19 Señales alarmantes de que a su marido le gusta su compañera de trabajo + cómo ponerle a prueba
Déjeme adivinar. Su marido ha estado actuando de forma extraña últimamente y usted no está muy segura de lo que le ocurre exactamente (o a su matrimonio).
Perhaps you’re no longer intimate as you were before, your marriage stagnates in every aspect, or your husband is spending more time at work than usual.
¿Qué está pasando aquí exactamente?
¿Necesita arreglar su matrimonio? ¿Le pasa algo a su marido? ¿Ha conocido a otra persona? ¿Cuáles son las señales de que a un marido le gusta una compañera de trabajo?
Maybe you’re overthinking things but maybe you aren’t. How will you know for sure? Here’s how.
Below you’ll find all the obvious and not-so-obvious signs husband likes coworker. We’ll also go through the signs of guilt by a marido infiel. Espero que estés preparado.
19 Señales de que a tu marido le gusta tu compañera de trabajo
Constant business trips, spending more time at work, neglecting you and your marriage… These are just a few signs that your husband might like his coworker more than what is appropriate If the majority of these signs resonate with him, then you know it’s time to have a serious conversation with your husband:
1. Pasar cada vez más tiempo en el trabajo.
Pasar de repente más tiempo en el trabajo que antes es la BANDERA ROJA número uno de que algo no va bien con tu marido.
Spending time at work has suddenly become his favorite activity (if it can even be called so) and every time you ask him about it, he has a “valid reason” why he has to work long hours. Esas razones válidas son probablemente excusas poco convincentes.
I’m sure you’re familiar with those famous movie scenes: A married man comes home late almost every single night. What does his wife start to think? That he’s having an affair, of course!
Sin embargo, siempre existe la posibilidad de que realmente esté haciendo algo relacionado con el trabajo y no tenga nada que ver con que le guste su compañero.
2. Viajes de negocios y reuniones frecuentes.
What’s the perfect cover up for spending time with his female colleague? Business trips and meetings, of course!
Si sospechas que éste es el caso, entonces su relación laboral podría haber escalado hasta convertirse en una aventura en toda regla. Busca siempre cambios en su estilo de vida, personalidad y comportamiento.
Los viajes de negocios frecuentes y repentinos o trabajar más horas que antes son señales de alarma que quizá debería investigar.
3. Esforzarse más en su aspecto laboral.
Perfumes caros, ir al gimnasio con regularidad, cambiar de estilo, cortarse el pelo.... If these things don’t sound like cheating at work, then I don’t know what does.
It’s not really about him doing these things but about this SUDDEN change in his behavior.
Why didn’t he put in extra effort to impress you? Why would he all of a sudden decide to look at his best and put so much effort into his appearance?
Men don’t do it for no reason. It’s evident that he wants to impress someone. That someone could be his colleague. Why would he want to impress her? Because he likes her.
4. Comparar a su compañero de trabajo contigo (sutil o directamente).
Here’s the thing. When we like someone, we subconsciously start comparing them with all the other people in our life. If he likes his colleague, chances are he’ll compare you with her in a direct or subtle way.
Por ejemplo, si te comportas de una determinada manera, te dirá que su colega se comportaría o haría algo diferente (normalmente mejor que tú).
Evidentemente, ve a su compañera de trabajo como una pareja potencial y por eso la compara contigo. Su mente está preocupada por analizar tu personalidad y comportamiento con los de ella. He might be even convincing himself that he’s more compatible with his coworker than you.
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5. Su coche rezuma perfume femenino.
Have you ever paid attention to the perfume smell in his car when he returns home from work? If he’s doing something behind your back with his colleague, his car might reveal his sneaky nature.
If you notice any suspicious perfume smell in his car (and you know it’s not his or yours), then you have every right to suspect there is something going on between him and his colleague.
Perhaps he’s cheating you with a coworker or just offers to give her a ride home. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know for sure.
6. Evita mencionarla.
One of the subtle signs that he might be into his female coworker is when he avoids mentioning her. Let’s say that he’s talking about every single one colleague in his company (including his boss) but he never mentions that one specific lady.
¿Por qué?
Maybe because he likes her and he knows that he couldn’t look you in the eye when mentioning her. He doesn’t want you to start suspecting something because his body language might tell you more than his words.
7. Nunca te pedirá que le acompañes a eventos de trabajo.
¿Te ha pedido alguna vez que le acompañes a una fiesta de la oficina o a otros actos relacionados con el trabajo a los que se permite llevar a su otra mitad?
Si él nunca lo hizo (y usted sabe que tuvo la oportunidad de hacerlo, entonces este podría ser uno de los signos marido le gusta compañero de trabajo.
Obviously, he doesn’t want his female coworker (read: the object of his affection) to see him with you. Perhaps he told her that he’s single and he wants to keep it that way so that he can continue doing things behind your back.
8. 9. Otros compañeros le hacen bromas y se burlan de ella.
¿Ha oído alguna vez a sus otros colegas burlarse de él o hacer bromas sobre otra mujer? Esa mujer podría ser también su colega.
Créeme, los compañeros de trabajo masculinos nunca se burlan sin motivo.
Piensa en ellos como chicos en el instituto. Cuando a un chico le gustaba una chica determinada, le tomaban el pelo por ello. Sometimes this behavior continues even when they’re supposed to act mature.
Siguen burlándose de sus colegas masculinos, sobre todo cuando notan algún señales de afecto de una compañera de trabajo hacia su colega.
Así que, si oyes que algo así ocurre o si alguien te lo cuenta desde la oficina, tienes todo el derecho a empezar a cuestionar sus motivos.
9. Él y su teléfono se han vuelto inseparables (sobre todo por la noche).
Does he have that goofy smile every time he’s texting with someone on social media? Does he have lots of late-night phone calls?
Memoriza estos consejos sobre relaciones: Opposite sex friendships in a workplace are really rare. If he tells you that he’s texting his friends aka coworkers, ask him their names.
Que de repente tenga una colega mejor amiga en el trabajo podría ser una de esas amistades inapropiadas estando casado. If that is the case with him, then it’s essential to establish límites con respecto a los amigos cuando se está casado.
PRO TIP: Asegúrese también de comprobar códigos de mensajes de texto del cónyuge infiel.
10. Muestra un comportamiento defensivo.
¿Se pone a la defensiva cada vez que le preguntas por su extraño comportamiento o por qué se queda en el trabajo hasta tan tarde? El comportamiento defensivo es definitivamente una de las señales de que a un marido le gusta una compañera de trabajo.
¿Por qué se pondría alguien a la defensiva si cree que no tiene nada que ocultarte? Piénsalo.
Cada vez que empiezas a cuestionar su comportamiento, se siente amenazado de que descubras la verdad. That is why he immediately starts defending himself. He’s doing that because he knows he’s guilty and his subconsciousness is eating away at him.
11. Acting differently when she’s around.
The easiest way to find out whether your partner has an affair with a coworker is by observing his behavior when she’s around him. If he likes her, he won’t be able to stop smiling when being in her vicinity.
También será más consciente de sí mismo en su presencia. He might even start fixing his appearance (his hair, tie, or shirt). He’ll do that because he’s focused on impressing her.
Pay attention to all those and similar things and you’ll notice any change in his behavior. If he’s acting differently around her, then you know she’s the reason for that.
12. Sabe mucho de ella.
Si tu maridito sabe demasiado de su compañera de trabajo de lo que debería, también es una señal de alarma.
Does he know her favorite food, the name of her pet, who her best friends are, or some personal info he normally shouldn’t know?
Knowing a lot about someone always means one thing: INTEREST. If he wasn’t interested in her, he would never bother remembering all those things about her, right?
When we like someone, we focus on absorbing as much details as possible about them. Maybe that’s exactly what he’s doing right now.
13. He’s neglecting you in every sense of the meaning.
Si a un hombre le gusta otra o te engaña, te descuidará en todos los sentidos. Esto significa que ya no iniciará el acto sexual y dejará de prestarte atención.
Cuando un hombre deja de hacer cosas por ti or stops expecting things from you, it means he’s giving and getting it back somewhere else.
This might also be followed by the following famous excuse: “I’m so tired lately.” Yes, maybe he’s “tired” of hanging out with his female colleague all the time. Right?
14. Tu casa ya no es su lugar feliz.
If he’s evidently unhappy every time he comes back from work, it’s a clear sign that something’s not right. Tu casa debe ser la suya, tu refugio seguro y tu lugar feliz.
If it is not, it could be that spending time with her outside work hours means more to him than spending time with his significant other – YOU.
15. He’s not that happy about the idea of you meeting her.
Have you ever thought about meeting this female colleague he can’t stop talking about? Si lo hizo y nunca le gustó su idea, entonces ésta es también una de las señales de que a su marido le gusta una compañera de trabajo.
He doesn’t want you to meet her because this would only mean one thing: You would figure out that he actually likes her more than just a friend or a colleague.
Because of that, he’ll keep making excuses why you can’t meet her. He will tell you that she’s sick or that he’s on vacation, or even that she got fired recently. Any excuse is better than telling the truth!
16. Le está estrictamente prohibido visitar su lugar de trabajo.
His workplace is like his man cave. He’s so protective of it that he openly and literally forbids you to go there. A mí, esto me huele a cartel de asunto laboral.
What if you need him in case of an emergency and he doesn’t answer your calls? Logically, you will visit his workplace to find him. Wait, you can’t do that because he doesn’t want you to go there.
Visiting his workplace shouldn’t be that much of a big deal for someone who has no secrets (or side chicks).
17. Doesn’t share work-related things with you any longer.
Detente un momento e intenta rebobinar el marco temporal. ¿Compartía contigo más cosas relacionadas con el trabajo en el pasado que ahora?
This could also be one of the signs your husband likes a coworker. He doesn’t want you to be updated on his work situation.
He doesn’t share anything with you because he’s scared that he might tell you something he shouldn’t. He’s scared that you might connect the dots and catch him out. So, he chooses to remain silent.
18. Woman’s traces in his belongings.
¿Te preguntas cómo saber si tu marido te engaña con una compañera de trabajo? Presta atención a cualquier rastro de mujer en sus pertenencias.
By this I mean things like lipstick on his collar, locks of hair on his clothes, his clothes being soaked in a woman’s perfume, and similar.
Traces of a woman in a man’s belongings are always a sign of a red alert. It means that he doesn’t only like this female but he’s actually spending time with her outside the workplace.
19. Nunca te presenta a ninguno de sus colegas.
Looking for more signs of a cheating husband at work? You don’t need to be a relationship expert to figure this one out. If someone doesn’t want to introduce you to his or her colleagues, then something’s fishy.
For every action, there is a reaction. For every suspicious behavior, there is a reason behind it. There’s a reason why he never introduces you to his colleagues.
Chances are high that it’s one of these two things:
• He likes his coworker.
• He’s already cheating on you with his coworker.
Véase también: 15 señales del síndrome del marido miserable (+ consejos para superarlo)
¿Cuáles son los signos de un marido culpable?
Los signos de un marido culpable incluyen echarse la culpa, actuar de forma distante, colmarte de atenciones y quejarse constantemente.
Un marido culpable podría estar implicado en un aventura emocionalo una combinación de ambas. He aquí algunos indicios signos de culpabilidad de un marido infiel:
1. Cambio de culpas.
If a man (or a woman) accuses you of cheating and you know you aren’t guilty, then chances are high they are THE ONES who are cheating on you.
Los tramposos suelen recurrir a este método llamado echar la culpa a otros. Te acusan de las cosas de las que ellos son culpables. They do this to justify their actions by creating an imaginary narrative that you’re the one being unfaithful.
Básicamente, te están diciendo: “You’re probably cheating on me and that’s why I feel no guilt of cheating on you as well.” Saben que no es cierto, pero siguen haciéndolo para intentar sentirse mejor consigo mismos y con sus actos.
2. Actuar a distancia.
If your husband is suddenly acting distant, it is a sure sign of his guilt. He can’t deal with the fact that he’s a legit cheater and he can’t look you in the eye.
He’s acting distant because your presence makes him feel guilty about what he’s doing behind your back. He knows he doesn’t deserve you and that’s why he refuses to be close to you.
It could also mean that he’s aware of the bad situation at work as well. Chron explica cómo afecta el engaño al lugar de trabajo diciendo: “Extramarital cheating at work can disrupt workflow, lower morale, diminish productivity and damage reputations.”
Tanto estar en casa como en el trabajo le hace sentirse nervioso e inquieto. La culpa penetra cada fibra de su ser.
3. Prestarle demasiada atención.
¿Sabías que prestarte demasiada atención de repente también puede ser una señal de alarma? Hacer algo en exceso siempre es señal de que algo mayor está pasando en el fondo.
Your husband didn’t choose to suddenly become the best husband in the world overnight. Well, don’t get me wrong. Sometimes they do convert into the best husbands in the world but oftentimes it’s because they feel guilty about something.
¿Se arrepiente de haberte engañado? Is he paying you special attention because he’s actually feeling guilty about being a terrible husband?
That’s a lot to process but take your time to find out what the truth is.
4. Quejarse constantemente de ti.
Si tu marido se queja constantemente de ti, podría ser para justificar su engaño. Cuando una persona se siente culpable por haber hecho algo, también siente el impulso de justificarlo.
Una forma de hacerlo es haciéndote sentir que hay algo malo en ti. If he’s complaining about every single little thing you do, he’s doing it to let you know that you’re not such a good partner.
In his head, he’s giving himself a green light to continue doing what he’s doing (read: cheating on you). How lame, right?
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PÓNGALO A PRUEBA: 3 cosas que debe hacer si sospecha que a su marido le gusta una compañera de trabajo
A todas las mujeres nos gusta jugar a detectives (sobre todo cuando se trata de infidelidades). Disfrutamos siguiendo rastros y descodificando su lenguaje corporal. Si sospechas que a tu marido le gusta una compañera de trabajo, aquí tienes las mejores formas de ponerlo a prueba:
• Invite your “enemy” for dinner.
Yup. You read it right. I suggest that you invite your husband’s coworker for dinner only to see his reaction. ¿De repente parece confuso o amenazado?
If yes, then you know there’s probably a reason why he’s acting that way. Obviously, he can’t invite a colleague he likes for dinner in his own home to sit with his wife. Or can he?
• Say something insulting about her and watch his reaction.
Cuando a un hombre le gusta una mujer, se vuelve sensible a su reputación. Si alguien dice algo malo de ella, se pone inmediatamente a la defensiva. Así que puedes utilizar esto a tu favor.
Puedes decir algo insultante sobre su compañera de trabajo y esperar su reacción. ¿La defiende? If yes, he’s doing it because he cares about her. Every other husband would just nod at what his wife says about his coworker (only to avoid confrontation).
If a husband starts actively defending her, there’s probably something he’s not telling you about her.
• Suggest going on a double date.
I know this sounds creepy (the same level of creepiness as in inviting a coworker for a dinner), but it’s worth a try! Suggest to your husband that you should go on a double date with his coworker.
Esto significa que tenéis que encontrar una cita adecuada para su compañero de trabajo. ¿Le hará gracia la idea de que su compañero de trabajo esté con otra persona en su presencia? Ouch, chico, ¡eso dolerá!
Or, will he become determined to sabotage your idea of a double date with some pro excuses? Hmm…
• Try one of those spy apps.
Spy apps allow you to track your husband’s online and offline activities on a cell phone. They give you access to his call logs and text messages, so you’ll know for sure whether you’re tratar con un marido infiel o no.
Estas son algunas de las mejores aplicaciones gratuitas que puedes probar: ClevGuard, Hoverwatch, uMobix. Jugar a detectives nunca ha sido tan divertido, ¿verdad?
O siempre puedes hablar con él.
If you’re not interested in looking for signs husband likes coworker or testing your husband but you want to directly confront him regarding your suspicions, then DO IT! Talk to him about it, and most importantly, pay attention to his body language.
A husband who knows that he’s guilty of something will start muttering, cross his arms, and be unable to look you in the eyes. If it turns out that he likes his coworker and is having an affair with her, then it’s time to do something about it.
¿Deberías romper con él (léase: divorciarte)? ¿Debería buscarse otro trabajo?
I’m not here to tell you what you should (or shouldn’t) do if you find out that your husband is cheating on you. Every situation is unique. In my personal opinion, a woman should never tolerate a man who is cheating on her.
Here’s one more opinion: A woman should never tolerate a man who is cheating on her if he doesn’t show serious signs of remorse.
Un hombre que no está interesado en conservarte no sentirá la necesidad de compensarte por sus errores. Un hombre así no merece estar contigo. Y punto.
