Esta es la razón por la que debes alejarte de él aunque duela

Cuando amar de verdad a un hombre, you follow your heart blindly, and you don’t listen to reason.

You ignore that voice in the back of your head telling you that he doesn’t treat you well and that you deserve much more than what he can give you.

When you love a man, you’re ready to do whatever it takes just to save your relationship and avoid a painful heartbreak. You never want to abandon this guy, even if there are millions of things telling you that this is exactly what you should do.

You don’t want to walk away from him even when he’s the main cause of your misery – even though you’re aware that he’s the only one responsible for all of this pain that’s been eating you alive.

Even if he’s the one making your life a living hell. Even when you know that this man doesn’t deserve you, that your needs aren’t met, that he is wrong for you, and even when his toxicity is threatening to ruin you completely.

You don’t want to leave him alone to fight with his demons, and you continue hoping that you’ll manage to bring him to the light.

You’re willing to sacrifice your self-respect for him. You’re convinced that you’ll manage to save him.

But somehow, this isn’t happening. Instead, you’re the one who is slowly being pulled down into his darkness.

En lugar de salvarlo y hacer su trabajo de relaciones, you’re allowing him to destroy your propia vidasin que te des cuenta.

Y es exactamente por eso por lo que necesita marcharse de este tipo en este instante, a pesar de la profundidad de tus emociones por él. Por eso necesitas salvarte de él, y la única manera de hacerlo es elegir el amor propio por encima del amor que sientes por él.

Sí, real el amor necesita trabajo duro, and you can’t just leave the moment things get rough.

It takes a lot of patience, effort, and energy for two people to build a healthy relationship, and you shouldn’t give up on your loved one at the first glance of trouble, an unanswered phone call, or ignored text messages.

But love isn’t pain. Because there is nothing romantic in staying next to someone who’s crushing you to pieces with every new day that dawns. Someone who can’t hablar durante 20 segundos sin decir sólo mentiras. 

No hay nada poético en el dolor devastador de permitir que un narcisista y un relación tóxica para seguir rompiéndote el corazón.

Porque amor verdadero should never hurt, and it should never bring you more sadness than happiness. It shouldn’t be this difficult, and it definitely shouldn’t make your life harder.

Hacer todos los sacrificios por el bien de la otra persona no es prueba de tu amor por ella. Perderte a ti mismo y luchando todas las batallas solo aren’t signs of your devotion to your relationship.

Instead, these are signs that you don’t respect and love yourself the way you should.

As a matter of fact, when a man figures out that he’s your whole life, he won’t see you as a high quality woman and, therefore, he’ll never stop dándote por sentado. And no matter how much you’ve been fighting for him, you’ll end up running in circles. 

Pasar tiempo con un hombre así es más una maldición que una bendición. 

Así que, por favor, haz lo correcto: acaba con esta agonía. Márchate de él y en serio. Olvida el primera vez lo conociste, impídele mensajes de texto y sálvate antes de que te rompa por completo.

Déjalo. and choose yourself over him before it’s too late. 

And even if your man wants you to stay and begs you not to leave him, don’t fall for his fake, selfish behavior because his only motive is to feed his big ego. The reason why he’s doing it is because he’s the wrong man.

Así que, en lugar de luchar por el hombre equivocado, pasa tiempo con tus mejores amigos, con la gente que te quiere, y pase lo que pase, nunca dejes de creer que dejarlo era lo correcto.

En lugar de luchar por el hombre equivocado, céntrate en quererte a ti misma, en tratarte con cariño y en esperar al verdadero hombre que te mereces. 

Life is too short to waste it on men who don’t know how to treat you right, who aren’t ready to make an effort and keep their promises. Life is too short to be cruel to yourself and prevent yourself from experiencing true happiness.

Now, I know that leaving him is easier said than done and I know that you’re scared of stepping into your future without him because you’re convinced that leaving this guy will hurt you more than staying with him.

I know that it’s not easy to start living a new life and end the toxic chapter you spent so much time on.

But I promise you that you’ll end up much happier and healthier once you start focusing on your own happiness and say your despedida final to him. That you’ll feel liberated once you set yourself free from all of his toxicity.

I know that leaving this man is the last thing you want to do and I’m not here to convince you that it’ll be a walk in the park. I just want you to have faith in yourself because you are strong enough to close the doors behind you and never look back.

Strong enough to do what has to be done, even though you don’t think this way now. 

Al fin y al cabo, alejarse es la única opción real que tienes y la elección que debes hacer si quieres darte la oportunidad de ser feliz.

And I promise you that once the pain goes away, you’ll never regret doing it. Instead, you’ll see it for what it is: the best decision of your life.

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