, as if nothing ever happened, is going to be so satisfying and it’s going to make you so pleased with yourselves.

Esa señal puede ser tan simple como un guiño de ojos o sacudirte el pelo, pero también puede ser una palabra al azar que incluyas en la conversación y que sólo vosotros dos sepáis que significa un rapidito en el baño.

Caliente, ¿tengo razón? Ahora ve a buscar tu hombre e inventa tu palabra clave, así podrás intentarlo la próxima vez que quieras hacer algo loco, sexy y salvaje, sin que nadie lo sepa.

Pretend you’re total strangers at a bar!

This works especially well if you’ve been together for a while and want to spice things up a bit.

First, you go to a bar and sit by yourself. Then your man can come along and introduce himself as if it’s the first time you’ve met each other. You play along, let him sit, buy you a drink and chat you up.

You can decide how you want this to play out. You can do this little role-playing bit for the rest of the evening if you wish. Let him seduce you as if he’s really trying to win you over and don’t make it easy on him. Make him sweat a little.

And when you finally let your guard down, you can take him home, and keep pretending like you don’t know each other… and let the fantasy take over.

There’s this raw sexual aspect of seducing a stranger in a bar. It makes a guy feel confident and capable and boosts his ego.

So give him the satisfaction and do as he pleases that night… stroke his ego (among other things… guiño, guiño) y hacer realidad sus fantasías.

He’ll be so turned on and EXCITED about your next role-play session. He won’t mind doing anything your mind can come up with.

Ambos podéis sacar provecho de este juego divertido y sexy. Juega bien tus cartas y tu hombre estará encantado.

Let him know you’re not wearing underwear!

Muy bien, chicas, sé que esto no necesita explicación. Si ya habéis tenido relaciones íntimas, este es el movimiento perfecto para excitaros al instante.

If he’s picking you up for a date, make sure to let him know you’re going commando by slowly and quietly whispering it in his ear as you’re entering the restaurant.

Don’t even look at him. Just say it and keep walking with a subtle smile on your face and just know that he is barely restraining himself at that very moment. Ser un coqueto diosa y deja que aumente la expectación.

Just imagine how fun it’s going to be when you finally leave the restaurant and get inside your bedroom… he’s going to go crazy for you. And I mean bien loco.

Making him wait for something can only increase his excitement and make it that much more worthwhile for you in the end. There’s a reason they say patience is a virtue.

Now that we’ve covered all the non-physical ways to turn a guy on, let’s get a little physical.

Ahora que ya conoces todas las formas sexys y picantes de ponerle cachondo sin necesidad de tocarle (aunque las caricias son más que bienvenidas después), hay otras formas de conseguir exactamente el mismo resultado que implican contacto físico:

¡Dale un masaje!

I really don’t understand why people think that girls are the only ones who love massages, when guys enjoy them just as much, if not more!

Después de llegar a casa tras un largo día de trabajo, asegúrate de hacer que tu chico se siente en el sofá, se relaje a tu lado y le sorprendas con un buen masaje en los pies (que puede ser preliminares increíbles).

Get some oil and slowly and gently rub it on his feet and move upwards if you want to take things a little further (and I bet he definitely wouldn’t mind).

Massage him with soft touches and get a little sensual as you move onto his next body part and from there, I’m pretty sure you know what to do.

Prohíbele usar las manos.

Make it known that you’re in the mood but also establish some ground rules. You’re going to make him really happy… but under one condition. He is not allowed to use his hands.

That’ll make him crazy horny! If necessary, tie him to the bed and get to work. Slowly undress him and gently caress his body from his head to his toes.

No podrá hacer otra cosa que gemir de excitación y dar gracias a Dios por una novia tan fantástica, sexy, imaginativa y gran vida sexual.

And when it’s time for the main act, it’s your decision whether to keep his hands off limits or untie him. Decide what will turn him on more and get going.

¡Intercambiar fantasías!

Tell him a secret fantasy that you’ve never told anyone and make him do the same.

Think of the sexual turn-ons you’ve got and spare no details. Not only will it turn him on, it will turn you on as well! And then carefully listen to his and if you’re not already on edge, you will be by the time he tells his story.

The whole point is to exchange sexy secret desires from trying new sex toys to kinks you’d never say aloud and if you’re feeling daring, make them come to life! I bet you’re turned on just thinking about this right now.

Go get him and delve deep into his secret desires, it’ll make you crazy satisfied in the end.

Ponte la lencería que más le guste de ti.

There’s nothing sexier than una mujer ferozmente segura de sí misma who isn’t shy about showing her hot body!

And knowing that you have those sexy, lacy, red panties on, accompanied by a red, tiny bra… it’ll be a huge turn on for you, let alone for him.

Make him work for it and when you’ve had enough of teasing him, let him take your clothes off one article at a time… and be (pleasantly) surprised to see what you’re wearing.

No sólo se pondrá muy cachondo al verte así de sexy sino que te hará sentirse sexy y poderoso también.

¡Véndale los ojos!

Another way to seduce your guy is to break out the good, old blindfold! By doing that, you are denying him one of his senses, so he’s going to have to rely on his other ones to please you and his attention will be exactly where it needs to be.

He will be extra-sensitive to touch, as he won’t see it coming, so his excitement will be at an all-time high.

Probablemente se le pondrá la piel de gallina, esperando impaciente tu siguiente caricia, sin saber cuándo esperar que le llévalo a la ciudad de los locos.

The anticipation is what makes it so hot. He won’t be able to tell where you’ll touch him or kiss him next… so it will be one of his most memorable sexual encounters with you.

Okay, so now we’ve covered the ways guys love to be turned on and exactly how to do it in great detail.

Now that you’re fully equipped, you know what to do, ladies. And as for us girls, here are some sensual ways how you guy can return the favor and make your girl moan with excitement, in more ways than one.

Desafíos para los hombres

Si quieres excitar a tu chico como una profesional, aquí tienes algunas cosas que deberías evitar hacer:

• Actuar como una zorra
• Uñas extralargas
• Mala higiene
• Llevar demasiado perfume
• Actuar mal
• persistente
• Hablar como un bebé en el momento y lugar equivocados

La lista de cosas que excitan a las chicas

Tell her you think she’s beautiful

This may sound cheesy to you but we’re really not that complicated! If you want to turn us on and make us feel special, you just need to use the right words.

Here’s the dealio. Tell your girlfriend how amazing you think she looks, when she least expects it, and she’ll be appreciative in more ways than one, if you’re lucky.

Acércala a tu lado de la cama cuando te despiertes.

Trust me, she’ll love this. Feeling secure in your arms as she is opening her eyes is the best way to start her morning.

Esto le ayudará a relajarse y a sentirse protegida. Ni que decir tiene que también enciéndela. And if she’s feeling giving, it’ll pay off for you as well.

Toca suavemente su rodilla bajo la mesa

It doesn’t have to be too sexual, just slowly and secretly brush her knee with your hand, without anyone noticing, or you can use your leg instead.

She’ll love the unexpected touch and probably get turned on by it. Unexpected touches have the power to drive anyone crazy (especially when they’re done in public). Try it!

Hazla reír

Ser capaz de hacerla reír es una de las cualidades más importantes y atractivas de un hombre. No hay nada más sexy que un buen sentido del humor y saber exactamente qué hará llorar de risa a tu chica.

Perhaps you haven’t thought of it like this before, but a great sense of humor is definitely on the list of excitación femenina porque nos ayuda a relajarnos y demuestra esfuerzo. Y esforzarse es muy sexy.

And after she’s done laughing, there’s going to be plenty more action that follows. Girls really aren’t that complicated. Make her laugh and she’ll make it worthwhile.

Susúrrale al oído

I don’t know about you but I personally LOVE when a guy is whispering in my ear or nibbling my ear.

Here’s a tip for guys: It doesn’t even matter what you’re saying, as long as you put your face so close to hers and make her feel your warm presence next to her.

She will find it so hot and if you accompany it with a sexy little message in her ear… there will be goosebumps everywhere.

Dale un masaje después de un día difícil en el trabajo

A good massage is always on the list of turn-ons. There doesn’t even need to be an excuse to give your girl a massage. Just show her your appreciation by gently massaging her neck, feet, or whichever part of the body you feel like.

Le encantarán tus caricias por todo el cuerpo. Además, hay muchas posibilidades de que esto se convierta en algo un poco más sensual (o tórrido) en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.

After you’re finished with massaging her, going down on her would be a nice and smooth transition (if she feels like it, of course).

As for oral sex, here’s something interesting.

Un estudio de EdenFantasys ha analizado lo que más excita a hombres y mujeres cuando se trata de sexo. El 76% por ciento de los hombres afirma que practicar sexo oral a su pareja les excita enormemente, frente a sólo el 56% por ciento de las mujeres.

Sorpresas

Most girls really can’t resist una agradable sorpresa, be that sending her roses to her workplace, picking up her favorite candy bar on your way home, or getting her that pair of earrings she’s been eyeing for weeks.

La cuestión es que vea que la escuchas. Estará muy agradecida y te lo agradecerá, y sólo Dios sabe todas las maneras en que puede agradecértelo.

Put her legs on top of you as you’re relaxing on the couch

A ella le encantará este gesto, ya que demuestra lo mucho que aprecias su cercanía y su tacto.

Le encanta sentirse cerca de ti y este gesto aparentemente pequeño es una forma segura de hacerla sonreír por dentro.

Ella apreciará esta pequeña muestra de afecto más de lo que usted es capaz de comprender ahora mismo.

Tócala tan a menudo como puedas

Girls love to feel your touch. It’s really that simple.

It doesn’t matter where you are, you could be at home, sitting on your couch, or at a bar, surrounded by friends… Touch her whenever you can and she’ll love every second of it.

El contacto físico inocente nos hace sentir muy deseados y calientes, y probablemente le ocurra lo mismo a tu chica. Un toque suave puede llegar muy lejos.

Bésala por todas partes

Girls love to be kissed, that’s no secret. But instead of just kissing her lips, start somewhere else (like neck kisses).

Start kissing the back of her neck and slowly move to the front, then go down a little, around her breasts and wherever your imagination takes you. Be sensual as you’re undressing her.

Also, don’t be focused just on her lips. She will be all over you before you know it.

Desafíos para las chicas

Si quieres impresionar a tu chica y excitarla, evita hacer estas cosas:

• Calzado de mal gusto
• Malos hábitos de aseo
• Ser insistente
• Actuar con arrogancia
• Aburrirla
• Mirar fijamente a otras mujeres
• Preocupación por el sexo

¡Que aproveche!

I hope you’ve enjoyed the list of turn ons for him and her and that you’ll try some or all of the things above in the near future (if you haven’t already).

Antes de que te vayas, tengo una pregunta para ti. ¿Qué le excita? I’m sure you have more than one, so don’t be ashamed to share it with your partner (wink). Have fun!