10 cose che i narcisisti non fanno mai

Si leggono i segnali di allarme ogni volta che si apre un articolo sui narcisisti. Si legge di come riconoscerli, di quali sono i loro tratti e che sono maestri di manipolazione, inganno e così via.

A narcissist will do this and that—they lie, manipulate and act to be something they are not. But isn’t it almost impossible to recognize a narcissist by the things he does because as I recall, the most common warning sign is that they pretend to be something they are not?

Come si può sapere se stanno fingendo di essere buoni o se lo sono davvero?

Poiché ingannarvi e convincervi di una falsa verità è praticamente la cosa migliore che fanno, questo non è un buon modo per far saltare la loro copertura ed essere sicuri che siano narcisisti.

Ma quello che si può fare è cercare le cose che un narcisista non farebbe maicome qualcosa che non è coerente con la loro personalità, qualcosa che coinvolge l'empatia o la cura per gli altri.

No matter how good of an actor he is, a narcissist will never do something that doesn’t concern him, something that doesn’t benefit him.

Here is where you can catch a narcissist off guard because they won’t expect you to look at things from that angle. Here is where they will definitely make a mistake because they can’t help themselves.

They can act all they want but they can’t act emotions and they can’t fake good deeds. It’s against who they are and how they think.

Here is a list of things that will help you blow a narcissist’s cover—a list of things a narcisista non lo farebbe mai:

1. Odiano perdere il controllo

 

Narcissists like acting like they own you, like they are your master. They like to think that you’re completely incapable of doing anything without their supervision or their help.

Ma per individuare un narcisista basta vedere come si comporta quando perde il controllo, quando non è più padrone della vostra vita. Se il controllo diminuisce e voi rinsavite, loro vanno completamente fuori di testa.

They’ll become angry and upset and you won’t know the reason why. If this is the case then you can be sure that his behavior is an indicator of a narcissistic personality.

2. Non mostrano mai chi sono veramente

 

When you first meet them they are perfect, maybe even a bit too perfect, which should be suspicious right from the start. They’ll hide their manipulative behavior by pretending to be sweet and kind.

They will reveal their true colors but only later when it’s too late for you to walk away no strings attached.

3. They don’t let anyone prove them wrong

 

Una delle loro armi più forti è l'atto di manipolazione, quando cercano di convincervi di cose che non sono reali, che non sono mai accadute.

Even if they are caught lying to you, they won’t let it go. They’ll stick to their version of the truth.

Having a discussion with a narcissist is just a waste of time. You won’t win, that’s for sure, you can only get hurt in this painful process.

Alla fine, vi manipoleranno per convincervi a comprare la loro storia, anche se avevate ragione fin dall'inizio.

Correlato: 52 cose manipolatorie che i narcisisti dicono durante una discussione

4. Non si scuseranno mai

 

Not only that they will manipulate you into thinking that you’re wrong but they will truly believe that they are right.

Pensano di essere incapaci di commettere un errore perché ai loro occhi sono la pura perfezione.

Even if they make a mistake, you won’t hear an apology. In their mind, everything that goes wrong around them is someone else’s fault and never theirs.

5. Non vi perdoneranno mai

 

Their expectations is the only thing that matters. And if you fail them, if you don’t live up to what they expect from you, they will never let it go.

Even if you say that you’re sorry, it won’t cut it.

Ogni volta che litigate, in qualche modo riportano la discussione a quando avete fatto qualcosa di sbagliato e, nonostante le scuse, vi sbattono in faccia quell'errore. Non lasceranno mai perdere.

Quando devono scegliere tra il perdono e la vendetta, scelgono sempre la vendetta.

6. They don’t have an equal

 

Nella loro mente, non c'è nessuno migliore di loro. Nessuno è intelligente o bello come loro.

Sono semplicemente il riflesso della pura perfezione. Sono al di sopra di tutti gli altri.

Quando si vede una persona così sicura di sé, bisogna capire che c'è qualcosa di terribilmente sbagliato. Nessuno dovrebbe avere un'opinione così alta di sé e tutti hanno delle insicurezze.

That’s your huge, red, warning sign right there—his gigantic ego.

7. Non mostrano mai empatia

 

Other people’s suffering or happiness, whether it’s a good or bad feeling, has no effect on narcissists. They are unable to understand feelings.

The only thing they care about is themselves. They are extremely insensitive and they won’t think twice about saying something hurtful to anyone because they don’t care how that person is going to react or feel afterward.

Don’t confuse honesty with lack of empathy. Because even when you have to be brutally honest, you’re not going to be indifferent to that person’s feelings.

8. They don’t listen

 

They will pretend to listen to you until you shut up, and that is when they are going to blurt out everything that is on their mind. What you’ve said doesn’t interest them at all.

This happens because they don’t respect you or anything that’s on your mind. The only important thing is what they think and how they feel. Others don’t matter.

9. Non sono educati

 

It doesn’t matter whether they are rude to a stranger on the street or your friends—narcissists can’t be polite because they don’t care about other people’s feelings.

They will act rudely and be inconsiderate to the people you love because those people don’t mean anything to them. The only person who matters is the narcissist himself.

10. They don’t give compliments

 

They don’t want others to feel good about themselves. They want others to feel like crap so narcissists can feel better, greater and more important than them.

That’s why they never give compliments, they just want to get them. If you get a compliment from a narcissist, you should really look into it, because it’s probably just a tactic for something far more serious.