Véngate de tu narcisista con estos 7 contragolpes eficaces

If you’ve ever been rota por un narcisistaentonces sabrás lo profundas que pueden llegar a ser las heridas que te infligen.

Saben qué decir y cómo actuar para que te enamores de ellos.

Y una vez que te tienen bajo control, sólo puedes esperar salir de allí con vida.

You know what it’s like to be manipulated and taken advantage of better than most people do.

You know what it’s like fighting for your sanity and well-being and what it takes to run from a person with narcissistic tendencies.

¡Felicidades!

Algunas personas son capaces de olvidarse de todo para empezar de cero y centrarse en el futuro.

But some people just can’t forget about the ordeal the narcissist put them through.

It’s hard to put these things behind you because it took a toll on your psyche.

Te destruyó mental y físicamente y fingir que nunca ocurrió es casi imposible.

If you’re still struggling with las secuelas de salir con un narcisista, I’ve got a solution for you.

Aquí encontrarás las mejores formas de vengarte de tu narcisista y darle donde más le duele.

These are 7 extremely effective counterblows for your narcissist, to show him you haven’t forgotten what he did and you’re here to take back your life!

1. Reflexiona y piensa con calma cuál es la mejor estrategia.

Unless you’re in the right headspace for revenge, nothing good can come of this. Collect your thoughts, heal your heart and only then are you ready to figure this shit out.

Revenge is not for those who are still suffering, it’s for those who want the other person to see what they put them through.

Firstly, don’t act out of anger or frustration. Wait for those feelings to wither and only then figure out what you want to do and how to accomplish it.

Don’t rush into it unless you’re really over it. A calm head always gives you the upper hand!

2. Deja de lado tus propios sentimientos negativos

If you’re still only thinking about how badly he screwed you up and how much you want him to suffer the way you did, you’re only going to react hastily and learn to regret it.

Tienes que ser capaz de olvidar tu odio hacia este hombre para poder pensar racionalmente en esto.

Estar emocionado y quieto un desastre te hará caer en su trampa y sufrir el doble.

If you’re still raw from the experience, wait it out. He’s not going anywhere and if you’re truly set on getting back at him, you’ll be glad you waited for the right time.

3. Centrarse en sus temidas inseguridades

He’s never going to show this side to anyone but every narcissist has his vulnerabilities.

Todo narcisista es profundamente inseguro y actúa como lo hace para compensarlo.

And that’s why you need to focus on this vulnerable side if you want to hit where it hurts the most.

Tú sólo le has servido para subirle el ego, así que sin él no tiene nada de lo que alimentarse. Explota sus defectos e imperfecciones y señálalos tan a menudo como puedas.

Narcissists crave compliments, so when you stop giving them and instead focus on his vulnerabilities, you’ll see how easy it is to bring him down.

4. Darle a probar su propia medicina

Este es el método más sencillo, ¡pero el más eficaz! ¿Cómo te ha tratado? ¿Te ha tratado con frialdad?

Si es así, ¡haz lo mismo con él! ¿Te ignoró cuando necesitabas su atención? Si es así, haz exactamente lo mismo.

Si él jugó con tu cabeza, juega con la suya. Piensa detenidamente en cada pequeña forma en que te hizo sentir inútil y recíprocamente.

If you keep doing it, he’s bound to crumble. After all, he’s only human and there’s only so much he can take before he starts feeling what you felt. (And thank God for that.)

5. Prestarle un poco de atención

A narcissist craves attention and he’s used to getting it. So give it to him but in bits and pieces.

Make him see he’s got your attention and then suddenly blow him off and leave.

Listen to his shit and keep nodding your head and then suddenly realize there’s somewhere you need to be.

Cut him off in the middle of it so that he can’t help but need more.

De esta forma, depende de ti y te necesita and you’re the one in charge.

You decide just how much attention he’s getting on which day and I’m pretty sure it’s always going to be simply not enough.

6. Crizarlo en público

Be smart about this. Don’t overdo it because then it will be too obvious you’re on a mission to destroy (j/k).

When you’re in public and there are people around, take the opportunity to slightly humiliate him in front of them.

A narcissist needs approval and validation, so when he’s made a fool of in public it sets him back big time.

Use his ego against him and be subtle. He’ll feel inferior to you and everyone around him.

7. Make him see you don’t need him anymore

Esto es lo que más le dolerá. Necesita que le necesites. Cuenta con que dependas de él.

And once you show him you’re no longer under his spell, he’ll be desperate to get you back as soon as possible.

Prove to him you don’t really love him. Make him see you only pretended to have feelings and now you’re here to take it all back.

He’ll be caught by surprise and won’t know how to react.

If he doesn’t have your love and attention, he really doesn’t have anything and you finally win the war.