A few days ago, he was the most charming man in the world both in real life and in the virtual one.
His texting skills were truly remarkable and he would never forget to send you an emoji to make his texts look even more interesting.
He would tell you about his day, his passions, and his plans, making you feel as if you were an important part of his life even if you two just met and started dating.
And then, all of a sudden, you look at your cell phone and your anxiety multiplies with every minute of you waiting for him to text you back.
Minutes, hours, days, weeks, and even months go by, and he still didn’t text you back. You decide to double text him or triple text him (if that term even exists), and still, nothing changes.
Now, the situation is even worse because you have tons of unanswered messages and he might start to think of you as being a desperate, nagging woman, or Lord knows what. (God, I hate men and overthinking.)
The only thing you can think of is: Why in the world did he stop texting me suddenly when we were doing just fine? What happened? What changed? Have I done something wrong to make him run away from me or are there some other legit reasons for him being distant all of a sudden?
So many questions, but not a single answer to alleviate your worried mind. If it means anything to you, I’ve been through the same situation multiple times so far, and here’s what I’ve learned from it.
When he stops texting you suddenly, it doesn’t mean that you’ve done something wrong.
This is probably the hardest thing to accept.
When a guy you really like and have great chemistry with all of a sudden stops answering your texts, you can’t help yourself but think that you’re the one to blame for it.
Let me tell you something.
In the majority of cases, this has nothing to do with you. No, he didn’t stop texting you because you annoyed him with your texts or said something inappropriate that made him mad.
He didn’t stop texting you because he wants you to suffer for some reason. There are so many factors that influence someone’s decision to become distant.
Perhaps he’s busy at the moment and forgot to tell you that.
Maybe he thinks by telling you that he’s busy, you’ll think that he’s just playing with you, and that’s the reason why he decided to stop texting you at the moment without telling you why.
Scrolling through your chat to figure out what you’ve done wrong WON’T help. It will only make you feel even more confused.
You can only guess what’s going on in his mind, and jumping to conclusions is out of the question.
I want you to know that wasting your time deciphering why he stopped texting you all of a sudden is not a solution to your problem.
Of course, it would be ten times easier for you if you knew exactly why he stopped texting you, but you can never know for sure until he tells you.
So, until he tells you what exactly is going on in his head, here are some possible reasons why he stopped texting you all of a sudden (but don’t jump to conclusions yet):
- He’s busy at the moment
- He’s only interested in something casual
- He’s already taken
- You’re always the first one to text him
The last time a guy I’ve been texting with for a long time stopped texting me suddenly is because he was too busy at the moment. Yup.
I spent weeks worrying about what happened to him and why he suddenly decided to delete me from his life.
After some time, he told me that he wanted to focus on his studies, so he didn’t text anyone, not only me. SERIOUSLY?
The one thing I still don’t understand is why he didn’t tell me that? I’m definitely not one of those people who would still continue texting him even if he specifically told me that he doesn’t have time for it.
Why don’t guys just say what they REALLY mean and how they really FEEL for once in their life?
Is it really easier to ignore someone and risk losing them from your life than to tell them that you’re just too busy to text them right now?
I guess we’ll never know the right answer to this question. (Okay, now give me some time to come to my senses because the recollection of this event has really pissed me off.)
The second and the third reasons are pretty much obvious, so I won’t even comment on them (I don’t want to risk another virtual breakdown).
But, I have the urge to say something about the last one. If you’re always the first one to text him, this is a huge red flag.
One of the biggest reasons why he never texts you first (but always responds when you text him) is because of his low effort.
If a guy can’t EVER find time to text you first, you should refrain from initiating texting for some time to see if anything changes.
Actually, this is one of the best things to do when he doesn’t text back for days as well, not only when he doesn’t text first.
What to do when he doesn’t text back for days?
So, as you’re sitting next to your cellphone and expecting him to text you back any second or minute, you might be wondering what exactly to do in this situation.
To spare you the trouble, here’s one thing that you should NEVER do: DON’T TEXT HIM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.
Many girls (including my past self) think that by double texting a guy, you’ll remind him that you’re still alive and that you’re still waiting for his reply (I love the fact that this sentence even rhymes).
No, you won’t remind him to text you back, and he will be even more reluctant to reply to you. Why? Because, in a way, you’re forcing him to do so.
So, what is the best thing to do when he doesn’t text back for days? The best thing to do is to HAVE FUN and make sure HE knows it.
By doing this, you’ll let him know that you don’t care whether he texts you back or not and you’ll be equally happy with or without him. If a man knows that, he will be more than happy to text you back.
One of the best things to do when he doesn’t text back for days is to focus on yourself instead of wasting your time thinking about why he hasn’t texted you back.
When a man sees that you’re a confident, independent woman and that you have more important things to do in your life than worry about him texting you, he will be more than happy to text you back.
That’s the only recipe that works for sure. If you don’t trust me, you can try both ways.
You can try thinking about him and texting him every day of your life until he decides to reply (or block you).
Or you can focus on living your best life until he comes to his senses (or figures out whatever he needs to) and decides to text you back.
So, when he finally texts you back, there are two things you can do:
a) Reply to him and ask him to explain what took him so long (the latter is optional)
b) Ignore him for the rest of your life (or for some time only to give him a taste of his own medicine)
Whatever you choose to do, I’m sure you’ll make the right choice.