Por qué los hombres vuelven meses después (19 razones comunes)

¿Se pregunta por qué los hombres vuelven meses después? ¿Qué fuerza les llevó a escribir ese mensaje o hacer esa llamada? ¿Significa algo o estás dándole demasiadas vueltas?

Una cosa es segura: significa algo.

Your man’s reasons could either be selfish or he genuinely wants to be with you. However, even these two categories have too many subcategories.

And, it varies from man to man, so it’s up to you to analyze your situation with the help of this article.

Por qué los hombres vuelven meses después: 19 razones

If you’re interested in knowing why exes come back into your life, consider the following reasons:

1. You’re the perfect woman.

It’s very simple. Your guy could come back because nobody else comes close. Maybe the connection he has with you is something he never experienced again.

So, he returns to your life because he feels like you’re the only one who understands him… his soulmate. He’s eager to show his real self to someone without being judged.

Overall, he feels like you’re the mujer de alto valor que siempre ha estado buscando.

He left because he tried to find it elsewhere.. until he realized he’s had it all along.

2. Sabe que aún le quieres.

Sí, a veces los chicos vuelven simplemente porque pueden. Tu chico es probablemente consciente de tus sentimientos por él, pero aún así te da por sentado.

Siempre que necesita un aumento de ego, he’s back at your door. And, since you allow it to happen, he might do it repeatedly.

Este tipo de hombre es demasiado inmaduro para una relación, and doesn’t care if he’s hurting you.

All he knows is that you will always welcome him with open arms. He likes being loved by you, but doesn’t love you back.

3. Sólo quiere sexo.

It’s sad, but possible. He either can’t find a sexual partner or is bored with the chase. So, what does he do?

He comes back to the person who’ll definitely give him what he wants.

And, since you’re a woman, naturally, you overthink. Quieres que el sexo tenga sentido, así que te convences de que él se deja llevar por sus emociones.

But, trust me… if he wanted something more than sex, he would let you know. He’s just no está preparado para una relación.

Romance doesn’t exist. You just made it up. And, you deserve more than a made-up story.

4. Los recuerdos le persiguen.

Tal vez tu ex novio vio una foto tuya en las redes sociales o un meme que le recordó los buenos viejos tiempos. Quizá pensó en un chiste que dijiste una vez y eso desencadenó todo un proceso de reflexión.

Era luchando contra sus sentimientos por ti and just HAD TO experience what you had together again. Not talking to you was something he couldn’t stand. He was ready for his fix.

But, that’s the problem. All you are to him is a fix.

Aunque en el fondo le importes de verdad, en cuanto tenga su ración de satisfacción, volverá a desaparecer porque he doesn’t want a relationship contigo.

5. You’re a challenge.

A lot of the time, a man will come rushing back to you because he knows he can’t have you.

Todos sabemos que los hombres son loco por las mujeres difíciles que siguen rechazándolas.

If he has already tried hooking up with you, but you didn’t want him or gave him mixed signals, he’ll want to try again.

He can’t stand rejection, but at the same time, he’s incredibly atraído por ti.

He loves that you’re difícil de conseguir. Y, en su mente, nada podría hacerle sentir mejor que ganarse el corazón de una mujer así.

6. Lo superaste.

This is one of the most common reasons why men come back months later – THEY JUST CAN’T STAND THAT YOU MOVED ON!

If your guy sees what a perfect little life you’ve created for yourself in his absence, he will hate that he’s not a part of it.

So, of course, he will gravitate towards you again, disrupting your peace. He’s not even serio contigo. This kind of man can’t stand being forgotten.

He comes back to remind you of his existence… to show you, or rather himself, that he’s worthy of being remembered.

7. Realmente quiere que vuelvas.

That’s right. Maybe his return isn’t any kind of self-serving game. Maybe he’s genuinely a buen hombre que quiere volver con él.

Tuvo dudas la primera vez, pero la regla del no contacto le hizo darse cuenta de que te quiere.

¿Ha observado algún indicio de que todavía te quiere? ¿Sientes que quiere reavivar vuestra antigua relación?

If you’re not sure about the answers, that’s fine. But, I’ll tell you one thing:

Confía siempre en tu intuición.

Francamente, si todos la siguiéramos más a menudo, estaríamos mejor.

8. Sus amigos le animaron.

Ah, you can never be fully immune to the opinions of other people. So, it’s quite possible your guy was told that leaving you was the biggest mistake he has ever made.

Driven by guilt, he reaches out again. But, that guilt doesn’t even come from him.

It’s all just someone else’s deed. He doesn’t think you’re the one for him – they do.

You know your guy the best. If he’s easily influenced, this might just be the reason why he came back to you.

9. His relationship isn’t fulfilling.

This one’s truly a classic. If he already has a girlfriend, but still reaches out to you, that means he isn’t quite as happy as he seems.

That’s a common reason why men come back months later.

There is something missing in his relationship… something his girlfriend can’t offer him, but you can. That may be emotional support or teasing.

Sea lo que sea, le importa y necesita que satisfagas sus necesidades. En cuanto lo haga, o bien romper con su novia or leave you… again.

10. Being a player doesn’t cut it for him.

Some men are afraid of love. They don’t like letting someone in because that means they might end up hurt.

So, they choose the easier option – casual flings that don’t mean anything.

Maybe your guy decided to hook up with random women from dating apps because he’s miedo al compromiso.

All he wanted was to have fun with one, and then move on to the next…

Si volvió a ti, probablemente tuvo una epifanía.

Se dio cuenta de que ser mujeriego didn’t make him as happy as he thought it would. He wants something meaningful after all.

Sabe lo valiosa que eres y por fin está dispuesto a entregarte su corazón.

11. He’s confused.

Men don’t always know what they want. Yours could genuinely be confundido por lo que siente sobre ti.

Maybe he isn’t even aware of his struggle, but something just pulls him towards you. He finds himself by your side without understanding what it really means.

Pero, ¿por qué está confundido en primer lugar?

Well, he probably thinks he doesn’t have a chance, but is still tempted to talk to you.

Su objetivo puede ser o no una relación contigo, pero una cosa es segura: le gustas mucho.

12. Tiene remordimientos.

You just can’t live without regretting certain choices, can you? That’s why men come back months later sometimes. They regret breaking up.

Tal vez tu chico se acaba de dar cuenta de lo genial que era su relación contigo y ahora quiere arreglar las cosas. Quiere demostrarte el gran error que cometió.

You’ll know that this is his goal if he puts in a lot of effort to regain what he lost. The amount of effort equals his love for you.

¿Estaría dispuesto a darle otra oportunidad?

13. He’s just bored.

Well, isn’t that just peachy?! A man reaching out to you because he is too lazy to start a new relationship! Imagine being nothing but someone’s entertainment.

That probably hurts a lot, especially if you care about him. But, unfortunately, you’re going to have to care about yourself more.

No matter how much you love him, realize that you are nothing to him but a way to kill his boredom. He doesn’t value what you have to offer. He just doesn’t know where else to look.

Do you really want to be someone’s option? Will you accept a guy who only gives you the mínimo indispensable?

14. He doesn’t have anybody else.

It just gets sadder, doesn’t it? The reason why men come back months later could also be a lack of female company.

He probably doesn’t have a girlfriend nor did he meet anyone new who intrigued him. So, what does he do? He goes back to someone he will surely enjoy – you.

I know a part of you is flattered, but it really shouldn’t be. This guy isn’t serious about you. He’s just using you because he doesn’t like the single life.

He left you because he didn’t care enough about you in the first place, and it’s unlikely he will care this time.

This doesn’t mean you are flawed and undeserving of him. On the contrary, he is undeserving of YOU.

Sólo debes aceptar a un hombre que venga a ti porque nadie más puede compararse; un hombre que te haga su prioridad.

15. He’s finally ready to be with you.

Just because you want a great love life doesn’t mean you’re ready for it. Sometimes, you need a second time.

The sad truth is that you can’t be in a relación sana unless you’re at peace with yourself. I mean, you can, but it will be very difficult.

Quizá su ser querido necesitó mucho tiempo para encontrarse a sí mismo primero. Quizá era demasiado emocionalmente desequilibrado, which didn’t allow him to be with you at the beginning.

Probablemente pensó que lo mejor sería ir por caminos separados hasta que se convirtiera en una mejor persona.

Y, ahora que ha crecido, por fin puede amarte como siempre ha querido.

16. Alguien hablaba de ti.

It’s always a pain when someone randomly mentions a person you once loved and lost. And, sometimes the heartbreak is so great that you decide to reach out to them.

This could be the reason why your guy couldn’t resist talking to you again. Todos los recuerdos volvieron a su mente y quiso sentir lo que una vez sintió contigo.

Si hace esto, es que le importas mucho. No hay tiempo ni distancia que pueda sacarte de su cabeza. Una sola palabra basta para que vuelva a enviarte un mensaje o a llamarte.

Still, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he will stay. Chances ARE high if he has done it this one time, but if he keeps coming back, that’s a major red flag.

Perhaps he loves you… just not in the way you deserve.

17. Su relación fracasó.

When your relationship ends, it’s natural to seek comfort. People do it by talking to friends, drinking a bit too much… or simply going back to their ex-girlfriend who will always have them.

I know this isn’t the answer you were looking for, but you might just be his consolation prize.

He probably lost the one he wanted and didn’t know where else to go. The only one who came to mind was you.

Trust me, you deserve so much more than being with someone who comes to you because you’re the only one available.

No matter how much you care about him, have enough self-control not to be there for him. Even if you’re dying to have a chat, be stronger than your desire.

He doesn’t deserve even five minutes of your time. Devote it to someone who will be with you because they can’t imagine being with anyone else.

18. He’s going through a guilt trip.

¿Te hizo daño la última vez que hablasteis? ¿Te estaba engañando?

Si vuestra relación acabó mal, es posible que aún se culpe a sí mismo. Así que, para aliviar su propia conciencia, te busca a ti.

Puede que pienses que tu ex quiere volver a estar contigo, pero si ha vuelto sólo para acallar sus pensamientos, sus motivos son en realidad egoístas.

He doesn’t care about how you feel. He just can’t stand that he feels bad over what he did to you.

If he did care, he wouldn’t be in your life again because he knows his return might ruin the peace you have created without him.

But, your peace isn’t on his priority list, even though he might convince himself that it is.

Coming back into someone’s life on a whim is never the right thing to do.

19. He’s just checking up on you.

No, the reason why men come back months later isn’t always that deep. Even if he wants to talk to you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that he holds any value to those conversations.

Maybe it just occurred to him: ”Oh, I haven’t talked to her in a while! I’ll see what she’s up to.”

Of course, there’s nothing bad with checking up on people. But, if it hurts you every time he comes back, don’t allow it to happen again.

Tu salud mental es lo primero.

Reflexiones finales

Hopefully, it has become much clearer to you why men come back months later. Every man is different, and it’s up to you to realize the motives of your ex.

However, it’s very important to be honest with yourself. Don’t paint the picture prettier than it is. Don’t mistake his attention for love.

Todos los expertos en relaciones te dirían lo mismo:

Even if it’s killing you inside, you deserve to be treated like a queen. If you’re not his priority, don’t let him be in your life any longer.

Cómo te trate es mucho más importante que lo que sientas por él.