Esta es la razón por la que parece que los narcisistas pueden sobrevivir a todo
Parece que pase lo que pase, un narcisista siempre encuentra la manera de caer de pie.
Todo el mundo a su alrededor queda herido, enfadado y devastado, y ellos, de alguna manera, se las arreglan para encontrar la forma de superar cualquier desastre que se encuentren o que creen.
Después de todo they’ve done to you, it’s even more frustrating to see them continuing their life as if absolutely nothing has happened.
So, how do they do it? How come it’s possible for them to survive every kind of tragedy without a scratch?
First, we have to think about what “a tragedy’’ means to a narcissist.
We can’t compare them to our standards of basically anything that involves emotional attachment because their way of experiencing and perceiving emotions is very different than our own.
One mistake we all make is to try to apply the rules that work for us to their lives – and that’s just wrong.
¿Por qué? Me di cuenta de esto después de muchos años de lucha contra la ira y la ansiedad causada por un narcisista en mi vida.
Esto es lo que he descubierto: Voy por la vida utilizando la empatía, la lógica y las emociones para equilibrar lo que ocurre en mi vida y tomar decisiones.
Pienso en los demás y en si mis acciones les harán daño, e intento evitar causarles un dolor innecesario.
A narcissist, on the other hand, has a completely different thought process. When I go through something horrific, I process that tragedy through my emotional responses, and they don’t.
What’s a tragedy to me is not a tragedy for them. They see the world through their personal gain.
Actúan de la manera que creen que es mejor para sus intereses en lugar de seguir sus impulsos emocionales.
Entonces, ¿cómo parecen sacudirse las emociones negativas tras perder algo que les interesaba?
That’s where the other aspect of their personality sets in.
Los narcisistas viven una mentira.
Que pasen por cualquier caos que creen sin pestañear es sólo una ilusión.
They seem like the luckiest, wittiest, most charming person in the room while they’re actually using all their energy to appear that way.
They are never actually happy. They spend most of their lives feeling so low that when something devastating happens it doesn’t even feel new to them.
They appear like they’re flying and they never seem to fall, but that’s because they were crawling all along.
They don’t easily land on their feet after a disaster as they are never actually on their feet.
They live in a fantasy world that they seem to have created to hurt people around them in order to try and spread their negativity and, just because they can’t seem to reach any high, pull everyone down with them.
Se concentran tanto en ganar, no porque realmente busquen la victoria, sino porque quieren que los demás vean lo exitosos que son.
That’s why they’ll do anything in their power to make it look like they’re always on top. Losing – or better yet – looking defeated, is the end of the world for a narcissist.
Never believe anything they say, not even when their lies are supported by evidence, because they’ll sacrifice everything and everyone to put on a show where they are the most superior being walking the earth.
El mayor miedo que tiene una persona narcisista es que la gente empiece a resolver todo esto y verlos como realmente son.
Incluso cuando eso empieza a ocurrir, se ponen a trabajar a toda máquina, engañando y mintiendo para presentarse de la mejor manera posible.
Lo que hay que entender de un narcisista es que tiene la creencia de que puede hacer cualquier cosa.
Se convirtieron en lo que son luchando contra la tristeza, el dolor, el abandono y atravesando dificultades.
They’ve created a coping mechanism that makes them believe they can do and be whatever they like, and they go through life with this attitude that no harm can be done to them and they can rise above any kind of misfortune.
Ultimately, they’ve built a world of deception, illusion, and fantasy in which they are the only ones who make decisions about what’s real and what’s not.
La realidad tiene muy poco impacto en la forma en que se sienten porque carecen de razón y empatía para aceptar la influencia de los demás.
If you’re sick of feeling annoyed, hurt, or angered by how a narcissist in your life seems to always find their way out of everything, just know that their life is completely fake – and ultimately – pathetic and sad.
