Cómo ligar sutilmente como un profesional: Guía completa
Flirting is a game that not everyone knows how to play. If you’re clueless about how to subtly flirt, you’ve come to the right place.
I promise you one thing: if you read on and apply these tips and tricks, you’ll become a profesional del ligoteo. The guy or girl of your dreams won’t know what hit them once they see these moves.
¿Cómo puedo ser ligeramente coqueta?
Si quieres convertirte en un profesional del flirteo, recuerda hacerlo de la forma más sutil posible. En lugar de acercarte a la otra persona y decirle lo mucho que te gusta, mírale a los ojos, tócale accidentalmente o envíale un texto coqueto o un broma coqueta de vez en cuando.
El truco está en mostrarse lo más relajado y misterioso posible. Ser demasiado obvio o estar demasiado tenso arruinará la magia.
Don’t overthink your every move, and just go with the flow. If you’re clueless about what to do next, just listen to your gut: it always has all the answers.
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1. Don’t throw yourself at their feet
Ser demasiado obvio puede ser un gran decepción. Recuerda que a la mayoría de la gente le encanta el juego que da ligar.
Lo último que quieres es que esa persona te considere necesitado o aburrido. Hazles pensar.
¿De verdad te gustan? ¿Quieres que seamos amigos? ¿O sólo estás jugando?
Being obvious and corny is just too easy. If you throw yourself at their feet, they’ll start dándote por sentado and you’ll lose your charm.
2. It’s all in the eye contact
Contacto visual prolongado will never go out of style. You know how they say: “Eyes are windows to the soul.”
Even if you’re too ashamed to express your feelings verbally, you always let que hablen tus ojos en su nombre.
Hay dos formas de utilizar contacto visual when you’re trying to figure out how to subtly flirt.
El primer truco consiste en mirar a la otra persona profundamente a los ojos sin apartar la mirada. Eso les dará una pista clara.
Pero para empezar, quizá deberías fingir un poco de timidez. Intenta mirarlos y luego mirar hacia otro lado. Wait for their reaction – will they continue staring or will they look away as well?
3. …but also the body language
It doesn’t take a relationship expert to tell you how important your lenguaje corporal is. To be exact, it’s the key to subtle flirting.
When you’re interested in someone, your lenguaje corporal será el primero en revelar sus intenciones.
To start with, keep your legs and arms uncrossed while talking to this person. This way, you’re showing them that they’re welcome into your life.
Another good idea is to lick or bite your lip while looking them straight in the eyes. By doing this, you’re showing the other person that you’re a pro in this flirting game.
Procure estar siempre lo más cerca posible de ellos. Tu presencia física es crucial.
4. La autoestima llega muy lejos
No hay nada más sexy que confianza en sí mismo, I promise you that. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you should act like an egomaniac or as if you were better than anyone else.
The key is to find the perfect balance. Be yourself but don’t act superior.
Show them you’re perfectly consciente de tu valía. Asegúrese de que sepan que nunca te conformes con menos de lo que te mereces.
Also, you know what you want and you’re not afraid to get it. You have enough self-esteem to believe in your qualities and to know that you can have the guy or girl of your dreams if you just put enough effort into winning them over.
Nevertheless, being cocky is never acceptable. If you appear to be unapproachable, you’ll end this flirting game before it begins.
5. Mostrar interés genuino
Playing hard to get is always a turn-on. But, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t show interest in the other person.
They have to see that they have your undivided attention. You’re not obsessed with them, but you want to conocerlos mejor.
Recuerde: pedir preguntas que invitan a la reflexión siempre es mejor que una conversación trivial.
They’ll challenge the person’s views and perspectives on things, plus it’ll make you seem interesting and invested. It will also show that you respect them as a person.
6. Mantente cerca pero ten en cuenta su espacio personal
He aquí otra situación en la que el equilibrio es crucial.
Por un lado, quieres estar cerca de esa persona. Quieres que su cuerpo se acostumbre al tuyo y que estalle la química.
Pero hay que tener cuidado de no invadir su espacio personal. No todo el mundo se siente cómodo con el contacto físico.
Presta atención a su reacción. ¿Les gustas? tan cerca? ¿Son ellos los que se te acercan aún más?
If the answer is yes, you’re on the right track.
Por otra parte, si su lenguaje corporal is showing discomfort, you have to step back a little. You’re invading their personal space. Let them come to you – they’ll do it when they’re relaxed enough.
7. Los buenos modales nunca pasan de moda
I don’t care what century we’re in: good manners are always fashionable.
Of course, this is the way you should behave at all times, not just when you’re on a date. But, just in case you forgot, let me remind you of some etiqueta en las citas.
En primer lugar, preséntate educadamente cuando des el primer paso.
If you’re using frases para ligar asegúrate de no cruzar la línea. Hazlo divertido– not dirty. After all, you’re just at the beginning.
Nunca seas grosero con el personal. Muéstrales el respeto que se merecen y te prometo que tu cita te admirará más.
If you’re a man, walk the woman to the front door. Don’t push any physical contact unless she is ready.
If you’re a woman, show your man that you appreciate the fact that he’s a gentleman.
8. Don’t forget to smile
If you’re wondering how to subtly flirt, keep in mind that your facial expression is crucial here. Yes, I’m talking about that genuine smile that appears on your face whenever this person enters the room.
I know that it’s impossible for you to be in a good mood all the time. But please, leave your crankiness at home while you’re trying to attract this person.
Make sure you have a wide smile every time they see you. Also, remember to laugh at their jokes. Yes, even when they’re not funny.
Of course, I’m not talking about a hysterical laugh. Just show them that you appreciate their effort, and that their lines are finding a way to your heart.
9. Trátelos con respeto
Respect is mandatory in every relationship, but it’s especially important when you’re just getting to know someone new. You’re still not familiar with their triggers, you don’t know if they’re into dark humor, and you still haven’t learned what might insult them.
Así que lo mejor es ir sobre seguro. Olvídate del golpe bajo o chistes verdes. They’ll have no way of knowing it’s just your way of breaking the ice and they might find them inappropriate.
There’ll come a time for your (inappropriately) funny side to shine. Until then, keep it PG.
No, this doesn’t mean that you should be uptight. They’re not your boss or a teacher – it’s okay to relax.
10. …but also tease them in a playful manner
¿Cómo provocar sin pasarse de la raya? Muy sencillo. Conozca a su público.
If you’ve only just met, then perhaps too much physical contact all at once would be too much.
No hay problema. Bromea con ellos with words. After all, that’s what el arte de ligar se trata.
Haz una broma y sonríe después. Esto te resultará más fácil cuando conozcas mejor a la otra persona.
Then, you’ll know what les hace reír y lo que consideran apropiado.
11. Be yourself – everyone else is taken
No, this is not just an empty phrase – it is the only truth. We all have our set of flaws, and there is absolutely no point in pretending to be perfect just to capture someone’s attention.
Confía en mí: ser uno mismo always works. Besides, if you pretend to be someone you’re not, they’ll get right through you, sooner or later.
Lo último que quieres es que la persona que te gusta piense que eres un mentiroso.
No, you don’t have to reveal each one of your negative personality traits right at the beginning of this flirtation. But, you can show them that you’re comfortable in your own skin.
Fingir que te gustan las mismas cosas que a ellos o mentir sobre tu pasado es tu error número uno.
12. Dejar un aire de misterio
Never put all your cards on the table at once. Let the girl or guy you like figure you out for themselves. That’s the cornerstone of knowing how to subtly flirt.
Uncovering layers of someone’s personality is un juego everyone likes to play. Trust me: they’ll have loads of fun trying to figure you out.
And, in the meantime? Well, I’m sure they’ll enamorarme profundamente de ti.
13. Elogios
Tanto hombres como a las mujeres les gustan los cumplidos¡así que dispara! Don’t be scared of appearing too cheesy – they’ll just improve your juego de ligar.
¿Sabías que los cumplidos activan la misma zona del cerebro que cuando recibes dinero? Pues sí, if you’ve got something nice to say, don’t keep it to yourself.
La gente siempre recordará tus palabras y acciones amables. Puede que les alegres el día con un cumplido sincero that they’ll never see coming (but appreciate a ton).
14. Seguir sus indicaciones
¿Cómo ligar sutilmente con grandes posibilidades de éxito? Muy sencillo. Siguiendo sus señales y actuando en consecuencia.
Ser lo suficientemente valiente para tomar el relevo iniciativa is always welcome. However, if you’re not sure about what to do next, simply follow their lead.
Pay attention to the non-verbal and verbal signals they’re sending you. No, you don’t have to be a mind reader to do this successfully.
Será suficiente para sigue tu instinto. Un buen consejo es olvidarse de los deseos y las proyecciones.
Sólo porque desees que la otra persona estar contigo doesn’t mean they actually are. Also, just because you’re insecure and assume that they don’t like you doesn’t have to necessarily be the truth.
Esto es la vida real, no tu imaginación, y tienes que ser realista sobre la forma en que se comportan.
A great piece of advice I once heard is to read the room. See what your audience wants, or in this case – your potential date.
15. Tacto físico
If you’re wondering how to subtly flirt, I have a great tip for you: use the el poder del contacto físico.
But please, don’t take this as an excuse to be overly physical, and don’t get any ideas. Remember: you always have to respect the other person’s boundaries and personal space.
What I’m talking about is the art of subtle touch.
Start by barely touching their hand (as if by accident) and wait for their reaction. Will they smile or will they move their hand further away from you? Take it as a hint and listen to what they’re trying to tell you.
When you’re walking past them, lock eyes with your crush, elegantly brush your hand over their back, and move along inconspicuously.
Nunca se debe forzar, ni ser obvio al respecto. La idea de esta guía es cómo coquetear sutilmente.
The worst thing you can do is make a big deal out of it. Don’t ask them if they liked your touch or if you’re allowed to do it again – that will ruin all the magic.
16. Ser imprevisible
If you’re trying to upgrade things to the next level, you always have to leave the other person wondering.
If you become predictable, they’ll soon lose interest. Si aprenden qué tipo de mensaje de texto que esperar de ti, los mensajes de texto se volverán aburridos.
Lo mismo ocurre al hablar en persona. Si ya conocen todas las respuestas a las coqueto preguntas que te hagan, no quedará tensión ni emoción.
And, what’s the magic in that? I’m sorry, but being overly predictable makes you a lousy flirter.
Así que, en lugar de eso, piensa de forma diferente. Sorpréndeles con cada palabra o movimiento.
Por favor, ten en cuenta que esta imprevisibilidad sólo es aceptable y atractiva ahora mismo; al principio de vuestro flirteo.
Más adelante, cuando las cosas se pongan más serias, tendrás que mostrarles algunas niveles de coherencia. This person has to see that you’re reliable besides being fun.
17. Hacer un chiste tonto
Todo el mundo quiere estar con la persona que les hace reír. Therefore, it’s your job to turn into this person’s source of positive energy.
Trabaje en su sentido del humor– it will help you a lot during this flirteo. Te lo prometo: aunque esta mujer o man doesn’t like you at first, they’ll go crazy about you once they see you know how to make them laugh.
Here is a pro tip that every relationship expert will give you: If you’re not sure about a certain joke, tell it to your friends or family! That way, you’ll know whether your joke blows or if it’s ready to wow that girl or guy you like.
Además, ten en cuenta ser espontáneo en todo momento. Trust me: if you’re obviously trying to force a mediocre joke in the middle of a conversation, it’s going to fall flat.
Asegúrate de que el momento es el adecuado y de que la broma es ligera.
Of course, don’t forget to figure out the other person’s sense of humor. Not everyone is into the same jokes!
18. DON’T get too tipsy
I know that having a few shots helps you relax and it chases away the tension. But, is it always a good idea, especially if you’re not a skillful drinker?
I don’t think so. Emborracharse o incluso emborracharse en el primera cita es una bandera roja importante.
Not only will you leave a bad first impression, but it’s almost guaranteed that the person won’t want to see you again.
Por favor, ten cuidado con la cantidad que bebes. Stick to the booze you can handle, and don’t risk showing them your drunk alter ego.
Or, just don’t drink at all; it’s way better than ruining the date.
Quieres ser capaz de recordar lo que ocurrió el día anterior, ¿verdad? Estupendo. Deja las noches de borrachera para más tarde.
19. Dejar que las cosas se desarrollen espontáneamente
Tomar la iniciativa y dar el primer paso is awesome. Nevertheless, that doesn’t mean it’s okay to push your potential boyfriend or girlfriend too hard.
Deja que las cosas sigan su propio curso. Remember that you’re in the initial stage of flirtation, so don’t go around looking for answers.
Keep in mind that you’re looking for subtle ways to flirt. Así que, preguntarle a tu crush si quiere tener una relación o declarando tu amor eterno para ellos seguramente lo arruinará todo.
Show interest, but act as if this subtle flirting is something you normally do. Don’t put any pressure on either of you, and don’t act like this flirtation is the most important thing in the world for you right now (even if it is).
20. Mantener siempre una actitud positiva
Finally, be positive and have fun. After all, that’s what subtle flirting is all about.
Lo más importante aquí es disfrútalo al máximo. Don’t overthink everything, don’t be too pushy or too needy- if you do, you’ll just kill the mood.
Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is to always hope for the best. But, don’t get all disappointed if things don’t work out for the best either.
If nothing else, you’ll always know you tried your best, and most importantly – you’ll know you had the time of your life while doing it.
Cómo ligar sutilmente por SMS
Para empezar, sé juguetón y mantén una conversación lo más ligera posible. Deje el temas profundos para tu primera cita. Por ahora, Hazles un chiste gracioso, un cumplido o una pregunta burlona.
Don’t even think about writing long-essay paragraphs. You’ll just appear too pushy. Instead, keep your messages short and sassy.
También, don’t texto doble o triple ellos. Wait for their reply – they’ll send you a text back when they can.
Don’t give them the impression that you spend all of your days waiting for their text message or that you wonder if you debería haberles enviado un mensaje o no. Show them that you have a life outside of your phone – they’ll appreciate you more that way.
Véase también: ¿Se le dan mal los mensajes (o simplemente no le gustas)?
Ligar en las redes sociales
Don’t forget about social media as well.
Like and comment on their photos- that’s all part of flirting. Slide into their DMs: reply to their story with a heart emoji o simplemente envíales un sexy selfie. Recuerda: nunca envíes desnudos!
Para terminar:
Now that you’ve figured out how to subtly flirt, all you have to do is put yourself out there. Pon a prueba estos nuevos conocimientos y diviértete mientras lo haces.
Que las probabilidades estén siempre a tu favor.
