5 señales de que eres su madre, no su novia

Las mujeres tenemos ese instinto maternal natural que se supone que es bueno, pero a veces las cosas se nos van de las manos.

En cualquier relación, la pareja debe cuidar de su pareja., but if instead of nurturing your relationship, you start nurturing your partner—you have a problem! If you are not sure whether you’re crossing the line already, read these certain signs:

Limpiar después de él

Always running after him and picking up his shirts and socks all over the apartment will make the term “hot mama” too literal.

Además, limpiar lo que ensucia cada vez que come o derrama la cerveza es malcriarlo.

He is a grown man—he can do all these things on his own!

Dejas argumentos sin resolver

Every relationship has fights but it’s crucial to solve and not bury them. If you leave an argument unresolved, the only thing you’re gonna feel is anger.

¿Recuerdas cómo nos peleábamos con nuestros padres cuando éramos niños? Ahora todo tiene sentido, ¿verdad?

En las relaciones, resolver las peleas debería ser lo contrario que cuando erais niños, porque ahora los papeles que jugáis son iguales.

Le regañas constantemente para que haga cualquier cosa

You don’t need to give him a list of chores to do like a child—do the dishes, take out the garbage, clean up your stuff.

Nagging him won’t get him to do what you want him to do, it’ll only make him feel more like he’s back living with his mom.

If he can’t do those things on his own, if he is so irresponsible, do yourself a favor—dump him.

Control absoluto

A algunas personas les encanta estar al mando.

There are limits, but if your partner expects you to be in control of everything, or if you’re doing that precisely because you don’t trust him, then you have a problem.

Para que la relación sea duradera, ambos debéis llevar las riendas a partes iguales.

You personally feel like he’s more your child than your partner

Stop for a second, and ask yourself: Is this guy really someone to whom you’re emotionally and passionately attached?

Is he really someone who you want to be next to you when you need him the most? Or is he just a needy child who can’t stand on his own feet?

One day, you’ll have your own child, and caring for two babies at once is something you have to think about very carefully.

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