21 Señales inequívocas de que tu ex quiere que vuelvas (pero no lo admite)
¿Tu ex se comporta de forma extraña últimamente? ¿Estás buscando algunas pistas claras y sutiles señales de que tu ex te quiere de vuelta? If yes, you’re definitely in the right place.
You see, in many cases when a relationship ends, there is one person who doesn’t really want things to finish. The fact is that breakup always falls pretty hard for one partner. One side will be left with heartbreak in the end and that’s almost inevitable.
It often happens that one person is still feeling the same things, but unfortunately still gets rewarded with an “EX” title.
Regardless of your feelings and no matter what you do, sometimes you just can’t keep the person you want in your life the most. I know it sucks but it’s the truth.
Pero a veces, sólo a veces, tu ex podría querer volver contigo y empezar de nuevo o arreglar lo que se hizo mal en el primer puesto.
But, they will never tell you this, and do you know why? Because they are afraid that you don’t feel the same way they do, and that is why they fear rejection.
So what’s happening is tu ex finge que te ha superado.
There’s this amazing thing called Guía del Factor Ex que te da consejos increíbles sobre cómo volver con tu exincluso si dejasteis las cosas bastante mal cuando rompisteis.
Pero no todo es blanco o negro (aún hay esperanza para ti).
Véase también: 15 señales claras de que tu ex te está poniendo a prueba (+cómo manejarlo)
How Do You Know If Your Ex Wants You Back But Won’t Admit It?
Para saber si tu ex te echa de menos y te quiere de vuelta, tienes que prestar mucha atención al modo en que se comporta en tu presencia. Cada pequeña cosa, cada pequeño detalle, incluso los que piensas que son triviales, importan mucho más de lo que crees.
Preste atención a su lenguaje corporal because it’s undoubtedly the first thing that will expose their true feelings. They’ll reach out and want to stay in contact with you and the most awkward thing is that they’ll behave way too better than they did while you were in the relationship.
Even though your ex might be avoiding telling you directly what’s going on in their mind and that they want to get back together, they sure as hell can’t avoid showing it with their actions!
Their actions reflect their subconscious, and that’s how you can know for sure what’s on their mind.
Now, doesn’t it sound great to be able to read your ex’s mind and to know what he really wants? Imagine if you could get a quick guidebook that would tell you what your ex is thinking or feeling after your breakup.
Utilice Guía del Factor Ex para borrar todas las emociones negativas y crear una nueva relación con tu ex.
21 señales sutiles de que tu ex quiere volver contigo
We might be a little bit late with that guidebook. Even if you didn’t get it at the beginning of the relationship, we’re giving it to you now.
Aquí tienes 10 sencillas pautas y signos reveladores que te dirán si tu ex te echa de menos y te quiere de vuelta!
Retomar el contacto
If you think they are talking to you or messaging you all over again because they want to tell you how mad they are, you’re wrong.
If they were that mad, they never would’ve texted you in the first place.
La única razón de que vuelvan a ponerse en contacto contigo después de el período de no contacto is that they miss you. That’s why this is one of the top 3 signs your ex secretly wants you back.
Con el tiempo, pasarán de ningún contacto a hablarte con regularidad, y te devolverán al punto de partida sin que te des cuenta.
They will look for the most random excuses to contact you like they suddenly remembered something about you two, they saw something that reminded them of you, or they’re suddenly interested in your day.
Si parece que los dos os comunicáis más de lo que lo hacíais en la relación, entonces puedes estar seguro de que este es uno de los mayores señales de que tu ex quiere que vuelvas.
Al estar constantemente en contacto contigo, vuelven a formar parte de tu vida, que al fin y al cabo es su principal objetivo.
Relacionado: ¿Me echa de menos ahora que le he dejado solo?
Actually, they’re reaching out now more than ever
It could be the case that you said, “This is the last time we will ever talk,” and you’ve ended up talking to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend again.
Si tu ex desea tenerte de vuelta, intentará que se establezca la comunicación.
Constantemente tendrán algo nuevo que decir o algo nuevo que preguntar, y esa será su manera de seguir escuchándote.
La carta que juega tu ex es acostumbrarte a sus constantes mensajes de texto y llamadas telefónicas.
This way, it’s easier to know what you want, what you need, and what you feel. This will be the essential information needed in your ex’s mission to earn una segunda oportunidad de ti y ganarte de nuevo.
Si le informas de las últimas novedades sobre tu vida, le resultará más fácil ir un paso por delante para idear un plan perfecto para recuperarte y darte exactamente lo que necesitas en ese momento.
Recordando los viejos tiempos
If you’re still in touch with your ex, that’s a big sign that things are not over between the two of you.
Otra clara señal de que tu ex quiere que vuelvas es cuando evocan tus viejos y felices recuerdos.
Usually, if your ex is trying to make you remember all the nice things you went through, it’s them waving a white flag.
Recordando la viejos tiempos es sin duda uno de los señales más grandes su ex quiere you back because if he doesn’t, he wouldn’t bother reminding you of any of the great things you did together.
Significa que están intentando alterar tu perspectiva ayudándote a borrar todas las cosas malas del pasado. Están renunciando a luchar contra ti.
También significa que quieren que olvides por qué rompisteis en primer lugar.
Cuando te hacen recordar todas esas veces que os reísteis juntos o las tonterías que hicisteis y que os metieron en problemas, al mismo tiempo están despertando el sentimiento de amor que sentías hacia ellos en esos momentos.
And once your barriers have been breached and you’ve stopped being angry, the mission your ex had is accomplished.
They’re desperate for your attention
If you noticed that your ex is trying very hard to grab your attention, it’s a pretty clear sign your ex está volviendo a interesarse por ti.
They might even seem a little bit desperate but that’s only because they don’t have the guts to admit that they still have strong feelings for you and that they want to get back with you.
They’ll do literally everything para captar su atención and make you see their true intentions. They won’t even care if they embarrass themselves in their pursuit.
You can put them on a little test just to see how serious they actually are about wanting to get back to you. Put on a cover of a cold-hearted person and don’t fall for their attempts to grab your attention.
Tranquilízate. Si tu ex sigue intentando llamar su atención even after you’ve ignored them for some time, it’s a clear sign that they’re still thinking of you and want you back.
Bringing up the ‘What if’ questions
Si resulta que tu ex quiere que vuelvas, te ofrecerá un millón de cosas que podrían ir de otra manera en vuestra relación.
They will be full of ‘what if’ questions that will make you think about your future.
De este modo, juegan con tu subconsciente al inculcarte nuevas ideas sobre posibles resultados.
They will make you think about what would’ve happened if they hadn’t made the mistakes they made, if you hadn’t pushed too hard, and God knows what else.
El único objetivo de estas preguntas es hacerte imaginar vuestro futuro juntos y para que vuelvas a dar la bienvenida a tu ex en tu mente.
Cuando cambias de perspectiva con respecto a tu ruptura, toda tu mentalidad cambia y ya no ves las cosas tan mal como antes.
Empiezas a culpar a algo o a otra persona de todo lo malo que ha pasado, lo que automáticamente te acerca a tu ex novia/novio.
Quieren hablar de la ruptura
If they say that they need to talk about your breakup just because they need that final closure, it’s perfectly normal and it doesn’t have to mean that they want you back.
On the other hand, if they ask you to meet up and talk about things that lead to your breakup, it’s a good sign realmente lamentan tu ruptura y quieres reconstruir tu relación.
¿Sabes lo que son las normas de no contacto, right? It means that you shouldn’t talk, see or text each other for some period of time after the breakup.
If your ex decides to break that silence and invites you out to talk, it’s more than obvious they’re rethinking your breakup.
Unfortunately, sometimes couples choose to avoid fighting and think that it’ll help them maintain their relationship. They stop expressing their negative emotions and things that bother them and all those things just keep piling up.
One day, all those little things that were accumulated for so long explode and destroy even the strongest relationships. That’s when couples decide para poner fin a su relación sin saber siquiera el motivo real de esa ruptura.
That’s exactly why honest and open communication is the best relationship advice for maintaining a healthy relationship.
Puede que este se parezca a tu caso. Quizá tomaste una decisión precipitada sobre el fin de vuestra relación y ahora tu ex ha reflexionado y piensa que vuestra relación merece una segunda oportunidad.
Lo único que puedes hacer es aceptar su invitación y escucharle. Quizá aún haya esperanza para vuestra relación y créeme, incluso las relaciones más dañadas pueden arreglarse si ambas partes están dispuestas a poner un gran esfuerzo en ello.
They’re drunk texting you
Creo de verdad en el viejo dicho que dice así; drunk man’s words are sober man’s thoughts. Por lo tanto, si él/ella diales para borrachos or texts you, it’s one of the biggest signs that your ex wants you back.
I’m sure that every relationship expert would agree that late-night-drunk calls and texts to exes are the worst things a person can do after the breakup.
Yes, you can and you should go out and have some fun if you think it’ll ease your pain, but try not to allow yourself to humiliate yourself in this way.
Drunk dials and texts are simply acts of cowardice. It means that your ex doesn’t have the guts to be open and honest with you, so they use this, so much easier method, to say how they feel about you and to soothe their soul.
I know that you probably think that you shouldn’t answer their calls or texts because it’ll make your situation even more awkward the next day, however, you’ll never find out if they have any drunken confessions to make if you don’t pick up the phone.
They’ll probably regret their llamadas y mensajes de texto de borrachos when they sober up, BUT you’ll regret it even more if you don’t answer their calls or messages.
They’re all over your social media
Quizá rompisteis en buenos términos y os mantuvisteis en las redes sociales, pero si notas que son muy activos, algo podría estar pasando.
You didn’t get as many ‘likes’ and comments from them while you were dating as you’re getting now. You feel like your ex is constantly stalking you.
Puedes ver cómo consultan tus historias de Instagram o cómo les gustan tus fotos en diferentes redes sociales, o incluso cómo retuitean lo que has tuiteado.
Si tu ex quiere que vuelvas, aparecerá constantemente en tus notificaciones.
If your ex wants you back, they will constantly seek your new updates and be in touch with you no matter what because they can’t imagine their life without you, and they’ll do anything para conquistarte y recordarte su existencia.
Preguntando por tu vida amorosa
You two broke up and decided to go on your own, separate ways, right? So, your ex doesn’t have any right to inquire or interfere in your dating life.
Whether you’re still single or you entered into a nueva relación, it’s definitely not something they should be concerned about.
My advice for you is to spice things up a little bit. Even if you didn’t still move on, you should hint that you’re seeing someone else. In fact, that can also be a great way to test if they want you back.
Si eso provoca un arrebato de celos in them, it’s a big sign they still love you and want to get back together with you.
Relacionado: 5 señales de que tu ex está intentando arruinar tu nueva relación
They let you know they’re still single
It’s one thing if they mention that their relationship status hasn’t changed since you two broke up while you’re talking, but it’s completely something different if they emphasize that they’re still single every time you two are talking.
That means they want you to know that they aren’t ready to see other people because there is no place for someone else in their heart. You’re still its one and only rightful ruler.
Si sacan a relucir constantemente su soltería, es una clara señal tu ex quiere que vuelvas. They clearly didn’t move on with their life and their reason is more than obvious; they still have deep and strong feelings for you.
Señales contradictorias
If your ex misses you and wants you back, they’ll probably juega al frío y al calor in the beginning. They won’t actually do it on purpose, but they’ll simply be too confused and overwhelmed by a whole range of different feelings.
One day they’ll feel that they still love you the same and they’ll want to get together with you, while the next day, they’ll think that it’s all in vain and pull back.
I know this will also be overwhelming for you. You’ll both be on a real emotional rollercoaster and the ride will be very confusing and exhausting.
However, the only thing you can do in this situation is to give both of you some space and time to think about it all in peace. I’m sure that all esas señales contradictorias se detendrá pronto, sólo tienes que darle un poco de tiempo para aclarar sus pensamientos y reconocer sus verdaderos sentimientos.
Coqueteo mega-obvio
Ligar es como una especie de elixir que mantiene joven una relación duradera y fuerte una relación a distancia. Es uno de los ladrillos para construir una relación sana.
If your ex has started to flirt with you all of a sudden as you’ve just met, I think that you don’t need any more signs. They’ll use their charm and take their flirting abilities on a whole new level.
They’ll shower you with compliments and do different kinds of stuff for you that only a true gentleman would do.
They say they’ve been working on themselves lately
You must’ve heard the saying, “The only mission your ex has after you’ve broken up is to get better looking.” It could be the case that they are trying to look better to get someone else.
También puede ser que por fin hayan decidido seguir tu consejo e ir al gimnasio. Puede ser que por fin hayan decidido cambiar de trabajo o de aspecto.
If your ex is changing the things you didn’t like that much, that’s a really big signo revelador que te quieren de vuelta.
They want to be a better person for you and also, they want to make up for their wrongdoings. They only hope that you’ll notice it and express a desire to come back to them.
Summarized, they are preparing a new terrain, so they can persuade you that it’s safe for you to come back.
They are telling you that they are working hard on themselves, and they are determined to change everything that has ever annoyed you or something you didn’t quite like on them.
Admitir la culpa
They would’ve never admitted fault. No matter what the fight was about, your ex would’ve died rather than take part of the blame.
And now that you’ve broken up, your ex has no problem with putting some of the blame on him or herself.
They admit that they were acting childish, that they didn’t treat you right, and they encourage you to blame them for everything bad that happened in your past.
De este modo, intentan hacerle saber que lo entienden todo y que están dispuestos a cambiar.
Puede que el problema original fuera éste, y puede que ahora podáis hablar como dos seres humanos decentes.
Your ex might’ve thought everything through and realized the mistakes that were made.
There’s a good possibility that they loved you madly and still do, so when they lost you, they had the time they needed to realize their mistakes.
Now that they know what it’s like to lose you, they will make sure they never make the same mistake twice, which resulted in them finally admitting some guilt.
Relacionado: Cómo vengarte de tu ex: 12 maneras probadas de hacerlo
Hablar de ti a tus amigos comunes
Hablar de ti con tus amigos también es una de las mayores señales de que tu ex quiere que vuelvas.
It’s their sneaky way to send you a message that they want you back in their life without saying it directly.
Por lo tanto, intentarán mencionarte constantemente a los amigos que compartís o a las personas con las que ambos salís a veces.
They will mention how great you’re doing, how proud they are of you, how you were the best partner they ever had.
Tus amigos te dirán todas esas cosas, y tu ex lo sabe.
It’s a perfect way to stay in your life and to show you how much they care about you without being obvious (which is exactly their intention).
Quieren pasar el rato
Esto puede ser complicado. Si tu ex quiere salir contigo, puede ser porque te echa de menos y quiere que vuelvas. Sin embargo, también puede deberse a que todavía le importas, pero sólo como amigo y quiere mantener esa amistad.
Aun así, si empiezan a invitarte a salir a menudo, entonces creo que las cosas están bastante claras; seguro que te echan de menos. Echan de menos hablar y salir contigo. Echan de menos todo de ti.
Even if you two start hanging out together too often, your ex probably won’t have the guts to admit their feelings to you. They probably won’t tell you directly that they want you back.
However, they won’t be able to affect some little things like their behavior or body language when they’re around you. And those things are precisely the ones that will expose him in the end. Pay close attention.
¡¿Tratando de ponerte celoso o permaneciendo soltero?!
¿Cuál es el estado sentimental de tu ex? ¿Encontraron un nuevo interés amoroso y entraron en una relación de rebote? ¿O tu ex se ha quedado soltera desde que rompisteis?
Si salisteis durante mucho tiempo y se quedaron solteros, podría ser sólo para que puedan descansar un poco, para disfrutar de la libertad y de la vida de soltero.
Pero si esto ocurre junto con cualquiera de los otros signos enumerados anteriormente, entonces la razón por la que están solteros es bastante obvia.
Sin embargo, si aparecen al azar en los bares a los que vas con alguna persona nueva del brazo (pero en realidad nunca lo hacen al azar), te están dando celos.
Presumen de su nueva cita, no dejan de hablar de ella, no dejan de mencionarla delante de ti, pero no porque they’re madly in love con ellos.
It’s because they’re madly in love with you, and they want to see if you still care for them enough to show some jealousy.
En cualquier caso, ambas son buenas señales de que te están poniendo lo suficientemente celoso como para reaccionar o de que tu ex te está esperando.
If there is nothing serious going on, you’re the one your ex still wants.
Arranques de celos
A very clear sign your ex wants you back is if they still can’t control their jealous outbursts when another person approaches you or starts flirting with you.
If they’re really over you, it won’t be a problem for them and they would never get jealous even if you start dating someone new. They would simply see you as a closed chapter of their life and they would move on.
The thing is that your ex didn’t stop loving you and it’s completely normal that seeing you with someone else sets them off.
Wanting to be “friends” with you
Ser amigo de tu ex es un tema que ya se ha tratado demasiadas veces.
By now, it’s not a question of whether you should or shouldn’t be—the question is whether your ex really wants to be just a friend.
There is no need to mention here that being friends with your ex almost always ends up the same way—people get back together with their exes.
Y tu ex te desea tanto como para proponerte algo tan obvio.
They could really want to have you by their side, but there’s only a slight possibility of that happening.
Mostly, exes propose to stay friends because that way they’re still in your life and getting you back is much easier.
Si sospechas que éste podría ser el caso de tu ex, puedes estar seguro de que sus segundas intenciones son algo diferentes de lo que habías pensado.
Quieren seguir siendo amigos tuyos para estar siempre en contacto contigo y esperar el momento perfecto para hacerte saber que quieren estar algo más que amigos.
Escupiendo chistes sobre echarte de menos
If your ex is making “jokes” about how they’re still thinking of you and want to get back together with you, it’s a good sign your ex wants you back. You know how that old saying goes, en toda broma hay algo de verdad.
They probably do this to see your reaction. It’s actually how they’re trying to check if you still have feelings for them.
If they get a positive reaction from your side, they’ll probably get serious and work on winning you over again.
They admit they’re still thinking of you
Even though this isn’t very likely to happen, however, if your ex admits that they miss you and that they’re still thinking of you, it’s a clear sign they want to get back together with you.
Tuvieron tiempo para pensar durante el período de no contacto and they’re probably dealing with regrets for breaking up with you in the first place.
The thing is that they’ve understood that they’ve made a hasty decision regarding your breakup and, of course, now they’ll try to do everything to fix the damage and get you back.
If their love is honest, they’ll try hard to prove it to you. They’ll also try hard to earn your forgiveness and to prove to you that they’re worthy of the second chance. That your relationship deserves to be given another shot.
The rest is up to you, of course. You’re the only one who needs to decide whether you’ll welcome them into your life back or you’ll shoot those doors forever. In fact, figuring out if your ex still loves you was actually an easy part, what follows is the difficult one.
Necesitas sentarte y tener una conversación profunda y muy seria contigo mismo. ¿Quieres consigue tu ex vuelta? Do you still love them? Do you think you’ll be able to have a healthy and fulfilled relationship again?
As a famous relationship coach, Jaime Bronstein, says, “Scan your life and see if there was ever a time or person you were with who made you feel happier than this person. If the answer is no, then there’s a possibility that he or she was your soulmate.”
If this is the case, if you’re sure they’re tu persona para siempre, don’t let them go no matter what.
You’ll overcome all those differences and disagreements eventually and you’ll be even happier this second time, but if you decide to say goodbye to them for good, there are great chances that you’ll never be truly happy again.
Reflexiones finales
Estos fueron los mayores signos tu ex quiere que vuelvas but won’t admit it. I hope this small guideline will help you clear your thoughts and finally figure out if your ex wants to reconcile with you.
Ahora, la siguiente pregunta que debe hacerse es ¿quieres consigue tu ex vuelta? ¿Es tu vida mejor con o sin ellos en ella? ¿Tu amor por ellos sigue siendo fuerte y profundo como antes?
Antes de decidirte a darle otra oportunidad a tu relación pasada, reflexiona sobre todo lo que pasó entre vosotros.
The right answer is buried in your heart. You just need to dig deep down there and you’ll find it. I’m sure your mind will oppose it, but the only right thing to do for you is to listen to your heart. It’s the only path to true happiness.
