15 señales de que le gustas a un chico autista (+consejos para salir con él)
Averiguar si le gustas o no a un hombre ya es bastante difícil, pero detectar las señales de que le gustas a un chico autista puede parecer una misión imposible.
La gente en el espectro autista are quite unique and often don’t behave the same as neurotípico personas. Esto es especialmente cierto cuando se trata de señales sociales, lenguaje corporal, expresiones facialesy otros manierismos.
With all this in mind, it’s no wonder that you’re having a hard time getting to the bottom of an autistic man’s intentions. Luckily, I’m here to help you out.
15 señales de que le gustas a un chico autista
If a man with autism spectrum disorder behaves like this, one thing is for sure, he’s crazy about you:
1. He’ll become extra nervous
When you like someone, and you’re not sure whether tú también les gustaste ruborizas o te tiemblan las manos. Esto es perfectamente normal para todo el mundo. Sin embargo, esta sensación de nerviosismo se intensifica en las personas autistas (y en las que padecen TDAH y Aspergers).
Tenga en cuenta que carecen de habilidades socialeslo que significa que contactos is not something they’re necessarily good at. Therefore, for this guy, being around his crush means stepping out of his comfort zone.
If you observe this man carefully, you’ll see that he gets extra nervous the moment you walk into the room. He gets all sweaty, has no clue what to do with his hands, and becomes tongue-tied.
Lo más importante es prestar atención a sus estímulos y movimientos repetitivos. Puede que dé golpecitos, balancee los brazos o las piernas o mueva la cabeza de un lado a otro.
2. Evitar el contacto visual
Let’s make one thing clear: not all people who display signs of autism have the same autistic traits. After all, autism is a spectrum, and it can be displayed in different ways.
It’s quite possible your autistic guy will avoid looking at you at all costs, despite having a huge crush on you. You try to maintain eye contact and give him a hint that you’re into him. However, every time you do that, he looks away in panic.
Naturally, you think that you’re doing something wrong. It’s not that he’s just not that into you – that he can’t stand looking at you – and that’s how much he doesn’t like you.
Well, I’m here to brighten your day and tell you that this doesn’t have to be anywhere near the truth. On the contrary, he is probably only panicking because he likes you so much. Merely looking at you triggers his anxiety, and that’s why he evita el contacto visual contigo.
3. …or he will awkwardly stare at you
Por otro lado, puedes estar tratando con un chico autista que sólo te mira torpemente y usa contacto visual prolongado all the time. No, he doesn’t check you out the way neurotypicals usually do.
He doesn’t say a single word, look at your lips, or smile. Whenever you run into him, he just stares at you as if he were surprised to see you.
If this is the case, it’s one of the clearest signs of his feelings for you. This man is so crazy about you that he becomes absolutely lost when you’re around.
Su cerebro se congela literalmente. Le gustaría decirte algo, pero las palabras no salen de su boca. Y así, sin más, la oportunidad desaparece. Hasta la próxima vez que te vea y, una vez más, te mire fijamente.
4. He’ll ask for your opinion
Si un chico autista te ve como pareja para una relación romántica, significa que his attraction to you is much more than purely physical. Don’t get me wrong, he’s attracted to your looks, but there is something deeper in his emotions.
He appreciates your intellect, attitude, and opinions and thinks of you as wise and intelligent in general. That is why he’ll frequently ask for your advice: because he values your thought process.
In the beginning, this could be a piece of advice on the most random and seemingly unimportant thing. But trust me, they’re important to him. This way, he’s assessing you and trying to figure out if you can be trusted.
Once he starts listening to your advice, you’re in his heart forever. Believe me when I tell you that this is a privilege not many people get.
5. He’ll offer you his help
The best part is that this guy is anything but selfish. Yes, he’ll ask for your advice or help, but at the same time, he’ll offer you his genuine support whenever you need it.
Before he actually helps you, he’ll probably ask if you need a hand. Typically, you’ll respond that you’re okay doing it yourself – not because you don’t need help but because you think it’s polite and because you don’t want to bother anyone else.
However, things don’t work that way with people who possess autistic traits. Tienes que ser por adelantado with him and admit that you need help. Otherwise, he’ll beat himself up for even asking.
But I have to warn you not to take advantage of his kindness. Just because he offers to give you a lift, help you move, or do another act of service doesn’t mean that you should use him as a personal assistant.
If you don’t like him back, just thank him for his kind offer and carry on with your day!
6. He’s overprotective of you
This guy is hypersensitive – you just fail to see it. If he likes you, he wants you to be happy all the time. He can’t stand the idea of something bad happening to you, and he is ready to protect you at all costs.
Yes, the truth is that, sometimes, he might even become overprotective. But trust me, he is behaving like this because he loves you. Congratulations, you’ve desencadenó su instinto de héroe.
Está dispuesto a pelearse con cualquiera que le mire mal, por no decir algo más. Esto incluye también a sus amigos y a la gente que le importa.
7. Reflejar su lenguaje corporal
Las personas del espectro autista tienen dificultades para expresar sus emociones y pensamientos a través de lenguaje corporal. Prefieren la comunicación directa a las señales no verbales en todo momento.
Básicamente, tu chico es muy consciente de esto. Está ansioso de que otras personas, especialmente tú, consideren su lenguaje corporal incómodo e inapropiado.
A fin de cuentas, no tiene ni idea de lo que se espera de él. ¿Qué debe hacer con las manos y las piernas? ¿Debe reírse? ¿Ha sido un comentario sarcástico o alguien ha intentado ofenderle de verdad? ¿Debe sonrojarse cuando recibe un cumplido? ¿Está bien que se toque el pelo tantas veces?
All of these things come naturally to you, and you don’t even give them a second thought. However, he has to think before making the smallest gesture.
So, in order not to chase you away with his “weirdness,” he decides to mirror your body language. Keep in mind that this is something neurotypical people do as well when they’re into someone.
But autistic people do it in a more obvious way. If you laugh, he’ll laugh. If you frown, he’ll frown, and so on.
8. Presta atención a las pequeñas cosas
Uno de los rasgos comunes de las personas autistas es que prestan atención a los detalles. Tu chico autista se fijará en cada pequeña cosa de su entorno y de la gente que le rodea. Si actúa así con personas por las que no siente nada, imagínate lo atento que estará cuando se trate del objeto de su afecto.
Es un hombre que nunca olvida tu cumpleaños, que se da cuenta cuando te cortas un poco el pelo y que sabe exactamente qué tipo de perfume te pones en cada ocasión social. Nunca le hablaste de tu grupo o tus actores favoritos, pero él lo vio en redes sociales y recordado.
No, he’s not some kind of stalker. He just wants to know more about your special interests. After all, isn’t this the way every guy who courts a girl should behave?
At first, you’ll probably be shocked by the amount of information he has on you. But if you’re smart, you’ll see it as the biggest compliment a woman can get.
9. He’s a great listener
If you ask his friends their favorite thing about this guy, they’ll all tell you that he is an amazing listener. And that really is the truth.
He is always there for others to offer them a shoulder to cry on, to give them advice, or just to hear them out. So you can only imagine how much he listens to you – the woman he is crazy about.
This man is anything but self-centered. He won’t have trouble talking about himself if asked and if he sees that you genuinely care.
In the meantime, he’ll only listen to what you have to say. Don’t worry, he doesn’t find you boring. On the contrary, he enjoys getting the chance to find out more about you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re having friend problems, if something is going on with your family, or if you’re just worried about work. It’s enough for you to call him, and he’ll be right there to hear you out. I’m only begging you not to talk about your boyfriend problems with this amazing guy because that would break his heart.
10. Sale de su zona de confort
Social events and social interactions, in general, are this guy’s biggest nightmare. He doesn’t see the point in small talk or hanging out with his coworkers during lunch break.
However, all of this changes when it comes to you. Let’s say that you two work together. Your company has an upcoming teambuilding exercise in a few days. I can assure you that he didn’t even think of attending before finding out that you would be there.
Fue entonces cuando todo cambió. De repente, está dispuesto a enfrentarse a su ansiedad social y a participar en interacciones sociales sólo para poder estar cerca de ti.
The same goes for clubbing or doing other things he’s not comfortable with. This man is literally sacrificing his inner peace to spend time with you. He’s pushing himself out of his comfort zone, and trust me, he would never do something like that if he weren’t really into you.
11. Le gusta pasar tiempo contigo
One of the biggest signs an autistic guy likes you lies in the fact that he adores spending time with you. You mustn’t forget that we’re talking about people who cherish their alone time over everything else. Usually, he enjoys being in his inner world, alone with his thoughts, and is quite a loner.
Sin embargo, todo eso cambió cuando usted entró en escena. De repente, te convertiste en su persona favorita y se dio cuenta de que prefería estar contigo a estar solo.
It doesn’t really matter what you two are doing as long as you’re together. For him, it’s enough just to sit with you in silence, peacefully, and he’ll be the happiest guy in the world. Your presence is what matters!
12. He texts you… A LOT
Okay, I’ll be honest with you: people with trastorno del espectro autista are terrible texters. No, your guy is not bad at texting in the sense of being a dry texter. On the contrary, he doesn’t know when to stop.
Uno de los primeros signos le gustas son los mensajes de texto que sigues recibiendo. Un hombre neurotípico te enviará un montón de mensajes de texto durante el día simplemente porque tiene la necesidad incontrolable de ponerse en contacto contigo.
Sin embargo, un chico autista se desvivirá por enviarte mensajes de texto. Sentirá la necesidad de compartir contigo cada detalle de su día, enviarte memes divertidos y hablarte de cualquier tema que se le ocurra.
He won’t take the hint. Even if you don’t respond, he’ll keep on texting you.
Pero aunque te aburra, intenta verlo desde otro ángulo. Es su forma de demostrarte lo importante que eres para él y lo mucho que le importas. le gustas.
13. Te deja entrar
Una de las señales más poderosas de que le gustas a un autista es que te da acceso a su pequeño mundo. Indisponibilidad emocional y la distancia son rasgos comunes de las personas con un trastorno del espectro autista.
Por lo tanto, a este hombre le suele costar mucho abrirse de verdad a alguien. Tiene un pequeño círculo de amigos con los que pasa el tiempo y habla. En cuanto a los demás, construye gruesos y altos muros a su alrededor para que nadie pueda entrar en su corazón ni en su mente.
Pero de alguna manera, you managed to break in. He shares everything with you and doesn’t hesitate to answer your preguntas profundas. Te habla de sus traumas, miedos, sueños y aspiraciones y te da pleno acceso a su vida privada.
Si es así, deberías sentirte muy especial.
14. Te pide directamente una cita
We’ve already established one thing: people with autism are bad with social cues, and they’re not pros at dating people. Your guy is perfectly aware of that.
Así que en vez de torturaros a los dos, he might directly ask you out on a date. And he’ll put a label on it right away – he wants to take you out on a primera cita que podría ser el comienzo de un potencial relación romántica.
He won’t try masking it and asking you to hang out with his friends or suggest a casual get-together. You’ll know it’s a date from the very first moment.
At first, you might find this unusual, especially if you didn’t see the signs an autistic guy likes you. However, if you think about it, it’s actually the best way to start something new.
15. Te dice que le gustas
Si su amigo autista o compañero de trabajo está en ti, don’t be surprised if they just approach you and tell you how they feel. Yes, it will be out of the blue because they never showed any hints of attraction toward you. But that’s simply how most autistic people work.
Instead of laughing it off, appreciate his courage. I mean, most neurotypical guys wouldn’t have the courage to talk to you upfront while wearing their hearts on their sleeves.
So, if you like him back (and I suppose you do – otherwise, you wouldn’t be here), don’t play hard to get. This will probably be your first impulse because you don’t want him to think of you as desperate.
Nevertheless, if you hesitate, you’ll chase him away. Just accept his invitation as openly as he gave it to you.
¿Cómo demuestran amor los hombres autistas?
Una cosa es cierta: personas en el espectro autista muestran el amor de una forma bastante inusual. La mejor señal de su amor es dejarte entrar en su espacio personal.
People with ASD have strong boundaries, and if they don’t consider you extremely important, they’ll never give you a free pass into their inner world. On the other hand, if an autistic guy loves you, he’ll want to share all of his interests with you, even the ones he considers awkward.
Maybe he won’t outright say, “Te quiero,” but he’ll definitely perform some acts of service because this is their lenguaje del amor. Esto incluye a menudo pequeños favores, como ordenar tu habitación, sacar la basura, servirte una bebida o prepararte tu comida favorita.
¿Cómo gustarle a un hombre autista?
The biggest problem with getting an aspie to like you is that they’re terrible at taking hints. This guy is not likely to read your non-verbal clues and realize you’re into him.
Por eso debes ser lo más directa posible cuando se trate de él. Sé sincera y dile que te gusta de una forma romántica. Dile que esperas convertirte en su novia.
Cuando haga el primer paso (o al menos hacer algo para ayúdale a dar el primer paso), he’ll start seeing you as a potential romantic interest. Until then, he’ll probably never think of you in that way.
Another way to get him to like you is to show interest in the things he’s interested in. However, you have to be extra careful while doing this because he might see it as an invasion of his personal space. That is why you have to find the perfect balance between showing him that you want to enter his world while respecting his boundaries.
¿Cómo ligan los autistas?
La mayoría de las personas con TEA declararán que they’re completely unfamiliar with the concept of flirting. While neurotypical people usually flirt without even being aware of what they’re doing exactly, spontaneous flirting is nearly impossible for people with ADHD or ASD. They simply don’t feel the need to flirt.
Sin embargo, cuando se acercan a alguien, suelen hacerlo a través de redes sociales. It’s easier for them to initiate contact outside live interacciones sociales.
Por lo tanto, si obtiene el la frase más cursi para ligar from your autistic friend or coworker, know that they’re actually doing their best to flirt with you.
Para terminar:
Ver las señales de que le gustas a un chico autista no es la única garantía de que ambos cabalgaréis juntos hacia la puesta de sol, hacia vuestro final feliz. Tengo que advertirte: salir con un chico autista es todo un reto.
You’ll have to learn his love language, adapt to his social skills and special interests, get used to his touch sensitivity and sense of humor, and put in a lot of effort before figuring him out and learning how to deal with him.
What I am trying to ask you is to think things through before engaging in any kind of relationship with him. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that he’s not worthy of your love. On the contrary, he definitely is.
I’m just asking you not to give him any false hope if you’re not certain that you have what it takes to go through with this relationship. Don’t make him think that his feelings are reciprocated if you’ll break his heart along the way.
Trust me, he’s the last person who deserves that. If you do, you’ll be responsible for the emotional meltdown that comes afterward.
On the other hand, if you decide to jump into this adventure, I promise you that you’ll have the time of your life. You’ll feel more loved and respected than ever.
