10 messaggi che i ragazzi inviano con significati segreti (non cascarci!)

È risaputo che gli uomini possono essere maestri nel parlare senza peli sulla lingua e che le donne fanno la loro parte in ogni tentativo. 

Some fail miserably, but some (if they’re persistent and charming enough) get the occasional green light.

Especially if you’ve just started seeing a guy, texting him can be quite a hassle. And I mean it only in the sense that you still don’t know his abitudini di invio di SMS abbastanza bene da decifrare alcuni testi discutibili.

Now, women can turn into real detectives when need be, and nobody is spared if a woman’s sixth sense is telling her to correre verso le colline.

Ma ci sono casi occasionali (durante le magiche fasi iniziali di una relazione) in cui si vuole dargli il beneficio del dubbio.

E se alcuni uomini se lo meritano (perché fanno davvero sul serio), è anche spiacevole (ma reale) che questi uomini siano una razza in via di estinzione.

Since the odds are not in your favour, let’s check out some shady texts a guy will typically text you. Is there a hidden agenda or does he actually mean what he says?

1. ‘’Hey, you up?’’

Yup… but you can keep on cruising. A text that comes at a late hour along the lines of this means nothing more than what it says. The guy is bored out of his mind and can’t be bothered to say anything more meaningful.

He’s probably hoping for a quick reply and a possible hook-up.

If he actually cared about you, he’d say something like: ‘’Yo, having trouble sleeping, thought of you to keep me company. Any chance you’re up?’’

Questo testo ha una maggiore profondità e non è indicativo della sua noia o di una telefonata di piacere.

Il precedente significa che vuole solo perdere tempo e che probabilmente sei stata la terza persona a cui ha mandato un messaggio.

2. ‘’Sorry about yesterday. I got really busy.’’

If he suddenly just stopped texting you without offering any explanation or reasoning, it probably means he got a better offer elsewhere. We’ve ALL used this excuse, so we all know what it really means.

Se vuoi messaggiare con qualcuno, fallo e basta! Ma se si riceve un'offerta migliore o ci si stufa di loro, si evita di rispondere e si ripropone questa scusa raffazzonata in un secondo momento.

The truth is, if he REALLY got busy, he’d just tell you and then get back to you as soon as he was done. But if he just vanished without a trace, he really doesn’t care much.

3. ‘’You’re a really great person.’’

Si tratta in pratica di un calcio nello stomaco. Che cosa in realtà means is: ‘’You’re okay… just not for me.’’ 

With this text, he’s letting you know there’s nessun futuro con lui. È (forse?) cercando di risparmiare i tuoi sentimenti con questo sottile rifiuto.

Don’t prolong the inevitable—just stop texting him. You’ll find someone who’s upfront and genuine.

4. ‘’Haha, that’s cool.’’

In translation – I have nothing else to say. When he texts this after you’ve texted a lengthy paragraph, it means he is totally not interested in continuing the conversation.

Basically, he’s just replying to be polite, but that’s it. The conversation has reached its peak (at least for him), and he’s moving on.

5. ‘’Hey, we should totally chill soon!’’

Notice the vibe of this text. It’s not serious. It’s not particular. It’s rather vague, and as he would say it – chill.

Which means he literally has nothing better to do, so he’ll probably suggest meeting up the same night (asking you last minute) and will do everything he can to get lucky.

It doesn’t mean anything more than that because if it did, he wouldn’t text you last minute, and he would use different phrasing.

This is just a casual text to see if you’re up for some fun, but nothing more than that.

6. ‘’Haven’t heard from you in a while. What’s up?’’

Probabilmente stava sfogliando i suoi vecchi messaggi, ha visto il tuo nome da qualche parte nel mezzo e ha deciso di testare le acque.

Chances are, he just wanted to see if there’s a chance of reigniting the old flame.

Ma potrebbe anche significare che vuole sinceramente vedere come stai, soprattutto se avete dei trascorsi.

It all hugely depends on how the rest of the conversation plays out. You’ll know it better than anyone if he’s just trying to get with you or simply chat with an old friend/girlfriend.

7. ‘’Can I take a rain check? Something unexpectedly came up.’’

If this were true, he would just specify what came up. If he remains this vague, it probably means that he’s either no longer interested or that he’s going out with someone else.

Questo è un tipico scusa per cancellare i piani all'ultimo minuto. Don’t fall for it, unless he offers a real, believable reason.

8. ‘’Can I ask you something unusual/weird…?’’

Okay, so this basically means you’re about to be weirded out. He is going to ask something he definitely shouldn’t be asking and is using the ‘’unusual’’ card per farla franca.

Fate attenzione a quello che potrebbe succedere dopo e sentitevi liberi di smettere di mandare messaggi se supera il limite (cosa molto probabile).

9. ‘’What’s the deal with <insert the name of your friend>?’’

He’s interested in your friend. It’s as simple as that. If a guy asks you this, he’s clearly trying to get the approval to go after your friend, while subtly letting you know you’re off his list.

Un ragazzo che ha il coraggio di fare una cosa del genere probabilmente è comunque un idiota, quindi stategli alla larga e avvertite la vostra amica!

10. ‘’I’m not sure right now. I’ll let you know.’’

You’re asking him if he’s free to do something together, and this is his reply.

Translation – he wants to see if he’ll have better options, and if all else fails, he’ll go with you.  He is basically keeping you as a backup plan.

It’s not the worst thing in the world, but it definitely sucks.

Find a guy who’ll be thrilled to spend time with you and not someone who’ll keep you on the back burner.

That’s just shitty behaviour and a slap in the face. Steer clear.