If you ever felt lost in your role as a wife, not knowing how to make him happy and improve your relationship, this is for you!
Women and men are different in terms of their needs and ways of thinking, so we often don’t realize what they really want and expect from us.
I’ve been there, confused and not knowing how to navigate these new waters. What does he really want? How can I make him happy but still not lose myself in the process?
It’s important to know that being a devoted wife doesn’t mean forgetting about yourself or not staying true to yourself. It’s just about creating a better environment for everyone.
You need to realize that understanding a man’s needs is like unlocking a secret weapon to an amazing marriage you’ll both be satisfied with! And trust me with this one, because I’ve seen it all!
After years of being married, insights from my friends, family and even dating experts, I learned there are 5 simple ways to improve your marriage and become the woman of his dreams!
1. Let him take the lead!
I’ll be honest with you, I’ve always been a control freak. So naturally, I felt the need to control my marriage as well or as some people say be the one to wear the pants in a relationship.
However, I learned that acting that way is not good for either of us. Letting him take the lead shows him you trust his skills and decisions but also lets you be in your feminine energy. It’s a win-win situation!
This has been a game changer for us and brought balance and respect to our marriage. Men simply love to be our heroes but also need appreciation for what they do for us, so don’t forget about that!
2. Show appreciation and be respectful
You love it when he’s thankful for everything you do around the house so it doesn’t go unnoticed, right? Well, he loves that too!
Don’t only show appreciation for big gestures, but small ones as well. If he takes the trash out without you having to nag him about it, thank him!
I realized that once I started showing appreciation and happiness when he’s doing those small things, like bringing home flowers or cleaning with me, he does them even more often because he sees how much it means to me.
The same goes for respect! You need to let him know you value his opinions even when you don’t agree with them. Besides this, always respect him and don’t do something you wouldn’t like him to do!
3. Make your house a home
More women need to realize that although house chores are the responsibility of both partners, they are the ones responsible for making their house a home.
Since we all love spending our time in the home decor aisle at Target, this shouldn’t be a problem! Make your home a place you are always happy to come back to, like your own peaceful haven.
But don’t think it’s only about decorating your place with candles and family pictures. It’s also about filling your home with love, positive energy, and peace.
4. Be his port in a storm
Life can be hard. However, everything is a bit easier when you have someone you can rely on during those times. Sometimes he’s stressed about work, maybe there’s family drama, or he’s worried about some big decision.
No matter what the situation is, you always need to be there to listen to him and support him. He needs to know he can always come to you when life gets hard and you’ll be his safe place.
I used to brush my husband off whenever he talked about work problems thinking it’s no big deal since everyone experiences it.
Only when he finally became too overwhelmed and opened up, I realized he was under too much pressure. Once I started to be more understanding and take him seriously, our bond became so much stronger!
5. Don’t be stingy with affection and intimacy!
Sometimes couples lose a spark that keeps their marriage alive, especially if they’ve been together for years.
It’s important to know that this is a foundation for a healthy relationship and it should always be your priority. And no, I’m not only talking about having fun in the bedroom. Affection can be shown in many ways!
Cuddle on your couch, hold hands while you’re walking, and give him lots of hugs and kisses whenever possible! I think people forget about these fundamental things after some time, and that’s a huge mistake.
You’re not doing all of this for him, you’re doing it for yourself too. Of course, everything goes in both directions, and he should also reciprocate and be a good partner as well. Don’t be anyone’s doormat, but show love where it’s deserved.