10 modi di comportarsi quando si incontra il proprio ex

Interrompere la comunicazione dopo aver rotto con qualcuno è importante, altrimenti non riuscireste mai a dimenticarlo.

Ma a volte questo non è possibile. A volte si è costretti a passare del tempo con lui o a vederlo di tanto in tanto.

This sucks but you have to deal with it and do the best thing you can. You have to keep it together and act according to the situation you’re in.

You mustn’t let your emotions rule you, you should go with your reason and that is not the easiest thing to do.

Quando si incontra il proprio ex, la sensazione di rifiuto si fa sentire, ci si sente automaticamente feriti e si hanno dei flashback di come è andata a finire.

This doesn’t only hurt emotivamente ma fa male anche fisicamente.

Per fortuna, ci sono alcuni consigli che possono aiutarvi a controllarvi e ad apparire tranquilli e praticamente indifferenti:

1. Essere freddi

Although you’re falling apart on the inside, never let the man who broke your heart see that. Never show anyone that you’re hurting. If you run into him, looking however you’re looking, act surprised and somehow happy that you have run into him.

Ask him how he’s doing and where he’s been but keep the conversation short. If you prolong it, you’re risking your self-defense mask falling and revealing how you’re really feeling. Be the better person by acting polite and when you’re finished, move along.

Potete piangere a casa per tutto il tempo che volete, per sfogarvi.

2. Prendere la strada maestra

You’ve probably been thinking about all the nasty comebacks to say to him if he tries to apologize to you. That may satisfy you for a minute but you’re not going to achieve anything.

You’re still going to feel like shit because you’ve been hurt. That’s why what you should do is take the high road and accept his apology.

 

Nothing else will change how you feel, especially if you’ve been cheated on.

3. Pianificare una riunione

If you know that you’re going to run into each other, the best thing to do and the most mature and responsible thing to do is set up a meeting with him.

Ditegli tutto quello che volete dire e cercate di parlarne apertamente per evitare lo stress di incontrarlo con un gruppo di amici o colleghi.

This way, you’re going to avoid the uncomfortable situation you and the people around you would be in.

 

4. Ignorarlo

If there are still too many feelings involved, if your eyes still tear up when you think of him, it means that you’re not ready to confront him.

It’s easy to ignore him if you’re not forced to see him, even if he contacts you. Just don’t answer the texts and calls and you’ll be fine.

But if you’re in a situation where you have to be close to him, the best thing to do is ignore him. Rather pretend that he is not there than saying something you’ll regret once you stop being emotional.

5. Don’t talk to him drunk

That is a bad idea. If you see each other on a night out, don’t get beer muscles and say something you’ll regret the next morning.

In questa situazione, potete solo peggiorare le cose. Quindi, ascoltate i vostri amici che probabilmente cercheranno di dissuadervi e di farvi guardare dall'altra parte.

Also, don’t try to make him jealous and end up with a random guy just to ‘hurt’ him. The only thing you’re going to hurt is your pride.

Se vuole davvero parlargli, le suggerisco di farlo da sobria.

6. Don’t hide

If you saw him, he saw you. That’s a fact. So don’t risk looking like a complete idiot and run away from him.

Utilizzate invece il consiglio di prima, salutatelo e mantenetelo breve, quel tanto che basta per non cadere a pezzi.

7. Don’t brag

Se vi sforzate troppo di parlare di voi stesse, è probabile che lui non se la beva. Certo, il successo è la miglior vendetta che si possa avere e la cosa migliore da fare è sbatterglielo in faccia.

But if you shout it from the rooftops, you’re taking it a bit too far. Being humble about your accomplishments is the best thing you can do. The fact you’re doing so well will find its way to him and he will find out. Don’t worry about that.

8. Don’t talk about the past

If you bump into each other or if you plan a meeting, don’t talk about the past. It will only agitate the both of you and it will probably end up in a fight.

You’re with him to make peace and to have some kind of closure. Do it the honorable way.

9. Prepararsi alla cosa peggiore che possa accadere

Prepare yourself for seeing him anytime and anywhere. You won’t probably look your best because that’s how it usually works but don’t let that get to you or affect how you’re feeling or what you’re going to say.

Being unprepared can affect you and you can say something you didn’t want to. So prepare yourself for the worst case scenario and have a special speech for those situations. As long as you stick to the script, you’re going to be fine.

10. Don’t make him the center of your universe

You’ve broken up and frankly, he doesn’t deserve even one bit of attention you’re giving him. The best thing to do is completely let go of him and move on with your life but that is easier said than done.

Don’t obsess about if you’re going to see him or where you are going to see him because you’re only extending your pain. You’re only making things worse for yourself.

You’re pressuring yourself and then when you actually see him, you’ll be a mess. You’re going to bump into him sooner or later and when you do, be prepared.