4 motivi per cui torni da lui quando sai di meritare di meglio
Vi siete mai trovate in una situazione in cui continuate a tornare dallo stesso uomo che vi ha ferito più di una volta?
Quando continuate a rimanere intrappolati in una relazione che sapete essere destinata a fallire e a non avere alcun futuro?
The worst part is that you don’t know why you’re doing this. You don’t know how you manage to drag yourself into this endless circle without a way out every single time.
Well, we’re here to give you answers to your questions. Here is exactly why you’re going back to him, even when you know you deserve better and why you shouldn’t continue doing so.
You’re afraid you’ll end up alone
Even though this is the last thing you’d probably ever admit, the truth is that you’re probably stuck in this toxic relationship because you’re used to having a man next to you, even if that man is giving you a bad headache.
You’re terrified that you’ll end up alone for the rest of your life if you cut all ties with him and that is not something you’re ready to do.
Single life might look scary for someone who’s been in a relationship for a long time but trust me—it’s way better than it sounds. More importantly, it’s way better than a crappy relationship.
Inoltre, essere single e sentirsi soli sono due cose diverse.
Even if you leave this guy’s sorry ass, you’ll still have your job, friends, hobbies and family. And most importantly—you’ll still have yourself.
Avete una storia insieme
The number one reason why people constantly go back to their toxic partner is the fact that they’ve been together for ages. And this is exactly what’s happening to you—you’re sorry for all the years wasted next to this guy but you don’t want all of your time or efforts to be in vain.
Well, let me tell you something: you don’t have to be with a guy just because avete una storia insieme.
Ricordate che il vostro presente e il vostro futuro sono sempre molto più importanti del vostro passato.
You can’t live off memories forever and it’s time you stop hoping that things will go back the way they were in the beginning because they obviously won’t.
Pensate che il prossimo ragazzo sarà come il vostro ex.
Un altro motivo per cui potreste essere tornare con il proprio ex even though you know you shouldn’t is the fact that he has managed to persuade you that you’ll never find someone better.
Questo è esattamente ciò che fanno i manipolatori emotivi.—they don’t give up until they convince you that you’re non destinato ad essere amato and that you’ll never find anyone else.
Avendo ricevuto questo insegnamento durante la vostra orribile relazione, date per scontato che ogni ragazzo che incontrate sarà proprio come il vostro ex.
So why bother even trying to look for someone new, if you’re just going to go through the same shit you’re already going through?
Well, let me tell you that none of this is true. Not everyone is like your ex and if you constantly go back to this guy, you’ll never have a chance to meet someone more suited to you.
You’re afraid of the unknown
Despite all of his misdeeds and everything you’ve been through next to this guy, we have to admit one thing—è familiare a voi.
With time, all of these hot and cold games, all of these break-ups and getting back together, have become your comfort zone and you don’t have the strength to abandon that.
You’re anxious about getting di nuovo nella piscina degli appuntamenti and you’d rather stay next to an old enemy than look for someone new.
Se non altro, sapete cosa aspettarvi da questo ragazzo, conoscete i suoi difetti e i suoi lati negativi e nulla di lui può sorprendervi.
You don’t think that you’re mentally strong enough to put up with someone new and to put the effort into getting to know him.
Big mistake! With this attitude, you’re only hurting yourself.
After all, what do you plan on doing? Keep on living like this forever just because you don’t have what it takes to jump out of your comfort zone?
Invece di essere un codardo, prendete la vostra vita nelle vostre mani e fate la cosa coraggiosa e giusta!
