¿Te han dejado? Los 9 mejores movimientos

A todos nos ha pasado. Sin ninguna razón ni aviso, tu pareja te deja como si nunca hubieras significado nada para ella. Es un asco. 

It’s easy for other people to tell you things like “You’ll heal fast, you’ll move on sooner than you think,” or “You’re better off without them anyway, don’t feel bad about it,” but it doesn’t help.

We feel hurt, disappointed, and confused anyway. And no matter how hard we try, we just can’t stop thinking about it and why it happened.

Sin embargo, la verdad es que no importa cuánto duela, el tiempo curará. Pero hasta que ocurra, esto es lo que debes hacer para que duela menos.

En primer lugar, llora

You’re allowed to let out your feelings and do whatever you think is going to help you. Cry, break some plates, eat as much chocolate as you want, or anything else that could ease your pain.

Que te deje alguien a quien quieres duele y lo peor para ti sería reprimir esos sentimientos.

Llama a la persona en la que más confíes, cuéntale cómo te sientes y pídele que sea tu hombro sobre el que llorar.

Si crees que mereces una explicación, llama a tu ex y pídele que hablen de ello.

If you feel like you won’t be able to move on without proper closure, call your new ex-partner and ask him to meet and talk.

As much as it hurts – and I know that it really does – just don’t show him that you’re suffering.

Ask him only to explain his reasons for the breakup, but don’t beg for another chance or be pathetic. Don’t humiliate yourself for someone who doesn’t deserve you at all.

Dedíquese más tiempo a sí mismo

Dedicate yourself to self-care. Don’t lock yourself in your bedroom, consoling yourself with sweets and wearing pajamas all day long. Don’t do that to yourself.

Dar prioridad a amor propio otra vez. Don’t neglect the relationship you have with yourself. Now would be the worst time to do that. 

Recuerda: La única persona que puede ayudarte a seguir adelante eres tú y sólo tú.

Reúne a tus amigos y salid

Call your friends and ask them to hang out. Hit the club or, if you aren’t still ready for that just yet, you can keep it low key and have dinner at your favorite restaurant.

Talk with them about the breakup. If some of them are your mutual friends, though, then you might want to avoid that topic in front of them – you never know if they will tell it to your ex.

Don’t badmouth your ex, you’re better than that

Por mucho que alguien te haga daño, intenta siempre ser la mejor persona al final. Because that’s all that matters.

Don’t talk trash about your ex; you’ll probably regret it later. Maybe things have ended badly between you guys, but that person was a part of your life for some time and you should respect it.

Los mensajes de texto en estado de embriaguez son un gran NO

While you’re out with your friends, of course, you can have a few drinks, if you really think that drowning your sorrows will help.

However, before you go out and get drunk, leave your phone at home or give it to your bestie and tell her that she shouldn’t give it to you, no matter what.

Enviarle a tu ex un mensaje borracho sería definitivamente un error that you’ll regret the next day.

Don’t try to make your ex jealous and hope it’ll bring him back

If you think that flirting with another guy in front of your ex or dating someone new will make your ex jealous and want to reconcile, I hate to break it to you, but it won’t.

You’ll just end up even more disappointed and hurt after it fails. Dedicate this post-breakup time to yourself only.

Haz algo que te alegre

I bet there’s something or someone that can make you happy every time. Then hang out with those people or do those things. Let it help you heal and forget your ex and the breakup.

Sólo respira y vuelve a disfrutar de tu soltería lo mejor que puedas

Just remember that you enjoyed life and were happy before you even met your ex – and trust me, you’ll be happy again. The right one will come into your life, but until then, embrace and disfruta de tu soltería. 

Give yourself some time and you’ll see. You’ll fall in love with yourself and life again. This will all be just a part of your past, a scar on your heart, and nothing more.