Las chicas más fuertes tienen padres de mierda

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, aprendes a cuidar de ti mismo. You don’t wait for people to help you to solve your problems but you do that on your own.

And you don’t do that because you want to but because you have to. Because no matter whether you want to or not, there is nobody around to protect you and to take care of you. You need to do it all by yourself.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, dejas de creer en el amor. You don’t think anyone could love you since the closest member of your family didn’t love you. He didn’t fight for you.

He was never there for you, to tell you how proud he is for everything that you accomplished. So you don’t understand how someone else, a total stranger, could embrace you and love you to infinity just the way you are.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, aprendes a poner límites. No aguantarás ninguna mierda de la gente que te rodea, aunque sólo tengan un mal día.

You will cut off every problem with people as soon as they pop up and even if you will sometimes be rough with them, you won’t feel bad about it.

Because that is the only way you can function. That is your defense mechanism and you don’t know any better. That is the real you.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, echarás de menos el amor toda tu vida. Y no importa cuántas personas vengan y te den todo lo que tienen, seguirá habiendo un hueco en tu corazón, esperando a que alguien especial venga a llenarlo.

There will be a void but unfortunately it will never be completely filled. You will always miss your father’s love and affection and you will carry that sorrow with you toda tu vida.

When you are raised by a shitty father, you will be convinced that you don’t deserve love. Because if your father couldn’t love you, then something is wrong with you.

And you will have low self-esteem your entire life, thinking it was all your fault. You will believe you are a failure and that because of this, even your father couldn’t accept you the way you are.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, tienes una visión diferente de la vida. Ves las cosas como son y no como quieres que sean.

You don’t daydream but you stick to what you can do with your own two hands. You never ask for help from anyone and you learn to stand up for yourself.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, aprendes a ser fuerte e independiente. You don’t ask for anyone’s help and you handle your problems by yourself.

You are your own best friend because you struggle to trust people. You don’t want anyone you have to rely on because you do that for yourself the best. You are your own rock and you don’t need anyone to save you.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, aprendes que la vida no es fácil. Y por eso, decides ser tan fuerte como puedas. Consigues todo lo que quieres de forma justa y nunca suplicas a nadie que te ayude.

Te rodeas de gente positiva porque un hombre tóxico fue suficiente para toda tu vida.

Cuando te cría un padre de mierda, te esfuerzas por ser lo más diferente posible a él. You even change the way you take a drink just so someone won’t say you are like your dad. You change from the root, with all your power, so people won’t see how much alike you are.

Cuando tienes un padre de mierda, haces todo lo que está en tu mano para ser la mejor versión de ti mismo. No porque quieras, sino porque deseas que tus hijos nunca tengan que pasar por todo lo que tú pasaste.

You don’t want to be anything similar to the one who created you and abandoned you. You want to be more than that.

You don’t want to be someone your kids would be ashamed of but rather a person they will be proud of.

Christine is the author of ‘Mirar fijamente a los ojos de la ansiedad y la depresión’, a book that will change the way you fight anxiety and depression.