Cómo hablar con un chico que te gusta y hacer que te persiga

Wondering how to talk to a guy you like and capture his attention? Worry no more because today you’ll learn how to talk to him in a way that will haz que te PERSIGA.

“Appearance is what attracts people, but personality is what makes them stay.” – Unknown

Sí, la apariencia importa, pero saber hablar con un chico es tu herramienta más poderosa a la hora de atraerlo.

You could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if you don’t know how to get a guy’s attention and keep a conversation going, your romance will be doomed before it even starts.

I used to have a hard time implementing this one into my love life, but once I did, everything changed. I’m no longer that girl sitting in the corner who seldom gets any attention from guys. They now stick to me like glue.

If you want to be that girl too, it’s time to step up your game and learn how to talk to men and make them do what you want them to do.

It’s time to show them what a beautiful and inspiring girl you are inside and out, and here’s how you’ll do it.

Sea positivo y sonría

Si quieres aprender cómo ser irresistible para los hombres y cómo conseguir que un chico hable contigo, tengo una palabra para ti: sonríe.

Every guy is a sucker for a girl’s smile and positive attitude. Instead of worrying about conversation starters, the most important thing is to ooze positive vibes.

A great conversation is all about that. It’s about sharing your inspiring energy with the guy you like and inspiring him to reciprocate and make an effort to make you smile more.

Sé que todas esas mariposas en el estómago pueden distraerte mucho, así que respira hondo unas cuantas veces antes de iniciar una conversación con él. Relájate y déjate llevar.

Hazle un cumplido

If there’s one thing that works in all social situations, it is compliments. Society teaches us that only girls love to be complimented, but this is not true.

A los chicos también les encanta oír algo bueno sobre sí mismos. Les gusta que les hagan cumplidos sobre su aspecto, su personalidad y sus habilidades (ESPECIALMENTE sus habilidades).

If your guy does something for you (helps you lift something heavy), don’t forget to commend his strength. Trust me, he will feel like the most powerful guy in the world just because of that simple gesture.

Aquí tienes algunas ideas sobre cómo piropear a un chico por su personalidad:

You’re such a great listener.

Tienes una personalidad tan bondadosa.

I’m impressed by your taste in music.

Además de piropear a un chico, hacer preguntas también es un aspecto importante de la conversación. Asegúrate de hacer preguntas significativas y abiertas que te ayuden a mantener la conversación.

Tócale (sutilmente)

Surely, your smile will knock him off his feet, but do you know what also will? Your subtle touch. Yes, men love to be unexpectedly touched by a woman during a conversation – it sparks their imagination.

Empiezan a imaginar cómo se sentiría si tus caricias esquivas se convirtieran en algo más directo. Además, te ayudan a conectar con un chico.

You see, having a conversation is not so much about saying the right words. It’s all about your body language and gestures.

Estas son las cosas que influyen en él a nivel subconsciente y le dicen lo que tus palabras no pueden.

Buscar protección

Oh, yes! In case you didn’t know, guys love girls who seek protection. By this, I don’t mean seeking protection in a desperate way, but elegantly playing damsel in distress.

This will rekindle his primal instinct to protect you. If there is a guy you’re into, ask him to defend or shelter you from some danger.

Hay muchas maneras de pedirle ayuda y protección, y él estará encantado de hacerlo por ti.

Si consigues evocar su masculinidad y hacerle sentir especial ayudándole, seguro que también te ganas su corazón.

Véase también: ¿Me gusta él o la idea que tengo de él? Dé sentido a sus sentimientos

Ser misterioso

Mystery. One of the greatest things since sliced bread. If you know how to be mysterious, girl, you’ll make him not only like you, but he will fall in love with you.

Guys don’t like girls who tell them everything about themselves on the first date. Don’t be one of those girls. Instead, be one who gives it to him bit by bit and never the whole piece.

Don’t quench his thirst and he’ll want to drink more!

When texting, don’t reply the same second. Let him think that you’re busy doing something important or texting with another guy. Make him compete for your attention and wonder what’s happening in your life.

Think of yourself as a box of chocolate. If you let him eat the whole box at once, he’ll be over it real quick, but if you surprise him from time to time with something new, he will keep coming back for more.

Es uno de los mismos atractivos trucos que usan las mujeres para que los hombres las echen de menos.

Impresiónale con tu sentido del humor

A menudo olvidamos que a los hombres también les gusta reír. De alguna manera, se espera de los hombres que sean siempre los que hagan reír a las chicas, hasta el punto de que las mujeres han renunciado a utilizar su propio sentido del humor.

And now it’s time to change that. You don’t need to be a comedian to hacer reír a un tío.

Puedes contarle algo gracioso que te haya pasado recientemente o un recuerdo de tu infancia, enviarle un meme divertido, gastarle un chiste, etc.

But, make sure to avoid becoming a girl who tries too hard to make him laugh all the time. Remember that it’s his job too (and he better be doing it well!)

Sé coqueta

Un lenguaje corporal coqueto y la elección correcta de las palabras son auténticas joyas. Para aprender a ser coqueta, tienes que plantearte la conversación con un chico como un juego.

Combina un tono de voz ronco, caricias sutiles cuando menos se lo espere, burlas con tus palabras y haz que se esfuerce por ganarse tu atención.

Be flirty with every fiber of your being and he will ENJOY it. This is what adds excitement and fun to the whole conversation. So, the more you act coy, the more he’ll fall for you.

Entabla una conversación con intereses comunes

If there’s one thing I’ve learned when it comes to mastering the art of cómo hablar con un chico, it’s to find a common ground.

You can’t expect a guy to talk to you about latest fashion shows, makeup, or similar. The best bet is to pick some gender-neutral topics like music, TV shows, or video games.

Topics to talk about with a guy should be interesting, entertaining, and engaging. Also, the more shared interests you have, the easier you’ll connect with each other.

Don’t be afraid to contradict him

Wondering how to keep a guy interested? Here’s a solution: If you really want to win his attention, you need to show him that you have an opinion and aren’t afraid to contradict him.

That’s the essence of every interesting conversation. Because good conversation isn’t only about nodding and exchanging words. It’s about having your own opinions and passionately expressing yourself.

Inevitably there’ll be something you won’t agree with him on. This doesn’t mean you should pretend that you do even when you don’t.

Instead, use this situation to playfully contradict him and give him a new perspective on things. Trust me, unless he has mental health issues, he’ll be more than amazed by it!

Sé educado y confiado

Make sure to be polite toward everyone around you and not only a guy you’re talking to. He’ll notice all that. Also, be confident!

Uno de mis mejores amigos dijo una vez: Si una chica tiene confianza en sí misma, puede ganarse a cualquier hombre en un segundo.

You show your confidence with the way you walk, talk, and smile – in other words, not only your words, but also your body language.

And if you’re not feeling extra confident because you’re usually anxious when it comes to talking to guys, then fake it till you make it! I myself faked it many times and every single time it worked.

Show him that you’re a woman who is confident in herself, who knows what she wants and how to get it. That’s the true recipe to winning any man’s heart.

Ver también: De qué hablar con un chico: 13 formas de mantener su interés

Don’t gossip or use foul language

I think there’s no need to explain this one. Gossiping and foul language are a huge turn-off for guys because such behavior is neither feminine or sophisticated.

Sé tú mismo

And remember to be yourself! Mass media often forces us to behave in certain ways and we start detaching from our true self. Don’t let that happen.

Be yourself in real life and on social media as well. Don’t pretend you’re something you’re not because you’ll turn him into a confused man.

Don’t live a fake life. Be unique and every guy will love that part of you more than anything else.

And here’s a simple trick I’ve used with great success when I’m overly anxious about talking to a guy for the first time: Pretend that he’s a family member or tu amigo.

It makes it that much easier when it comes to talking to a guy you don’t know (yet), both in person and over text.

Hazle trabajar duro para ganarte

¿Cómo hablar con un chico que te gusta de forma que le impresione? Bueno, básicamente lo único que tienes que hacer es que se esfuerce por conquistarte.

Don’t be too available. Maintain mystery, but don’t overdo a game of playing hard to get either. The secret lies in finding a balance between the two.

Make him work hard to win you and he will make an effort to show you that he’s the right man for you.

If a man sees you as a challenge, he will do everything in his power to pursue you and show you that he’s the one who deserves to be with you.

Y por si las cosas se ponen feas, aquí tienes algunos consejos extra.

Cómo hablarle sucio a un chico sin avergonzarte a ti misma

Dile todas las cosas que quieres que te haga

Hablar sucio es todo un arte. Si quieres impresionar a tu chico con tu habilidad, tienes que decirle todo lo que quieres que te haga.

I know you have that imaginary list of kinky questions to ask your partner, so now’s the time to use it.

As you’re telling him all your fantasies, make sure to establish deep eye contact – that screams confidence. You want him to see that you’re serious about it, that you really mean it.

Podrías decir algo como: “I want you to start kissing me slowly all over my body…”

Dile lo que quieres hacerle

Another great way to spice things up is by telling your guy what you want to do to him. This will drive him insane and he won’t be able to control himself (especially if you whisper it to his ear when you’re in public).

Also, you can choose to be naughty over text messages as well. If you’re wondering how to do it over the phone, here are some examples to get you started:

“When you get here, I’m going to slowly undress… but there’ll be one rule you need to obey: You can’t touch me until I tell you.”

“Tonight you’ll be my slave and I plan on doing terribly naughty things to you.”

“I want you to take your clothes off, lie down, and shut up.”

“You’re so hot. I want to taste all of you right now.”

Ver también: 400 frases sucias para ligar (la lista definitiva)

Háblale de ese sueño travieso que tuviste

I’m sure you had a couple of naughty dreams so far and now is the right time to share them with your guy. And even if you haven’t had one, you have every right to pretend you did.

Puedes empezar la conversación con algo como “I had the dirtiest dream last night… You were there with me and we were…”

En cuanto empieces a hablar de ello, te mirará como a una diosa. A los tíos les encantan las historias guarras y más si han sido ellos los protagonistas. Cuantos más detalles le des, mejor.

Acuérdate de mencionar esa ropa tan sexy que llevabas en tu sueño, porque los hombres son criaturas visuales.

Una vez que tu chico tenga una imagen vívida de tu sueño, estará más que excitado por lo que sucederá a continuación, pero esta vez en la realidad.

Comparte tus fantasías secretas con él

Muchas veces, las personas tienen dificultades para compartir sus fantasías con los demás porque temen ser juzgadas por ello.

But, trust me, there’s nothing you should be ashamed of, no matter how crazy you think your fantasies are.

Get out of your comfort zone and get naughty with your man (verbally naughty) by sharing all your secret fantasies with him. Okay, you don’t need to share all of them, but perhaps only your favorite.

He aquí algunas fantasías comunes que le ayudarán a activar su memoria:

Potencia y control

Hacer algo pervertido

Hacer algo nuevo (posturas y lugares salvajes)

No monogamia

Sharing your fantasies is a great way to spice up things in the bedroom and your relationship. Since it’s not something easily shared with others, when it is, it has the power to strengthen your trust bond.

Hazle saber que quieres tener el control

If you ask any guy out there, he will tell you that there’s nothing hotter than a girl who is in control. In order to be dominant, you need to be self-confident and know what you’re doing.

If you let him know that you’re capable of all that, he will be smitten by you. All you have to do is establish rules so that he knows what he can and cannot do to you.

Puedes decir algo como: “Tonight I’m in charge. If you try to do something you’re not supposed to, I’ll have to punish you.”

Y acuérdese de disfrutar.

En lugar de preocuparte demasiado por cómo hablar con un chico que te gusta, en lo que tienes que centrarte es en disfrutar del momento. Relájate y sé tú misma, y créeme, todo irá sobre ruedas.

Regarding dirty talk, you don’t need to force things if you don’t feel ready for it. You can start with some, let’s say, lighter dirty phrases and then switch to the heavy stuff.

Lo que importa es que los dos disfrutéis del tiempo que paséis juntos, y todo lo demás encajará. Buena suerte y ¡a por todas, chica!