15 señales de que te está engañando
You don’t know it for sure, but does tu instinto keep telling you that something is off with your man? Trust me, I’m experiencing déjà vu right now because that eerie feeling is so familiar to me.
I was doubting my man’s fidelity, too, and unfortunately, my doubts came true in the end. Compartiré contigo los signos más definitivos he’s cheating on youpara que puedas comprobar si tus dudas son ciertas o no.
The truth is, we all want lifetime love and passion with our significant other, but most of us aren’t aware of all the hard work and effort it truly demands.
Love may have struck us out of the blue, but it’s up to us to keep it alive. But, keeping love alive all by yourself is not true love.
If one partner cheats or betrays the other one, that’s not amor verdadero either. Lack of interest, affection, intimacy, trust… those are all signs of falso amor de hecho.
No matter how much you hate cheaters and betrayal, it still happens to you. Even if you did nothing wrong, even if you didn’t deserve it, you still get cheated on by your partner.
That’s life, and unfortunately, despite the pain that all of that unfairness gives you, you simply can’t affect or change some things. You can only choose how you’ll deal with those things and whether you let them weaken you or make you stronger…
¿Cuáles son los primeros signos de engaño?
There are a few not-so-obvious signs of infidelity and, sadly, most of us aren’t able to realize them on time. Those first, let’s call them microseñales de engañonos ahorrarían muchos dolores y problemas sólo si fuéramos capaces de advertirlos a tiempo.
Evitación, ser reservado sobre su teléfono móvil, su cierre del lenguaje corporal apagado, sospechoso tarjeta de crédito facturas, cambios en la apariencia física, retiradasmás actividad y extraño mensajes de texto en su cuentas en redes sociales…
Todas esas son pequeñas cosas y las primeras banderas rojas de que tu hombre podría estar viendo a otra mujer.
At first, you won’t pay much attention to these things, but as they come piling up (and they will, trust me), you’ll be more and more suspicious of him.
You’ll even try to confront him on several occasions, but he’ll somehow manage to convince you that you’re imagining it all.
La mayoría de los hombres usan técnica de culpabilización and, unfortunately, most women fall for it. He’ll try to make you blame yourself for even thinking that he’s being unfaithful to you.
As I said, in the beginning, his cheating ways and techniques will manage to make you believe that it’s all in your head. You’ll start wondering si solo estas siendo paranoica o realmente te esta engañando en ti.
PERO, si prestas atención a estas señales reveladoras te está engañando, you’ll have a good reason to confront him, and then he won’t have another choice but to admit it all to you…
15 Warning Signs That He’s Cheating On You
Para salvarse de un pareja infiely para salvar tu corazón de un doloroso desengaño, aquí tienes los reveladores signs to look for in his behavior to know for sure if he’s cheating.
1. Se aparta de su comportamiento cotidiano
When you’re in a long-term relationship, that is, when you spend a certain amount of time with someone, you get to know the real them… the way they react to certain situations and problems.
But, when that behavior drastically changes, it might be a sign that he’s/she’s engañándote o que están bajo presión por otra cosa.
This alone isn’t a sure sign he’s cheating, but in combination with other signs, it’s definitely a good indicator that he’s being unfaithful.
The truth is, you can learn so much simply by observing a guy’s lenguaje corporal.
For example, if he keeps his posture closed while you’re talking, or if he keeps blocking eye contact or does some other unfamiliar moves while you’re talking about his potential infidelity, you should consider it as you’ve le pilló haciendo trampas.
Puede que sea un buen mentiroso, pero su lenguaje corporal definitely won’t be able to keep up with his lies. Sooner or later, his body language will uncover the real answers to every question you’re currently so desperately looking for.
2. Actúa en caliente y en frío
Cuando un el tipo empieza a actuar con frío y calor all of a sudden, it’s a huge bandera roja that something is bothering him. In combo with all these signs (or most of them), it surely means that he’s cheating.
The thing is that he’s losing the game and he’s becoming aware of it. The whole thing is getting out of his hands and he simply doesn’t know what to do about it anymore.
All of his covers are slowly blowing up, and he knows that it’s just a matter of time when you’ll discover what he has been doing behind your back.
The worst thing is that he actually doesn’t know what he truly wants anymore. His feelings are all over the place, and he’s only sinking further into the abyss of his own lies.
One day, he thinks that he loves you and that is when he behaves ‘hot’. While, on other days, he thinks he has caught feelings for la otra mujer and that makes him behave ‘cold’ towards you.
3. Empieza a esconder su teléfono
Tanto si va al baño como si saca la basura, su teléfono siempre está con él.
Él turns his phone away from you while he’s texting, he always leaves it facing the screen down, and it simply makes you think that he is trying hard to never allow you to see what’s happening on it.
In addition, he even sometimes keeps it on Airplane Mode while he’s with you.
Todos esos esfuerzos para esconder su teléfono confirme su intuición. Either he is hiding something from you or he is hiding you from someone…
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4. Cambios de humor repentinos e impredecibles
La presión le obliga a estar constantemente al límite, provocando impredecibles cambios de humor.
It almost seems like he has male PMS (if that even exists) or something like that. He’s so afraid that he might get caught that he can no longer think straight.
En algunos momentos, se enfada de forma incontrolable y luego, de repente, cambia de registro y se vuelve demasiado amable contigo. Te trae flores y hace cosas bonitas por ti, pero luego se enfada contigo.
You feel like you’re constantly caminando sobre cáscaras de huevo a su alrededor because you don’t know how to behave anymore. Te parece que tú provocas esos cambios de humor que él tiene todo el tiempo, pero ni siquiera tú estás segura de cómo lo haces en realidad.
It’s not you, it’s not about you, it’s not because of you.
Your (cheating) partner probably has too much going on in his head and in his heart and even he isn’t able to cope with it anymore.
It’s obvious that he’s tearing apart at the seams, and it’s just a matter of time when he’ll come clean to you about everything.
I know it’s hard, but you should try to control yourself and behave as if nothing is happening… as if you don’t notice what’s tormenting him. That will totally drive him crazy and he’ll snap in one moment and admit it all.
5. Busca pelea TODO el tiempo
Este es uno de los signos más evidentes definitivamente te está engañando. Sin embargo, hay dos escenarios probables en cuanto a por qué lo está haciendo.
The first one is because he’s just trying to make you romper con él. He has the guts to cheat on you, but he isn’t so brave when it comes to admitting and dealing with it.
On the other hand, it may also be because of that whole double life he’s living. He simply can’t stand that pressure anymore and he needs to vent it out somehow.
Yes, getting into a fight with you may be just a way for him to vent out all of his negative and stressful feelings. However, if you answer those provocations in the right way, it’ll only make him stressed out even more.
Cuando empiece a regañarte por algo o haga algo para provocarte una pelea, debes callarte. Deberías echarte atrás o incluso intentar calmarle.
When he sees that he isn’t able to provoke you, it’ll make him even angrier. In one of his rage episodes, he’ll come out about his infidelity without him being aware of what he is doing.
6. Cambio evidente de aspecto
Let’s put it this way, he’s trying to look great for la otra mujer because he’s still trying to seduce and win her over.
He loses weight, brings back his muscle tone, and carefully chooses what he’s going to wear, especially if he’s leaving without you.
He shaves daily, combs his hair, and always wears cologne. His bank account activities show that he’s spending more money on new clothes, colognes, and fancy restaurants.
Todas esas cosas te suenan aún más sospechosas porque reconoces el patrón. Sabes que hizo todo eso al principio de vuestra relación mientras intentaba conquistarte.
7. Pierde la noción de los detalles
A medida que pase más tiempo contigo y con su amante, los recuerdos del tiempo que pasó con ella y los recuerdos del tiempo que pasó contigo empezarán a confundirse.
Schedules get crossed, and he won’t be able to keep track of where he was on any given day.
Se confundirá y te hablará de una película que nunca visteis juntos, pero él la vio con su amante, o te propondrá ir a ese restaurante al que fuisteis hace un par de semanas (pero nunca fuisteis).
However, that confusion will be enough for you to start doubting his fidelity. As he continues to lie to both of you, he’ll only fall deeper and deeper into his own web of lies.
Sooner or later, one of you will find out the real truth, and you’ll probably wish to share it with the other one. It’s funny how his own lies will betray him and backfire on him.
8. He’s trying to make up with expensive (guilt) gifts
You were fighting for days, and now, all of a sudden, he’s nice (maybe even too nice) with you.
Se presenta en tu trabajo sin avisar y te trae flores o tu comida para llevar favorita. Te sorprende con entradas para tu grupo favorito. Te obsequia con un agradable y lujoso retiro de bienestar y spa.
It’s like he’s trying to buy your forgiveness, right? And, you know what? He probably is.
Esos regalos de culpabilidad pueden ser la prueba de una cheating partner’s guilt pero, en la mayoría de los casos, es la técnica más común que tramposos para sentirse mejor.
He may also do it because he wants to remind you of how nice and thoughtful a man you have, so you can keep that in mind once you find out about his betrayal. That’s pretty bold, right?
Don’t fall under his manipulation. Ni todo el dinero de este mundo ni el regalo más caro podrían jamás redimir el precio de un corazón roto y ¡perdió la confianza!
9. De repente hay peticiones de privacidad
De repente, necesita que se respete su intimidad. Establece límites totalmente nuevos y te pide que los respetes estrictamente.
He closes the door while he’s working or checking emails… He locks his phone and hides the password from you… And, all those phone calls he’s getting from his ‘cousin’ lately, but hangs up the moment you enter the room? Yeah, it’s not his cousin.
It’s his side chick, and it’s pretty clear he doesn’t want you to find out about her. That’s the most obvious digital signo de engaño.
Todos los cosas bonitas you used to share, he now hides. For you, it seems like he’s completely blocking you out of his life… and I know, it tears your heart apart.
You’re losing trust in your man and you have every right to do so.
Tanto si te gusta como si no, o tanto si puedes aceptar la verdad como si no, el hecho es que todas estas son pequeñas pero bastante claras señales de alarma de que tu hombre está llevando una doble vida.
Cuando amas de verdad a una persona, nunca puedes excluirla de tu vida. When you respect someone and want to build a future with them, you don’t keep secrets nor do you have some hideous privacy requests because you’re a team.
You stop functioning as the private, separated ‘I and you’ and start functioning as the beautiful, united ‘we’.
10. La desconexión emocional es obvia
On the one hand, your fights… on the other one, your doubts… it’s completely natural that all those things have started to drive you apart.
Even if you didn’t confirm your doubts and can’t tell for sure if your man is really engañándoteel hecho es que la desconfianza se está extendiendo por tu relación como un reguero de pólvora y no puedes hacer absolutamente nada para detenerla.
Te sientas y esperas a que lo queme todo.
It’s not that you’ve stopped loving him, but you’re aware that your emotions aren’t as deep and as strong as they were before.
That trust breach caused you to disconnect emotionally, and you feel like you don’t even recognize him anymore. You feel like he isn’t the man you fell in love with.
Your love and your relationship is weakening because doubts are prevailing the trust. And, the truth is, you can’t stay connected… you can’t keep loving someone you don’t believe anymore.
11. Su horario se altera
Asuntos de oficina son algo terriblemente común, y ocurren debido a la cantidad de tiempo que pasamos con nuestros compañeros de trabajo. El hecho es que la mayoría de nosotros pasamos más tiempo con nuestros compañeros de trabajo que con nuestras parejas.
However, if you’re en un relación duradera, this means you already know your partner’s work schedule.
You know when they have the lunch break, when their work starts and finishes… and even if there are some sudden changes in their work schedule, you’re the first one they’ll inform about it.
Esto nos lleva a la siguiente conclusión: si su hombre de repente se queda en el trabajo hasta tarde o se va sospechosamente mucho tiempo viajes de negocios, that could be a sign he’s tener una aventura.
De hecho, la mayoría tramposos utilizan excusas laborales para encubrir sus asuntos.
If you notice any changes in your man’s work schedule or if he uses his work as an excuse to avoid seeing you too often, you should take it seriously. Maybe he isn’t cheating, but he’s definitely desperately trying to hide something from you.
12. Su vida sexual ha cambiado
Un cambio repentino en lo que es habitual o familiar en la cama es una gran señal de advertencia de engaño.
Su hombre puede estar satisfecho con la cantidad de sexo que su amante le da, lo que provoca una falta de sexo en su relación.
Pero, por otro lado, la mayoría de los hombres experimentan un enorme subidón de testosterona, que se manifiesta como una nueva confianza durante las relaciones sexuales.
Se sienten fuertes y masculinos, como si todas las mujeres del planeta quisieran acostarse con ellos. Su ego crece día a día y, con él, su apetito sexual también empieza a aumentar rápidamente.
Así que, si notas que tu hombre está más agresivo o exigente en la cama, quizá deberías seguir tu instinto y llegar a la raíz de ese repentino cambio en su apetito sexual.
13. Empezaste a reconocer los patrones del gaslighting
Maybe you didn’t recognize it at the beginning, but you surely do now. He’s trying to stay in charge of your relationship and all this messy situation that he provoked by luz de gas a ti.
It’s just another one of his manipulative, formas de engaño to make you believe that you’re imagining things. If you fall for it, you’ll only end up apologizing to him for engañándote.
Yes, that’s how bad it may become IF you allow him to control you in this awful way.
He’ll try to get into your head and make you start questioning your own sanity. You’ll start blaming yourself for thinking that he might ever betray you.
It’ll completely undermine your autoestima. Once again, you’ll end up begging him not to leave you because of your ‘false’ accusations.
That’s only if you allow it all to him, of course. If you recognize on time that you’re being gaslighted, you’ll manage to resist it and make him feel sorry for trying to make a fool out of you.
14. Ya ha mencionado la ruptura más de una vez
Si tu chico hubiera intentado ruptura talk a few times already, it’s an obvious bandera roja que quiere terminar las cosas contigo y que he doesn’t love you anymore.
Well, of course, the reason for it doesn’t have to be a new relationship, but it’s definitely one of the probable case scenarios.
Maybe he still didn’t realize it because his feelings are mixed or because he doesn’t want to hurt you. Tal vez él todavía te ama, but he feels awfully bad for betraying you and can’t stand looking you in the eyes anymore.
Another (not so ‘good’ reason) for this may be that he still isn’t sure how the other side feels about him. He doesn’t know where he stands with the other girl, and he simply doesn’t want to lose you both.
Si este es el caso, hay dos resultados probables. Either he’ll come clean and romper contigo en cuanto la otra parte decida oficializar las cosas entre ellos.
OR, if his plans with the other girl fail, he’ll keep lying to you, pretending as if nothing happened, and praying that you never discover the truth.
That’s why you should never take his ‘ruptura talks’ lightly.
La primera vez que plantee ese tema y empiece a amenazar con una ruptura, tienes que llegar al fondo del asunto y ver por qué está pensando siquiera en poner fin a vuestra relación.
15. You just can’t keep ignoring your inner voice
Even if your man doesn’t admit it to you after you confront him, you still won’t be able to get rid of your intuición.
That voice deep down in you is telling you that your entire relationship is a steaming pile of turds… that everything you believed in was a complete lie… that the love you were ready to die for was a huge lie.
I know how hard it is to cope with these intense and overwhelming feelings. As much as you try, you simply can’t resist them, and you let those feelings consume you completely.
Te estresas y deprimes. On the one hand, you’re still not ready to let go of the man you love, and on the other hand, you know deep down in your heart it’s the right decision.
You’re aware that something bad is happening and that your ruptura es inevitable.
However, you still choose to stay in that lie for a little while longer because you don’t have the strength to give up on your love…
Listen to that inner voice, but don’t blindly follow its advice.
And, you don’t have to. You don’t have to quit on your love just because your partner had one weak moment and wasn’t able to control himself.
Hay muchas parejas que sobrevivieron a la infidelidad, recuperado después del asunto...y forjaron una relación aún más sólida después de ello. Si tu corazón se siente preparado para dale una segunda oportunidad, don’t hesitate to do so.
Después de todo, no hay absolutamente nada que amor verdadero can’t overcome or deal with.
As the family therapist, Elvina Lui, says: “Aunque es difícil, muchas parejas superan los daños de la infidelidad y hacen más fuerte su relación. La clave es reconstruir la confianza desde los escombros for both people to keep showing each other that “you are worth this, and I believe in us”.
¿Qué hacer cuando sospechas que tu novio te engaña?
Ahora, probablemente quiera saber what you should do if you find out he’s being unfaithful. Si sospechas y encuentras algunas buenas señales tu hombre te engañael siguiente paso lógico que debes dar es enfrentarte a él.
You don’t ask him directly, but you confront him with all the proof you have about his infidelity. Simplemente le pides de forma educada que te explique qué significan realmente esas cosas.
A tramposo will never confess immediately, or at least not until they’re ready for it. So, don’t expect your man to come clean to you as soon as you confront him.
Also, while confronting him, you should take notes about his body language while he’s answering your questions. If he keeps lying to you, if he keeps denying his betrayal, his behavior will surely give him up.
Dos de las más comunes por qué los hombres engañan son bajo autoestima y inseguridades.
Once they start feeling they’ve lost the validation they desperately need from their current partner, they start looking for it in some other place.
However, if a person has issues with self-esteem, that also means they aren’t able to control their body language, especially in situations that are too stressful for them.
Even if he decided to admit it all immediately, it still doesn’t mean the suffering stops there for you. The fact is that you’ll need a lot of time to accept it all and sort it out in your heart and in your mind.
Lo más importante consejos sobre relaciones lo que necesitas oír ahora mismo es que, pase lo que pase, sea cual sea el resultado de tu enfrentamiento, nunca debes culparte por nada.
You can’t blame yourself for loving a man who decided to betray you and that love you feel for him. Love is a pure gamble… sometimes you win, but there are times you’ll have to lose… big time lose.
Conclusión
I really hope you didn’t recognize any of these signs he’s cheating on you and that it’s indeed happening only in your head.
La mayoría de las parejas atraviesan fases de su relación en las que empiezan a distanciarse y, por desgracia, eso puede llevarles a tomar decisiones muy equivocadas.
On the other hand, if you did, and now you’re surer than ever that your man is being unfaithful to you, I truly hope you’ll gather the strength para enfrentarse a su tramposo.
If your doubts come true, if he admits his infidelity, don’t blame yourself and don’t have regrets.
Remember, you’re the one who leaves that relationship with your head held high.
Perdona a tu tramposo and take everything that happened to you as a huge lesson… a lesson that will guide you through the future. Don’t even think about getting revenge.
Deja todo el trabajo sucio al karma.
Now it’s time to focus plainly on yourself and grab your life by the horns. Shift all the love you felt for him to yourself, and promise to yourself that you’ll never, no matter what, betray yourself.
