Aunque no lo superes del todo, aprenderás a vivir sin él

Estoy seguro de que esto no es algo que quieras oír en este momento, pero la verdad es que hay veces en las que nunca superas a la persona que una vez amaste. Siempre se quedan con una pequeña parte de ti y a veces, nunca vuelves a ser la persona que solías ser.

No, this doesn’t mean that this person was tu alma gemela. It doesn’t mean that you won’t find a man you’ll love more than you loved him and it certainly doesn’t mean that you’ll spend the rest of your life missing him the way you miss him now.

Pero lo cierto es que, a veces, la persona a la que tanto querías te cambia para siempre. Siempre los recuerdas de alguna manera, por mucho que intentes borrar de tu memoria el hecho de que alguna vez existieron.

E incluso cuando crees que ese hombre es sólo parte del pasado y que hace tiempo que se olvidó, su imagen aparece justo delante de tus ojos, de la nada. Percibes su colonia en algún lugar a lo lejos o ves a alguien que se le parece y vuelven todas las mariposas.

Hay algunos corazones rotos que siempre permanecen atascados en algún lugar profundo dentro de ti y simplemente no hay nada que puedas hacer al respecto. Cuando se trata de algunos hombres, te quedas preguntándote para siempre qué podría haber sido de vosotros dos y nunca los superas del todo.

But one thing is for sure—you learn to live without them, sooner or later. And this is exactly what will happen with this guy as well.

I won’t lie to you—there is a possibility that you never forget all about him. But before you know it, he’ll no longer be the first or the last thing that goes through your mind every single day.

Before you know it, you’ll get used to his absence and you won’t crave his presence anymore. You’ll get used to this person not being a part of your life. And you’ll be OK without him.

One of these days, you’ll start smiling without any particular reason. You’ll hear his name and your heart won’t skip a beat the way it used to.

You’ll stop looking for him on the other side of the bed and your sheets will lose his scent. You won’t think he is calling you every time your phone rings and you’ll stop expecting his text every minute of every day. You’ll accept the fact that te bloqueó y verlo como lo mejor que te ha pasado en mucho tiempo. 

One of these nights, you won’t even notice that you didn’t cry yourself to sleep. You’ll look forward to a new day, even though you’ll know that he won’t be in it.

One of these days, you’ll take off your rose-tinted glasses and you’ll see this man for who he’s really been all of this time. You’ll stop idealizing him and you’ll finally see all of his flaws and imperfections.

You’ll accept that it was for the better that things turned out the way they did. You’ll accept that you would probably never be happy around this guy, you’ll see all of your incompatibilities and differences and you’ll realize that you weren’t meant to last forever.  

One of these days, you’ll accept the fact that he’s gone and that he isn’t coming back. You won’t expect to see him on your doorstep, asking for forgiveness and just like that—you’ll stop waiting for him.

Just like that, you’ll stop counting the days which have passed since his departure. You’ll stop measuring the time before and after him and you won’t feel like a part of you is missing just because he is not there by your side.

Puede que pienses en él en su cumpleaños o en la fecha de vuestro aniversario. Puede que te pongas triste cuando te enteres de que se ha casado, pensando en cómo debería haber sido vuestra boda.

You’ll probably spend the next few hours replaying your relationship in your head every time you see him pass by you.

Pero sanarás. Sobrevivirás y seguir adelante. The pain won’t be all-consuming the way it is now and your heart won’t ache forever—I promise you that.